Adam Fare 🖤🤍💜
@adamfare1996.bsky.social
UK. Trying to muddle my way through life. Equity, AuDHD, Disability, Mental illness, Stomas and Eating Disorders. Ace 🖤🤍💜 Views are my own. (He/Him)
This is a bigot-free zone.
https://linktr.ee/adamcfare
This is a bigot-free zone.
https://linktr.ee/adamcfare
Back in our accommodation close to the hospital to spend the night before travelling home.
A weird feeling to be out of there and my senses feel very heightened, but glad to be out.
A weird feeling to be out of there and my senses feel very heightened, but glad to be out.
November 17, 2025 at 2:10 PM
Back in our accommodation close to the hospital to spend the night before travelling home.
A weird feeling to be out of there and my senses feel very heightened, but glad to be out.
A weird feeling to be out of there and my senses feel very heightened, but glad to be out.
Surgeon is happy with everything and says I’m fit for discharge.
Managed to convince him I don’t need any prescription meds to take so I don’t have to wait all day for pharmacy!
So will hopefully see the stoma nurse soon then I can be out of here.
Managed to convince him I don’t need any prescription meds to take so I don’t have to wait all day for pharmacy!
So will hopefully see the stoma nurse soon then I can be out of here.
November 17, 2025 at 9:45 AM
Surgeon is happy with everything and says I’m fit for discharge.
Managed to convince him I don’t need any prescription meds to take so I don’t have to wait all day for pharmacy!
So will hopefully see the stoma nurse soon then I can be out of here.
Managed to convince him I don’t need any prescription meds to take so I don’t have to wait all day for pharmacy!
So will hopefully see the stoma nurse soon then I can be out of here.
Things I can no longer be accused of doing include:
Having my head up my arse.
Talking out of my arse.
Having a dirty arsehole.
Leaving skid marks on boxer shorts.
Because I have no arsehole any more (though I do currently have an arse crack full of super glue…)
Having my head up my arse.
Talking out of my arse.
Having a dirty arsehole.
Leaving skid marks on boxer shorts.
Because I have no arsehole any more (though I do currently have an arse crack full of super glue…)
November 17, 2025 at 8:49 AM
Things I can no longer be accused of doing include:
Having my head up my arse.
Talking out of my arse.
Having a dirty arsehole.
Leaving skid marks on boxer shorts.
Because I have no arsehole any more (though I do currently have an arse crack full of super glue…)
Having my head up my arse.
Talking out of my arse.
Having a dirty arsehole.
Leaving skid marks on boxer shorts.
Because I have no arsehole any more (though I do currently have an arse crack full of super glue…)
I think 7 hours of almost unbroken sleep in a hospital bed is a sign my body is ready for home…
Highly recommend good earplugs if you’re ever in a horrible environment like a hospital.
Pain still bad but manageable, phantom arshole pains are weird, but think I’m okay.
Highly recommend good earplugs if you’re ever in a horrible environment like a hospital.
Pain still bad but manageable, phantom arshole pains are weird, but think I’m okay.
November 17, 2025 at 7:21 AM
I think 7 hours of almost unbroken sleep in a hospital bed is a sign my body is ready for home…
Highly recommend good earplugs if you’re ever in a horrible environment like a hospital.
Pain still bad but manageable, phantom arshole pains are weird, but think I’m okay.
Highly recommend good earplugs if you’re ever in a horrible environment like a hospital.
Pain still bad but manageable, phantom arshole pains are weird, but think I’m okay.
Been talking to a really nice cleaner in my room who is from Somalia and his family are still there.
He works driving taxis all week then cleans hospitals all weekend.
He’s a really genuine, good guy. This country needs more of him, and less hate.
He works driving taxis all week then cleans hospitals all weekend.
He’s a really genuine, good guy. This country needs more of him, and less hate.
November 16, 2025 at 11:45 AM
Been talking to a really nice cleaner in my room who is from Somalia and his family are still there.
He works driving taxis all week then cleans hospitals all weekend.
He’s a really genuine, good guy. This country needs more of him, and less hate.
He works driving taxis all week then cleans hospitals all weekend.
