Loftwerks
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The pedestrian you honked at on Powell St. Adoptee. East Van.
The matter-of-factness with which this was communicated. As though no harm was done.
Adoptees, what childhood comments trigger silent rage? Mine are "your birth mother loved you so much she gave you away" and the weird false promise of "you can look for her (bio-mom) when you're grown-up." 🥚
Adoptees, what childhood comments trigger silent rage? Mine are "your birth mother loved you so much she gave you away" and the weird false promise of "you can look for her (bio-mom) when you're grown-up." 🥚
I asked my a-parents about my birth cert. I was too young to articulate big ideas. But I knew something was off; that there was a 𝗯𝗲𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗲. That this record replaced something important. Something I wanted but wasn't allowed to ask for. The response was "We're listed because we're your parents". 🥚
December 11, 2025 at 8:23 PM
The matter-of-factness with which this was communicated. As though no harm was done.
Adoptees, what childhood comments trigger silent rage? Mine are "your birth mother loved you so much she gave you away" and the weird false promise of "you can look for her (bio-mom) when you're grown-up." 🥚
Adoptees, what childhood comments trigger silent rage? Mine are "your birth mother loved you so much she gave you away" and the weird false promise of "you can look for her (bio-mom) when you're grown-up." 🥚
My first photo; apparently at one month old, meeting my adoptive mother. The look/furrow on my face really reads, "who the heck are you??" 🥚
December 10, 2025 at 8:18 PM
My first photo; apparently at one month old, meeting my adoptive mother. The look/furrow on my face really reads, "who the heck are you??" 🥚
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It’s shocking to me that with all the deconstructing and fights for human rights that adoption has not only gone unscathed but is universally praised. Adoption is a 25 billion dollar industry, human rights violation, and erasure of identities upheld by high control religions
December 9, 2025 at 5:57 AM
It’s shocking to me that with all the deconstructing and fights for human rights that adoption has not only gone unscathed but is universally praised. Adoption is a 25 billion dollar industry, human rights violation, and erasure of identities upheld by high control religions
𝑾𝒆 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒎𝒆𝒂𝒏𝒔. 🔥 💯 🥚
there is nothing wonderful about a legal arrangement that permanently falsifies a child’s identity. custodial care that respected a child’s human rights would not be structured this way. Why can’t we annul our adoptions?
Because adoption was designed to make people into parents. We are the means. 🥚
Because adoption was designed to make people into parents. We are the means. 🥚
Kids can’t always wait for adults to get it together. Adoption is as complicated, wonderful, tragic challenging & messy as any other family formation, w/unique challenges. No family is ever perfect. Most adoptees, especially those adopted in infancy, grow up to be fine. You don’t hear from them.
December 9, 2025 at 3:25 AM
𝑾𝒆 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒎𝒆𝒂𝒏𝒔. 🔥 💯 🥚
If the system you're discussing is inherently designed to harm, discussions about personal experiences are irrelevant. If a system is rooted in racism and classism, it's unjust and should be ended. This is why I'm an #adoption abolitionist.
December 9, 2025 at 3:19 AM
Adoption answers a child's most basic, universal request of "I want my mommy" with severance & abandonment w/ strangers. The best interest of the child is maintaining that primal relationship while minimizing harm - typically caused by poverty. Guardianship instead of ownership. 🥚
Adoptees who are critical of the system have helped improve the process, over the decades. On social media, nuance tends to get drowned out, but I hear them. No matter what, no matter how bitter some of them are here, adoption will always be needed, and improvement will also be needed, too.
