Alejandra Hope
@alejandrahope.bsky.social
Psychotherapist who loves iced lavender lattes, the Kansas Jayhawks, and slow, sad songs. Pronouns: they/them
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Alejandra Hope
@alejandrahope.bsky.social
· Jun 30
Whenever I go to bed when it's still light out in the summer, it feels like such a betrayal to the sun 🥺
BABY IN THE CAVE!!!
November 18, 2025 at 5:24 AM
BABY IN THE CAVE!!!
A psychoanalytic explanation would be repetition compulsion- we repeat out traumas because it's what we know, or we hope to take back power/control for a different outcome, etc.
A more concrete explanation would be lack of options and/or buy-in to the myth that it gives baby a better future
A more concrete explanation would be lack of options and/or buy-in to the myth that it gives baby a better future
Adoptees who have relinquished, is this the doubling down of an exploitive system or something else? As an adoptee, I support fellow adoptees stories and experiences full stop. But the relinquished choosing to relinquish seems to me to be a special kind of heartbreak. 🥚
November 18, 2025 at 12:48 AM
A psychoanalytic explanation would be repetition compulsion- we repeat out traumas because it's what we know, or we hope to take back power/control for a different outcome, etc.
A more concrete explanation would be lack of options and/or buy-in to the myth that it gives baby a better future
A more concrete explanation would be lack of options and/or buy-in to the myth that it gives baby a better future
Bb boy does Not Like the air popper 🥺
November 17, 2025 at 11:25 PM
Bb boy does Not Like the air popper 🥺
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Thoughts on shame in therapy:
Ime, most psychodynamically trained therapists have been taught to explore the early origins of the client’s pain when expressed toward the therapist.
But importantly, I and many others were not taught that the client’s reaction also belongs in the here and now.
Ime, most psychodynamically trained therapists have been taught to explore the early origins of the client’s pain when expressed toward the therapist.
But importantly, I and many others were not taught that the client’s reaction also belongs in the here and now.
November 17, 2025 at 10:56 PM
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Friend has gotten wayyy too many panicked texts from me over the past month re my packing progress (or lack thereof!)
But today I'm feeling okay about it. I think I've done all I can without help, and once the kitchen/laundry is packed up, that should give me a second wind for the bedroom &bathroom
But today I'm feeling okay about it. I think I've done all I can without help, and once the kitchen/laundry is packed up, that should give me a second wind for the bedroom &bathroom
November 17, 2025 at 10:34 PM
Friend has gotten wayyy too many panicked texts from me over the past month re my packing progress (or lack thereof!)
But today I'm feeling okay about it. I think I've done all I can without help, and once the kitchen/laundry is packed up, that should give me a second wind for the bedroom &bathroom
But today I'm feeling okay about it. I think I've done all I can without help, and once the kitchen/laundry is packed up, that should give me a second wind for the bedroom &bathroom
Found a couple of old phones– one Motorola, one iPhone– both of which are nearly twice the size of my current iPhone 12 mini, and I'm sorry but how do any of y'all use phones that large?? How did I???
November 17, 2025 at 10:00 PM
Found a couple of old phones– one Motorola, one iPhone– both of which are nearly twice the size of my current iPhone 12 mini, and I'm sorry but how do any of y'all use phones that large?? How did I???
Grief is the hardest lesson to learn.
(Or, how I didn't talk about the bb whale in my therapy session as the tide came in and yet, yes I did. 💔)
(Or, how I didn't talk about the bb whale in my therapy session as the tide came in and yet, yes I did. 💔)
November 17, 2025 at 6:30 PM
Grief is the hardest lesson to learn.
(Or, how I didn't talk about the bb whale in my therapy session as the tide came in and yet, yes I did. 💔)
(Or, how I didn't talk about the bb whale in my therapy session as the tide came in and yet, yes I did. 💔)
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whale is right here. fully submerged about 50% of the time and there's still a lot more water coming in
November 17, 2025 at 5:04 PM
whale is right here. fully submerged about 50% of the time and there's still a lot more water coming in
(finally, again) High tide in Oregon... c'mon bb humpback YOU CAN DO IT!!!
November 17, 2025 at 5:59 PM
(finally, again) High tide in Oregon... c'mon bb humpback YOU CAN DO IT!!!
