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@dragynwing.bsky.social

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Today is a good day to end Citizens United ⚠️🚨adhd posting ahead🚨⚠️ I'm doing my best goddamnit Cringey mom to 2 kids

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🏳️‍🌈 Mother Of Exiles 🏳️‍⚧️ @dragynwing.bsky.social · Dec 4

Defending the oppressor while identifying as a victim and demanding change is endemic among liberals.

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🏳️‍🌈 Mother Of Exiles 🏳️‍⚧️ @dragynwing.bsky.social · 5h

In my early sobriety, I was inspired by listening to a lot of AA speaker tapes and the core of sharing strength and hope really resonated. And so many stories were funny, tragic and profound all at once.

Clancy I is a fav storyteller.

Thank you for your support and encouragement! It means a ton!

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Aaron Rupar @atrupar.com · 9h

Pam Bondi claims Trump "absolutely has the right" to invoke the Insurrection Act

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🏳️‍🌈 Mother Of Exiles 🏳️‍⚧️ @dragynwing.bsky.social · 9h

Oh, that last part really resonates for me! The weaponization of emotions is something men love to lay at our feet. Meanwhile, women can't speak directly because men value their egos over good-faith communication.

We aren't ALLOWED to speak their language lest we be understood.

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🏳️‍🌈 Mother Of Exiles 🏳️‍⚧️ @dragynwing.bsky.social · 9h

Some healing doesn't have an end but a tapering work, too.

🏳️‍🌈 Mother Of Exiles 🏳️‍⚧️ @dragynwing.bsky.social · 9h

It may be a memory but it's still real. The love and contentment we felt are real even without that person. They weren't the source. They couldn't be. That's what I keep close to my heart.

My capacity for love and contentment isn't bound to someone else. It's mine, if I can hold it gently enough.

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🏳️‍🌈 Mother Of Exiles 🏳️‍⚧️ @dragynwing.bsky.social · 10h

I needed this with all my soul

What’s the Hold Up Pod Dan @jacketdan.bsky.social · 1d

He did it again for the 5 year anniversary

🏳️‍🌈 Mother Of Exiles 🏳️‍⚧️ @dragynwing.bsky.social · 10h

Rough hibernation ahead, eh?

🏳️‍🌈 Mother Of Exiles 🏳️‍⚧️ @dragynwing.bsky.social · 10h

This effing paper, man.

The New York Times @nytimes.com · 10h

A team of researchers analyzed the anatomical dimensions of an infamous imprint on a Chicago sidewalk, sifting through photos and measuring mammal specimens in museum collections to put what they were seeing in context.

Their conclusion? The Chicago Rat Hole was not made by a rat.

The Chicago Rat Hole Was Not Made by a Rat

A statistical analysis of an infamous indentation in a sidewalk suggested a 99 percent likelihood that another rodent made the mark.

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🏳️‍🌈 Mother Of Exiles 🏳️‍⚧️ @dragynwing.bsky.social · 10h

The way I internalized this has negatively impacted my life in significant ways. Always internally questioning my tone lest I be called out as "bitchy."

Have a mental health disgnosis on top of that and yeah. The eggshells feel like glass.

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🏳️‍🌈 Mother Of Exiles 🏳️‍⚧️ @dragynwing.bsky.social · 10h

I have two I keep in my fanny pack because they make good fidget toys.

🏳️‍🌈 Mother Of Exiles 🏳️‍⚧️ @dragynwing.bsky.social · 10h

Look at Rowdy! He can tangle with the best but he doesn't have to because he's so charming.

I made that up. But bet I'm right.

His ears are beyond adorable.

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🏳️‍🌈 Mother Of Exiles 🏳️‍⚧️ @dragynwing.bsky.social · 11h

It genuinely surprised me, haha. I'm self-conscious because I'm such an over-talker and this means a lot to me. :)

🏳️‍🌈 Mother Of Exiles 🏳️‍⚧️ @dragynwing.bsky.social · 11h

I haven't written creatively since high school and I have trouble journaling (side effect of a self-validation deficiency issue lol!) so I just end up rambling here but I like the idea of essays instead of the daily reflections I tend towards when "journaling."

Thank you for the compliment!

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🏳️‍🌈 Mother Of Exiles 🏳️‍⚧️ @dragynwing.bsky.social · 11h

The last part, I think, is where I can lean in and grow the best. I trust my judgment when it comes to people. I have a good idea of who genuinely wants to be helpful and who genuinely can be helpful and while both are needed, I need to engage more with the latter. Talk is cheap but also, I'm broke!