December 9, 2025 at 3:00 AM
Adoption answers a child's most basic, universal request of "I want my mommy" with severance & abandonment w/ strangers. The best interest of the child is maintaining that primal relationship while minimizing harm - typically caused by poverty. Guardianship instead of ownership. 🥚
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Okay, the crowd going nuts like someone just scored a touchdown at the Super Bowl all *through* the KDH performance is a hell of a thing to see hear/see:
November 27, 2025 at 5:42 PM
Okay, the crowd going nuts like someone just scored a touchdown at the Super Bowl all *through* the KDH performance is a hell of a thing to see hear/see:
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Adoptees are born into families that they are forever linked ro by lineage. We are the sum of generations of traits. Nothing changes that. Our "forever home" was taken from us by adoption. Adoptive parents can play whatever denial games they like, but in crucial ways, we aren't their kids. 🥚
November 25, 2025 at 6:35 AM
Adoptees are born into families that they are forever linked ro by lineage. We are the sum of generations of traits. Nothing changes that. Our "forever home" was taken from us by adoption. Adoptive parents can play whatever denial games they like, but in crucial ways, we aren't their kids. 🥚
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The ostrich convoy rolled by the house this morning; horns honking & flags waving. I can't handle this level of stupid. #CanadaPolitics #BCPolitics #PublicHealth
November 22, 2025 at 8:03 PM
The ostrich convoy rolled by the house this morning; horns honking & flags waving. I can't handle this level of stupid. #CanadaPolitics #BCPolitics #PublicHealth
Any adoptees struggle with the holidays? 🥚
To avoid fam issues on both sides, spouse & I take our kids (now adults) away for xmas. Last yr my spouse wanted me to invite my adoptive-mom. She went from "I have no plans" to "you're adopt-bro said he's coming to my place for dinner" in two breaths. 🤦♀️
To avoid fam issues on both sides, spouse & I take our kids (now adults) away for xmas. Last yr my spouse wanted me to invite my adoptive-mom. She went from "I have no plans" to "you're adopt-bro said he's coming to my place for dinner" in two breaths. 🤦♀️
November 21, 2025 at 12:39 AM
Any adoptees struggle with the holidays? 🥚
To avoid fam issues on both sides, spouse & I take our kids (now adults) away for xmas. Last yr my spouse wanted me to invite my adoptive-mom. She went from "I have no plans" to "you're adopt-bro said he's coming to my place for dinner" in two breaths. 🤦♀️
To avoid fam issues on both sides, spouse & I take our kids (now adults) away for xmas. Last yr my spouse wanted me to invite my adoptive-mom. She went from "I have no plans" to "you're adopt-bro said he's coming to my place for dinner" in two breaths. 🤦♀️
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Loving this Larry Summers arc where he’s like, wow taking a step back from leadership now that I found out about my own behavior which I have had access to at all times
November 20, 2025 at 3:06 AM
Loving this Larry Summers arc where he’s like, wow taking a step back from leadership now that I found out about my own behavior which I have had access to at all times
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i speak, as always, for precisely one #adopted person when i say that i cannot muster a feeling of gratitude for having been the product of a system so corrupt and so unjust that i believe it should not exist.
here are 5 screenshots of a post from a social media campaign called “I’m Adopted.” It’s as finely crafted a piece of pro-adoption propaganda one could wish for: an adoptee who claims to honor the complexity of the experience but still manages to find a place in his heart for deep gratitude. 🥚
November 19, 2025 at 2:27 PM
i speak, as always, for precisely one #adopted person when i say that i cannot muster a feeling of gratitude for having been the product of a system so corrupt and so unjust that i believe it should not exist.
Any other adoptees experience limerence? This Instagram reel by Anna Runkle resonated with me. 🥚
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November 20, 2025 at 1:25 AM
Any other adoptees experience limerence? This Instagram reel by Anna Runkle resonated with me. 🥚
www.instagram.com/reel/DPvk9V5...
www.instagram.com/reel/DPvk9V5...
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So here is the thing about teenagers: they are children playing at adulthood. That cognitive dissonance is hard for a lot of ppl & doesn’t mesh w a society based on reducing everyone to a consumer demo. Our job as adults, tho, is to provide them w the safety & support networks they need 1/5
November 19, 2025 at 5:41 PM
So here is the thing about teenagers: they are children playing at adulthood. That cognitive dissonance is hard for a lot of ppl & doesn’t mesh w a society based on reducing everyone to a consumer demo. Our job as adults, tho, is to provide them w the safety & support networks they need 1/5
Imagine experiencing motherloss trauma, not only with strangers, but strangers attempting that nonsense. New meaning to the words "Bad Latch."
Adoption always centers the needs & wants of adopters; never adoptees. 🥚
Adoption always centers the needs & wants of adopters; never adoptees. 🥚
one way to feel like a living doll is to discover that your adopter tried to breastfeed you when you were an infant. 🥚
November 18, 2025 at 10:10 PM
Imagine experiencing motherloss trauma, not only with strangers, but strangers attempting that nonsense. New meaning to the words "Bad Latch."