Yet another dream about orcas... it is tragic I haven't actually seen more than a <30 second blip of black fins through binoculars out in the wild! 😭
November 17, 2025 at 3:31 PM
Yet another dream about orcas... it is tragic I haven't actually seen more than a <30 second blip of black fins through binoculars out in the wild! 😭
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What if we kissed after we died and our bodies are returning nutrients to the earth? 💖
November 14, 2025 at 7:21 PM
What if we kissed after we died and our bodies are returning nutrients to the earth? 💖
Laundry and a grocery order will have to wait until tomorrow but I did manage to run the dishwasher and take a shower, so there's that at least.
Also tried to sort through Catto toys to pare down to just the ones *they* like but I'm too sentimental about too many that *I* liked, lol
Also tried to sort through Catto toys to pare down to just the ones *they* like but I'm too sentimental about too many that *I* liked, lol
...was awake from ~12:30am to 4 or 5am with my stupid migraine and it still hasn't actually resolved itself yet so today will likely be another useless day.
Hopefully I at least manage to run the dishwasher and a couple loads of laundry and put in a grocery order but we'll see. 🫠
Hopefully I at least manage to run the dishwasher and a couple loads of laundry and put in a grocery order but we'll see. 🫠
November 16, 2025 at 9:42 PM
Laundry and a grocery order will have to wait until tomorrow but I did manage to run the dishwasher and take a shower, so there's that at least.
Also tried to sort through Catto toys to pare down to just the ones *they* like but I'm too sentimental about too many that *I* liked, lol
Also tried to sort through Catto toys to pare down to just the ones *they* like but I'm too sentimental about too many that *I* liked, lol
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💜💗🧡 Sun, Nov 16
SRKWs, Bigg's, Humpbacks; it's been a lovely month w/whales & the Aurora!
On Tuesday, people were fortunate to see J, K, & L pods (true superpod) exiting Puget Sound via Admiralty Inlet & soon after witness the Northern Lights.
📸 SRKW youngin & Aurora by Jami Cantrell
#psws
SRKWs, Bigg's, Humpbacks; it's been a lovely month w/whales & the Aurora!
On Tuesday, people were fortunate to see J, K, & L pods (true superpod) exiting Puget Sound via Admiralty Inlet & soon after witness the Northern Lights.
📸 SRKW youngin & Aurora by Jami Cantrell
#psws
November 16, 2025 at 6:54 PM
💜💗🧡 Sun, Nov 16
SRKWs, Bigg's, Humpbacks; it's been a lovely month w/whales & the Aurora!
On Tuesday, people were fortunate to see J, K, & L pods (true superpod) exiting Puget Sound via Admiralty Inlet & soon after witness the Northern Lights.
📸 SRKW youngin & Aurora by Jami Cantrell
#psws
SRKWs, Bigg's, Humpbacks; it's been a lovely month w/whales & the Aurora!
On Tuesday, people were fortunate to see J, K, & L pods (true superpod) exiting Puget Sound via Admiralty Inlet & soon after witness the Northern Lights.
📸 SRKW youngin & Aurora by Jami Cantrell
#psws
...was awake from ~12:30am to 4 or 5am with my stupid migraine and it still hasn't actually resolved itself yet so today will likely be another useless day.
Hopefully I at least manage to run the dishwasher and a couple loads of laundry and put in a grocery order but we'll see. 🫠
Hopefully I at least manage to run the dishwasher and a couple loads of laundry and put in a grocery order but we'll see. 🫠
November 16, 2025 at 5:06 PM
...was awake from ~12:30am to 4 or 5am with my stupid migraine and it still hasn't actually resolved itself yet so today will likely be another useless day.
Hopefully I at least manage to run the dishwasher and a couple loads of laundry and put in a grocery order but we'll see. 🫠
Hopefully I at least manage to run the dishwasher and a couple loads of laundry and put in a grocery order but we'll see. 🫠
...canNOT BELIEVE GVD didn't tell me their office is a block away from a used bookstore. And that bookstore has shop Cattos! 😍
November 16, 2025 at 4:10 AM
...canNOT BELIEVE GVD didn't tell me their office is a block away from a used bookstore. And that bookstore has shop Cattos! 😍
Change of plans, I'm actually gonna move back to Kansas! o.O
Heavy rains cause landslide near apartment in Seattle’s Interbay neighborhood
KIRO 7 spoke to someone who lives in the building. He says this isn’t the first time he’s seen this.
www.kiro7.com
November 15, 2025 at 11:06 PM
Change of plans, I'm actually gonna move back to Kansas! o.O
I almost forgot it's stabby needle day, 😭
November 15, 2025 at 10:46 PM
I almost forgot it's stabby needle day, 😭
It feels very surreal that this is my last week in my current place. Or that this isn't just a move to a new apartment, it offers the possiblity of multiple radical shifts in what my life has been like over the past 4+ years. I hope the overwhelm is more bearable this time around.
