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Sal 🇵🇸🇺🇦 @sal46.bsky.social · 1m

I loved him as a teenager. The Air-Conditioned Nightmare especially. The bohemianism and anti-work philosophy. Of course this in reality meant scrounging money off friends to spend on French prostitutes and generally being a selfish bastard, but to a 16 yo boy it’s heady stuff. 😅

Sal 🇵🇸🇺🇦 @sal46.bsky.social · 9m

Before I read it I’m guessing he’s not a fan. 😅

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Sal 🇵🇸🇺🇦 @sal46.bsky.social · 14m

‘As Marina reenacted a scene from Sade’s ‘Justine’ I wondered how she didn’t put her back out. Only last week I’d done myself an injury picking up a bag of compost from the garden centre, never mind being trussed up like a turkey in the medium of expressive dance! Ouch!..(contd)

The Guardian @theguardian.com · 1h

I went to Marina Abramović’s erotic, explicit new art show – and there was an awful lot to take in | Adrian Chiles

The ‘grandmother of performance art’ and I both have Slavic roots. But I didn’t recognise any of her 14th-century Dalmatian fertility rites – and neither did my mum, writes Adrian Chiles

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Sal 🇵🇸🇺🇦 @sal46.bsky.social · 45m

Henry Miller?

Jeff Thomas @buildbackwetter.bsky.social · 4h

A categorically new version of pornography centered on narrative while avoiding exploitation of sex workers and millions of liberal millennials inexplicably pretending like they're not going to use it

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ellie lockhart (she/they) @eleanor.lockhart.contact · 50m

one of the best things you can do with your morning if you have a frustrating problem to fix involving permissions and service accounts is to start singing the Top Gun theme at the top of your lungs, but add lyrics (the lyrics are "bees bees bees")

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Sal 🇵🇸🇺🇦 @sal46.bsky.social · 1h

They’re systematic. 😅

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Sal 🇵🇸🇺🇦 @sal46.bsky.social · 1h

Keir Starmer

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Helen @helenm40.bsky.social · 1d

I love how Bluesky is like, "We can't let you check your DMs because we don't know your age. Also, here is literal porn on your Discover page."

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Vincent van Gogh @vangogh.bsky.social · 3h

Swift - 1887
https://botfrens.com/collections/46/contents/14175

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John R. @tribe.bsky.social · 16h

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Sal 🇵🇸🇺🇦 @sal46.bsky.social · 6h

..by swiping all in sundry. It’s so bad. It pits men and woman against each other. Profoundly toxic stuff. I lasted a week before I was totally jaded.

Sal 🇵🇸🇺🇦 @sal46.bsky.social · 6h

They are vile places. Dehumanising for everyone involved. I think they’ve set them up to function like this on purpose. I don’t mean to suggest that women are an interchangeable mass, but in order to get to the interaction and discernment stage you’ve got to break through these barriers..

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Jimmy Gaspero @jimmygaspero.bsky.social · 1d

It’s been 1 whole year since we brought Sir Barry Barkington home.

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Sal 🇵🇸🇺🇦 @sal46.bsky.social · 6h

Of course it’s impossible.

The problem is accessing a conversation whereby that information is available. The whole problem is getting to the interaction stage.

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Sal 🇵🇸🇺🇦 @sal46.bsky.social · 6h

I just don’t want to spend my time swiping 100s of women until no 696 swipes back. I don’t like approaching women like that, but it’s how it’s set up. You’re trapped within that system. To me it’s just irredeemable.

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Sal 🇵🇸🇺🇦 @sal46.bsky.social · 6h

This is the problem. Women are deluged and men get next to nothing. Whatever the reason, I’m not sure what anyone can do to rectify that. The whole system is broken. It’s actually set up like a fruit machine with terrible odds. It’s just awful.

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Sal 🇵🇸🇺🇦 @sal46.bsky.social · 6h

The difference with online dating is that I don’t really know if someone will be right until I’ve talked to them, but with these sites you can’t message unless you’ve both swiped each other. Which is why people swipe everyone because out of 200 swipes you might get 2 matches.

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Sal 🇵🇸🇺🇦 @sal46.bsky.social · 6h

Oh sure, I meant I. terms of swiping rather than messaging. I found myself swiping everyone from 30-50 in the hope they’d swipe back so I could talk, then I just kept increasing the geographical radius, and I hated that I was doing it so I deleted my account.

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Sal 🇵🇸🇺🇦 @sal46.bsky.social · 7h

I mean, you can, but your chance of success will likely be zero. Like applying for jobs: you have to fire out 100s of applications.

By the way I hate this and appreciate how abject it is which is why I refuse to do it.

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Sal 🇵🇸🇺🇦 @sal46.bsky.social · 7h

I suppose the issue is that if you don’t spam 500 you’re not getting a date. Not that I would be like ‘anyone will do’, but in order to get into a conversation whereby compatibility could be established you simply cannot like or message the five people who jump out at you from a profile.

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Sal 🇵🇸🇺🇦 @sal46.bsky.social · 7h

True. All I’m saying is that if I wanted a date with a damsel I’d have to ask about 400 (and this is being optimistic) before one said yes. That’s just how it is men. Not quite the same for women.

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Sal 🇵🇸🇺🇦 @sal46.bsky.social · 7h

..was a kind of advance, but one that came at a cost of idealising the woman by placing her on a sacred pedestal — then you get Madonna / W****, which again whatever was awful about the ancient world does not seem to have really existed then as far as I can make out

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Sal 🇵🇸🇺🇦 @sal46.bsky.social · 7h

The guy might have rescued a woman from a monster etc, but not to prove his worth to her. Just to fulfil his role of saving the kingdom or whatever. Wouldn’t have given a shit about what she wanted. So maybe the romance cult..

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Sal 🇵🇸🇺🇦 @sal46.bsky.social · 7h

It wasn’t until the later Middle Ages that you started to see this chivalric romance stuff of a knight proving himself worthy of his princess with great deeds etc. Not that it was better before (would have been totally feudal, arranged thing) but that didn’t really exist before then..

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Sal 🇵🇸🇺🇦 @sal46.bsky.social · 7h

Ok, but there would definitely been no advice offered to women on how to approach and seduce a guy lol. It would have taken a totally different form. It would have been what lipstick to wear etc.

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