Eek Ack
@eekack.bsky.social
EA stands for Eek Ack!
Just another person introspecting about life. Have a history of being quite involved in the other EA. Dipping my toes in this post-rat thing
Salient topics as of this writing: money, parents, guilt, impact, feeling (in)secure, life
Just another person introspecting about life. Have a history of being quite involved in the other EA. Dipping my toes in this post-rat thing
Salient topics as of this writing: money, parents, guilt, impact, feeling (in)secure, life
I want to tell myself it's okay, no matter what. To be infinitely loving and unconditionally accepting of what I've done and to try my best moving forward.
March 18, 2025 at 8:23 PM
I want to tell myself it's okay, no matter what. To be infinitely loving and unconditionally accepting of what I've done and to try my best moving forward.
Slept maybe 16 hours last night. Slept at 2am woke up at 6pm
Either I’m jet lagged, sleep deprived, or both
Either I’m jet lagged, sleep deprived, or both
January 23, 2025 at 1:03 AM
Slept maybe 16 hours last night. Slept at 2am woke up at 6pm
Either I’m jet lagged, sleep deprived, or both
Either I’m jet lagged, sleep deprived, or both
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Children are not vending machines that you throw money and care into so they will produce achievements and care for you unconditionally as you age and listen to you without talking back or challenging you. You have not built a relationship. You have created a hostage situation.
December 23, 2024 at 8:49 PM
Children are not vending machines that you throw money and care into so they will produce achievements and care for you unconditionally as you age and listen to you without talking back or challenging you. You have not built a relationship. You have created a hostage situation.
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Finally, being witnessed and validated in a psychologically safe social setting is key.
True for adults (grief groups, therapy, community)
& for children (being asked questions, being held, comforted, allowed, given helpful language for conceptualizing and expressing the experience and its impact)
True for adults (grief groups, therapy, community)
& for children (being asked questions, being held, comforted, allowed, given helpful language for conceptualizing and expressing the experience and its impact)
December 2, 2024 at 12:38 PM
Finally, being witnessed and validated in a psychologically safe social setting is key.
True for adults (grief groups, therapy, community)
& for children (being asked questions, being held, comforted, allowed, given helpful language for conceptualizing and expressing the experience and its impact)
True for adults (grief groups, therapy, community)
& for children (being asked questions, being held, comforted, allowed, given helpful language for conceptualizing and expressing the experience and its impact)
I don't know how to communicate to my parents that
A) I am impressed with how much they care and done for me physically
AND
B) I feel emotionally unsafe with them
My behavior rubs off as "you don't appreciate or care about us" / "you're very entitled or spoiled"
#parentproblems #emotionalsafety
A) I am impressed with how much they care and done for me physically
AND
B) I feel emotionally unsafe with them
My behavior rubs off as "you don't appreciate or care about us" / "you're very entitled or spoiled"
#parentproblems #emotionalsafety
December 30, 2024 at 6:07 PM
I don't know how to communicate to my parents that
A) I am impressed with how much they care and done for me physically
AND
B) I feel emotionally unsafe with them
My behavior rubs off as "you don't appreciate or care about us" / "you're very entitled or spoiled"
#parentproblems #emotionalsafety
A) I am impressed with how much they care and done for me physically
AND
B) I feel emotionally unsafe with them
My behavior rubs off as "you don't appreciate or care about us" / "you're very entitled or spoiled"
#parentproblems #emotionalsafety
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(At some point I might want to dive into some of my insecure attachment relationship with EA and the EA community + potential parallels with how I got guilt tripped by my parents and how I guilt trip myself with EA. (That being said I appreciate the EA community a lot and am still part of it))
December 29, 2024 at 6:46 AM
(At some point I might want to dive into some of my insecure attachment relationship with EA and the EA community + potential parallels with how I got guilt tripped by my parents and how I guilt trip myself with EA. (That being said I appreciate the EA community a lot and am still part of it))
I think my dad has insecure attachment with me.
He gets upset when I want space from him and guilt trips me by claiming that I don’t care enough about family / don’t have family values when he invested so much time and energy into me
He gets upset when I want space from him and guilt trips me by claiming that I don’t care enough about family / don’t have family values when he invested so much time and energy into me
December 29, 2024 at 6:40 AM
I think my dad has insecure attachment with me.
He gets upset when I want space from him and guilt trips me by claiming that I don’t care enough about family / don’t have family values when he invested so much time and energy into me
He gets upset when I want space from him and guilt trips me by claiming that I don’t care enough about family / don’t have family values when he invested so much time and energy into me
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If I am more accepting of the possibility of a bad result, I will be less like to go down rabbit holes and more likely to analyze what things would actually improve the situation
December 29, 2024 at 6:34 AM
If I am more accepting of the possibility of a bad result, I will be less like to go down rabbit holes and more likely to analyze what things would actually improve the situation
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The whole practice of having kids is very weird when you think about it. Like, you get little to no training, and if you had shitty parents (I did) then good fucking luck.