Adoption always centers the needs & wants of adopters; never adoptees. 🥚
Adoption always centers the needs & wants of adopters; never adoptees. 🥚
Adoptees who have relinquished, is this the doubling down of an exploitive system or something else? As an adoptee, I support fellow adoptees stories and experiences full stop. But the relinquished choosing to relinquish seems to me to be a special kind of heartbreak. 🥚
November 18, 2025 at 12:39 AM
Adoptees who have relinquished, is this the doubling down of an exploitive system or something else? As an adoptee, I support fellow adoptees stories and experiences full stop. But the relinquished choosing to relinquish seems to me to be a special kind of heartbreak. 🥚
I think about this often. What happened during the 30 days between relinquishment and placement with APs?? Social worker thought APs might not want me because, despite what the paperwork said, I looked Jewish to her. Was I ever alone with this hateful person? 🥚
"There’s that period, that limbo between your first parents and your parents. When you’re in between families. Like purgatory. And you have nobody. I’ll never know what happened then."
- Suzanne Bachner, 'We Call Her Benny' 💜
#NationalAdopteeAwarenessMonth #AdopteeVoices #NAAM #LouiseWiseServices
- Suzanne Bachner, 'We Call Her Benny' 💜
#NationalAdopteeAwarenessMonth #AdopteeVoices #NAAM #LouiseWiseServices
November 17, 2025 at 10:13 PM
I think about this often. What happened during the 30 days between relinquishment and placement with APs?? Social worker thought APs might not want me because, despite what the paperwork said, I looked Jewish to her. Was I ever alone with this hateful person? 🥚
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the society i want to see brought about is one in which adopting a child out to strangers and pronouncing them “legally and practically dead” to their families is understood as a war crime and not as a way for celebrities to advertise their compassion 🥚
November 15, 2025 at 4:20 PM
the society i want to see brought about is one in which adopting a child out to strangers and pronouncing them “legally and practically dead” to their families is understood as a war crime and not as a way for celebrities to advertise their compassion 🥚
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Remember when some of us said the Democratic leadership would take all the wrong lessons from the blue tsunami and squander all the goodwill?
Here you go.
Here you go.
November 10, 2025 at 4:30 AM
Remember when some of us said the Democratic leadership would take all the wrong lessons from the blue tsunami and squander all the goodwill?
Here you go.
Here you go.
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If an adoptee finding their family hurts their adoptive family imagine how much hurt the adoptee had growing up in such a manipulative controlling family. #adoptionawareness
November 9, 2025 at 7:22 PM
If an adoptee finding their family hurts their adoptive family imagine how much hurt the adoptee had growing up in such a manipulative controlling family. #adoptionawareness
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i think it's time to note that ICE did not pioneer child taking; that it's not a new atrocity being visited upon the vulnerable; that "child welfare" agencies routinely use it to police families in crisis; that good progressive people enter the "foster-to-adopt pipeline" to benefit from it. 🥚
November 5, 2025 at 7:06 PM
i think it's time to note that ICE did not pioneer child taking; that it's not a new atrocity being visited upon the vulnerable; that "child welfare" agencies routinely use it to police families in crisis; that good progressive people enter the "foster-to-adopt pipeline" to benefit from it. 🥚
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If the sub didn’t split, you must acquit!
Defense begins, “This case, ladies and gentlemen, is about a sandwich. A sandwich that according to Agent Lairmore somehow both exploded on his chest in a spray of mustard and onions but also landed intact on the ground still in its Subway wrapper.”
November 5, 2025 at 6:58 PM
If the sub didn’t split, you must acquit!
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I knew it would take less than a day for a tiktok dj to make something.
November 5, 2025 at 12:13 PM
I knew it would take less than a day for a tiktok dj to make something.
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AOC: "We will not be intimidated by an administration that is violating rights and making life hard and unaffordable for every single American in this country. And we will send in a wave of Democrats that not bow to this administration, but stand up to this administration."
November 5, 2025 at 3:16 AM
AOC: "We will not be intimidated by an administration that is violating rights and making life hard and unaffordable for every single American in this country. And we will send in a wave of Democrats that not bow to this administration, but stand up to this administration."