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🏳️‍🌈 Mother Of Exiles 🏳️‍⚧️ @dragynwing.bsky.social · 11h

And really, it comes back to me deciding to seek voluntary treatment. To do The Work be it sobriety from booze or my therapy. That moment I cross over into actively asking for help and engaging it. Feels like jumping out of an airplane. I wanted to do this. I trust the partner I chose to jump with.

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🏳️‍🌈 Mother Of Exiles 🏳️‍⚧️ @dragynwing.bsky.social · 11h

catch my tears.

I spent a lotta time looking at the mess. Documenting it. Laying blame. Wondering which plate finally did me in. Investigating new methods of plate spinning. The desire to fix mess is natural. It's what the caregiver is supposed to do. Is that me? The caregiver? I didn't know how.

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🏳️‍🌈 Mother Of Exiles 🏳️‍⚧️ @dragynwing.bsky.social · 11h

The crash was inevitable.

I'd already chosen survival so what else could I do? Can't drink. Won't die.

My white knuckles were ached and bloody. Every plate was shattered. I couldn't spin them anymore. Even if they survived, there were my hands.

They couldn't grasp anymore so I used them to

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🏳️‍🌈 Mother Of Exiles 🏳️‍⚧️ @dragynwing.bsky.social · 11h

That's the whirlpool that has been lying under a lot of the invalidating experiences I've been having. It never mattered how many plates I could spin, drunk or sober. It was never enough. I was spinning my plates and the plates of people who depended on me to Be A Certain Way.

The crash was awful.

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🏳️‍🌈 Mother Of Exiles 🏳️‍⚧️ @dragynwing.bsky.social · 11h

Asking for help is being vulnerable. If I'm vulnerable I'm not strong. If I'm not strong I can't support those who depend on me and I have to stay strong or get strong when I'm struggling or no one will ever trust me and if no one trusts me, why did I even quit drinking? Why did I bother surviving?

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🏳️‍🌈 Mother Of Exiles 🏳️‍⚧️ @dragynwing.bsky.social · 11h

Wanting to be helped, being willing to be helped, and asking for help is a process I am still not comfortable moving through. I get stuck somewhere after the willing part and before the asking.

My shame, doubt, and fear freeze me in place. I'm losing control. My voice wasn't enough. I'm not valid.

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🏳️‍🌈 Mother Of Exiles 🏳️‍⚧️ @dragynwing.bsky.social · 11h

The feeling I get when I have to contact my attorney is the same feeling I used to get when I entered voluntary treatment before I got sober from alcohol. I knew what I was going to do was right and would help me but it is so hard to reach out and engage even in a professional manner. I struggle.

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🏳️‍🌈 Mother Of Exiles 🏳️‍⚧️ @dragynwing.bsky.social · 11h

The shitlibs just might actually be activated and I'll shelve that word if they'll let me.

She did a good job here. Damn fine delivery. Clear, on-point message. Good job. There needs to be consequences!

I'mNotAHRHitter @imnotahrhitter.bsky.social · 11h

Yeah, Hochul is correct and it's good that she's saying it.

Aaron Rupar @atrupar.com · 12h

Q: Politico reported on a group chat of young Republicans. Does this just reflect some bad apples?

HOCHUL: Some bad apples? These are the future of the GOP. This is so vile it's hard to find the words to put into context ... there's gotta be consequences ... this bullshit has to stop.

🏳️‍🌈 Mother Of Exiles 🏳️‍⚧️ @dragynwing.bsky.social · 11h

Is there any reason people can't report ICE as traffic stops on Google Maps?

Sanho Tree @sanho.bsky.social · 11h

“Apple has claimed they received information from law enforcement that ICEBlock served to harm law enforcement officers. This is patently false. ICEBlock is no different from crowdsourcing speed traps, which every notable mapping application, including Apple’s own Maps app…”

Chicago Tribune @chicagotribune.com · 12h

A Facebook group that shared information on sightings of Immigration and Customs Enforcement agents in the Chicago area was taken down by Meta following pressure from the Justice Department, according to Attorney General Pam Bondi.

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Chris Kluwe @chriswarcraft.bsky.social · 11h

booting up FapGPT to get my clankspank on

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🏳️‍🌈 Mother Of Exiles 🏳️‍⚧️ @dragynwing.bsky.social · 11h

I made a decision not to bring my Twitter nasty here and since this is my only regular social media site, I've noticed that I'm a lot less likely to say something shitty that I later regret and I'm a lot happier to block and "lose" a stupid internet conversation.

I'm better off for it irl, too.