He’s a really genuine, good guy. This country needs more of him, and less hate.
Funny thing is when I was admitted and had surgery, they didn’t put my ADHD meds on my prescription list for 3 days until I told them.
Good job I did what you’re not meant to and brought & took my own isn’t it…
They keep trying to take my stash off me now lol, not having it.
Good job I did what you’re not meant to and brought & took my own isn’t it…
They keep trying to take my stash off me now lol, not having it.
November 16, 2025 at 9:30 AM
Funny thing is when I was admitted and had surgery, they didn’t put my ADHD meds on my prescription list for 3 days until I told them.
Good job I did what you’re not meant to and brought & took my own isn’t it…
They keep trying to take my stash off me now lol, not having it.
Good job I did what you’re not meant to and brought & took my own isn’t it…
They keep trying to take my stash off me now lol, not having it.
Think I forget sometimes that this was major surgery and bigger than I’ve had before, I keep thinking I’ll bounce back like I always have but just can’t this time.
Though the consultant is saying that everything looks okay and stoma finally (slowly) moving, but again expected…
Though the consultant is saying that everything looks okay and stoma finally (slowly) moving, but again expected…
November 15, 2025 at 9:51 AM
Think I forget sometimes that this was major surgery and bigger than I’ve had before, I keep thinking I’ll bounce back like I always have but just can’t this time.
Though the consultant is saying that everything looks okay and stoma finally (slowly) moving, but again expected…
Though the consultant is saying that everything looks okay and stoma finally (slowly) moving, but again expected…
Day 3, and my stoma is in constant cramp as they had to wind it quite tightly to try and prevent it prolapsing again… and swelling is really bad today.
The surgeon is giving me something to try and get my bowels moving to ease the pain a little… it’s a struggle right now.
The surgeon is giving me something to try and get my bowels moving to ease the pain a little… it’s a struggle right now.
November 14, 2025 at 10:26 AM
Day 3, and my stoma is in constant cramp as they had to wind it quite tightly to try and prevent it prolapsing again… and swelling is really bad today.
The surgeon is giving me something to try and get my bowels moving to ease the pain a little… it’s a struggle right now.
The surgeon is giving me something to try and get my bowels moving to ease the pain a little… it’s a struggle right now.
Very bad hospital “sleep” overnight, I keep forgetting this is by far the biggest surgery I’ve had, so it’s going to take a bi longer… I’m usually up and walking around by now but not this time.
All the staff are amazing though I couldn’t ask for kinder people.
All the staff are amazing though I couldn’t ask for kinder people.
November 13, 2025 at 6:55 AM
Very bad hospital “sleep” overnight, I keep forgetting this is by far the biggest surgery I’ve had, so it’s going to take a bi longer… I’m usually up and walking around by now but not this time.
All the staff are amazing though I couldn’t ask for kinder people.
All the staff are amazing though I couldn’t ask for kinder people.
Almost had a total fuck-up, the booking team had put me down for the wrong operation…!!
Luckily the surgeon managed to sort it as he was angry at it too..!!
Going down to theatre soon for the spinal block then operation… probably a long one, let’s see…!
Luckily the surgeon managed to sort it as he was angry at it too..!!
Going down to theatre soon for the spinal block then operation… probably a long one, let’s see…!
November 12, 2025 at 8:33 AM
Almost had a total fuck-up, the booking team had put me down for the wrong operation…!!
Luckily the surgeon managed to sort it as he was angry at it too..!!
Going down to theatre soon for the spinal block then operation… probably a long one, let’s see…!
Luckily the surgeon managed to sort it as he was angry at it too..!!
Going down to theatre soon for the spinal block then operation… probably a long one, let’s see…!
Disabled folk don’t just deserve survival.
They deserve love, support, compassion, respect…
And to have the means and ability to live the best quality of life possible for them, in their circumstances.
This should be the bare minimum.
They deserve love, support, compassion, respect…
And to have the means and ability to live the best quality of life possible for them, in their circumstances.
This should be the bare minimum.
November 11, 2025 at 6:31 AM
Disabled folk don’t just deserve survival.
They deserve love, support, compassion, respect…
And to have the means and ability to live the best quality of life possible for them, in their circumstances.