December 28, 2024 at 5:15 PM
The whole practice of having kids is very weird when you think about it. Like, you get little to no training, and if you had shitty parents (I did) then good fucking luck.
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FUCK CHRISTMAS
December 25, 2024 at 11:01 PM
FUCK CHRISTMAS
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Appropriatest coffee mug
December 25, 2024 at 1:19 PM
Appropriatest coffee mug
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You’re still arguing about tabs vs. spaces? May I present…
December 25, 2024 at 6:37 PM
You’re still arguing about tabs vs. spaces? May I present…
A step towards listening to my body!
my mom booked me a trip. I noticed that I felt pretty stressed about it and so I ended up calling to cancel it. Afterwards I felt more relaxed
my mom booked me a trip. I noticed that I felt pretty stressed about it and so I ended up calling to cancel it. Afterwards I felt more relaxed
December 25, 2024 at 3:37 AM
A step towards listening to my body!
my mom booked me a trip. I noticed that I felt pretty stressed about it and so I ended up calling to cancel it. Afterwards I felt more relaxed
my mom booked me a trip. I noticed that I felt pretty stressed about it and so I ended up calling to cancel it. Afterwards I felt more relaxed
Would appreciate feedback on my newly added description
December 24, 2024 at 6:25 AM
Would appreciate feedback on my newly added description
Ways to approach freedom w.r.t money
One is to be so rich that you don’t even have to worry about expenses (ex: accidentally booking a wrong flight)
Another is to know how to flourish while being poor so that you don’t have to worry about having a bunch of money
One is to be so rich that you don’t even have to worry about expenses (ex: accidentally booking a wrong flight)
Another is to know how to flourish while being poor so that you don’t have to worry about having a bunch of money
December 23, 2024 at 6:19 AM
Ways to approach freedom w.r.t money
One is to be so rich that you don’t even have to worry about expenses (ex: accidentally booking a wrong flight)
Another is to know how to flourish while being poor so that you don’t have to worry about having a bunch of money
One is to be so rich that you don’t even have to worry about expenses (ex: accidentally booking a wrong flight)
Another is to know how to flourish while being poor so that you don’t have to worry about having a bunch of money
When I complain about my parents people say they do these things because they love you
I used to think no duh this is why it hurts more b/c I’ve failed to live up to their hard work
Now I think yes AND they have toxic and ineffective communication styles + haven’t sorted out their emotional stuff
I used to think no duh this is why it hurts more b/c I’ve failed to live up to their hard work
Now I think yes AND they have toxic and ineffective communication styles + haven’t sorted out their emotional stuff
December 22, 2024 at 7:11 AM
When I complain about my parents people say they do these things because they love you
I used to think no duh this is why it hurts more b/c I’ve failed to live up to their hard work
Now I think yes AND they have toxic and ineffective communication styles + haven’t sorted out their emotional stuff
I used to think no duh this is why it hurts more b/c I’ve failed to live up to their hard work
Now I think yes AND they have toxic and ineffective communication styles + haven’t sorted out their emotional stuff
Mom: you are being selfish.
Translation: I am in enough distress that I don’t have the capacity to care about you. The solution is to help me regulate.
Translation: I am in enough distress that I don’t have the capacity to care about you. The solution is to help me regulate.
December 22, 2024 at 7:03 AM
Mom: you are being selfish.
Translation: I am in enough distress that I don’t have the capacity to care about you. The solution is to help me regulate.
Translation: I am in enough distress that I don’t have the capacity to care about you. The solution is to help me regulate.
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We were seeing a 98% drop in exposure over on Twitter. The censorship was so extreme we thought it best to start over somewhere else. We chose Bluesky.
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December 20, 2024 at 11:36 PM
We were seeing a 98% drop in exposure over on Twitter. The censorship was so extreme we thought it best to start over somewhere else. We chose Bluesky.
Help us gain our following back
Follow
Retweet
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Join the park side
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Bruhhh I just wanted to follow some post rats on X and now they do this??? I submitted an appeal last week and they still didn’t get back to me :(
December 20, 2024 at 3:15 PM
Bruhhh I just wanted to follow some post rats on X and now they do this??? I submitted an appeal last week and they still didn’t get back to me :(
I'm confused as to how necessary it is to have shared "vibes," agreements, and values in a friendship. It seems like there has to enough mutual (though potentially implicit) agreement on conversation norms to effectively handle disagreements and differences in values. Thoughts?
December 20, 2024 at 3:10 PM
I'm confused as to how necessary it is to have shared "vibes," agreements, and values in a friendship. It seems like there has to enough mutual (though potentially implicit) agreement on conversation norms to effectively handle disagreements and differences in values. Thoughts?
I feel like I have friends, but I don't have close friends. I'm not really sure what's going on here. I find that there is asymmetry in closeness and support. Hypotheses in thread.
December 20, 2024 at 2:57 PM
I feel like I have friends, but I don't have close friends. I'm not really sure what's going on here. I find that there is asymmetry in closeness and support. Hypotheses in thread.