November 15, 2025 at 4:39 PM
It feels very surreal that this is my last week in my current place. Or that this isn't just a move to a new apartment, it offers the possiblity of multiple radical shifts in what my life has been like over the past 4+ years. I hope the overwhelm is more bearable this time around.
Went to bed feeling migrainey, woke up still feeling migrainey... possibly all I will manage to do today is drive across town to pick up a wardrobe box from U-Haul and also croissants from fancy croissant place, 🫠
November 15, 2025 at 4:01 PM
Went to bed feeling migrainey, woke up still feeling migrainey... possibly all I will manage to do today is drive across town to pick up a wardrobe box from U-Haul and also croissants from fancy croissant place, 🫠
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The Marine Mammal Center has rescued a sea otter pup in Morro Bay, California, after it was separated from its mother.
Baby sea otter is reunited with mother in central California after dramatic rescue
The Marine Mammal Center has rescued a sea otter pup in Morro Bay, California, after it was separated from its mother.
bit.ly
November 15, 2025 at 12:00 AM
The Marine Mammal Center has rescued a sea otter pup in Morro Bay, California, after it was separated from its mother.
My therapy homework was to take an edible and watch Grey's Anatomy but ~apparently~ last night's episode features a massive bus crash, and bus un/safety was a major theme of today's session sooo... I think I may need to just stick with New Girl instead! 😬
November 15, 2025 at 2:39 AM
My therapy homework was to take an edible and watch Grey's Anatomy but ~apparently~ last night's episode features a massive bus crash, and bus un/safety was a major theme of today's session sooo... I think I may need to just stick with New Girl instead! 😬
I am not someone who's into the paranormal (like at all!) but, uhh, actually, I also need answers to each one of these questions!
I have quite a lot of questions about ghosts. 👻
I’ve decided to make them into a thread in case anyone who knows about ghosts can provide some information.
Thanks in advance.
I’ve decided to make them into a thread in case anyone who knows about ghosts can provide some information.
Thanks in advance.
November 15, 2025 at 2:13 AM
I am not someone who's into the paranormal (like at all!) but, uhh, actually, I also need answers to each one of these questions!
Me: "[Supervisor] told me today that I know more than I allow myself to know. Which, 😑"
GVD: Most "I told you so's" in this line of work are tragic but this? This is delightful!"
Me: "Yeahhh, I knew you'd like this one. 😑"
GVD: Most "I told you so's" in this line of work are tragic but this? This is delightful!"
Me: "Yeahhh, I knew you'd like this one. 😑"
November 15, 2025 at 1:00 AM
Me: "[Supervisor] told me today that I know more than I allow myself to know. Which, 😑"
GVD: Most "I told you so's" in this line of work are tragic but this? This is delightful!"
Me: "Yeahhh, I knew you'd like this one. 😑"
GVD: Most "I told you so's" in this line of work are tragic but this? This is delightful!"
Me: "Yeahhh, I knew you'd like this one. 😑"
...this week has been a truly horrific news cycle for survivors of sexual violence and now former foster care children/youth and/or adoptees.
Which is also to say, I might be offline for the next several days. :/
Which is also to say, I might be offline for the next several days. :/
November 14, 2025 at 3:44 AM
...this week has been a truly horrific news cycle for survivors of sexual violence and now former foster care children/youth and/or adoptees.
Which is also to say, I might be offline for the next several days. :/
Which is also to say, I might be offline for the next several days. :/
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I was looking over my cache of Adoption🥚 social justice stuff and found something that was I think posted? Or maybe I accidentally found it. Back in 1972, Black social workers were begging for Black children not to be placed in white families.
November 13, 2025 at 9:12 PM
I was looking over my cache of Adoption🥚 social justice stuff and found something that was I think posted? Or maybe I accidentally found it. Back in 1972, Black social workers were begging for Black children not to be placed in white families.