This should be the bare minimum.
They deserve love, support, compassion, respect…
And to have the means and ability to live the best quality of life possible for them, in their circumstances.
This should be the bare minimum.
Only (hopefully) one more day to put up with my arsehole…
Still won't believe it'll happen until I'm in the operating theatre... But I hope it just goes ahead and I get it over with now.
Still won't believe it'll happen until I'm in the operating theatre... But I hope it just goes ahead and I get it over with now.
November 11, 2025 at 5:58 AM
Only (hopefully) one more day to put up with my arsehole…
Still won't believe it'll happen until I'm in the operating theatre... But I hope it just goes ahead and I get it over with now.
Still won't believe it'll happen until I'm in the operating theatre... But I hope it just goes ahead and I get it over with now.
Not going to lie, I’m shitting it about my surgery. It’s a big op and lots of other things make it very tricky.
Trying to ignore it until it happens, but with travelling tomorrow and having to have a ton of laxatives today… feeling awful whilst being nervous isn’t a good mix.
Trying to ignore it until it happens, but with travelling tomorrow and having to have a ton of laxatives today… feeling awful whilst being nervous isn’t a good mix.
November 10, 2025 at 5:58 PM
Not going to lie, I’m shitting it about my surgery. It’s a big op and lots of other things make it very tricky.
Trying to ignore it until it happens, but with travelling tomorrow and having to have a ton of laxatives today… feeling awful whilst being nervous isn’t a good mix.
Trying to ignore it until it happens, but with travelling tomorrow and having to have a ton of laxatives today… feeling awful whilst being nervous isn’t a good mix.
Disabled people don't need to be "inspirational" or "strong" to deserve support and respect.
There should be no hierarchy, no superiority...
All humans are worthy of support and compassion.
There should be no hierarchy, no superiority...
All humans are worthy of support and compassion.
November 10, 2025 at 3:04 PM
Disabled people don't need to be "inspirational" or "strong" to deserve support and respect.
There should be no hierarchy, no superiority...
All humans are worthy of support and compassion.
There should be no hierarchy, no superiority...
All humans are worthy of support and compassion.
Social Media absolutely is "In real life"
It influences people, crates new social norms, instigates violence, influences public policy, is a medium for harmful propaganda, etc...
Too many "other" it, because it suits them to
It influences people, crates new social norms, instigates violence, influences public policy, is a medium for harmful propaganda, etc...
Too many "other" it, because it suits them to
November 10, 2025 at 8:28 AM
Social Media absolutely is "In real life"
It influences people, crates new social norms, instigates violence, influences public policy, is a medium for harmful propaganda, etc...
Too many "other" it, because it suits them to
It influences people, crates new social norms, instigates violence, influences public policy, is a medium for harmful propaganda, etc...
Too many "other" it, because it suits them to
There is a concerted, sustained attack against disabled people by the media and government. Both here in the UK and elsewhere.
However, there is no recourse for their blatant misinformation and disinformation.
There are no consequences.
They can lie, then lie some more, and get away with it all.
However, there is no recourse for their blatant misinformation and disinformation.
There are no consequences.
They can lie, then lie some more, and get away with it all.
November 10, 2025 at 7:02 AM
There is a concerted, sustained attack against disabled people by the media and government. Both here in the UK and elsewhere.
However, there is no recourse for their blatant misinformation and disinformation.
There are no consequences.
They can lie, then lie some more, and get away with it all.
However, there is no recourse for their blatant misinformation and disinformation.
There are no consequences.
They can lie, then lie some more, and get away with it all.
“You’re too young to be disabled”
Well, you’re too old to be that ignorant, but here we are…
Well, you’re too old to be that ignorant, but here we are…
November 9, 2025 at 6:39 PM
“You’re too young to be disabled”
Well, you’re too old to be that ignorant, but here we are…
Well, you’re too old to be that ignorant, but here we are…
The conflation of mental illnesses with “mental health” has been super harmful for so many people…
It means that debilitating conditions and life limiting illnesses are minimised and dismissed as “normal emotions and reactions to everyday life”.
It means that debilitating conditions and life limiting illnesses are minimised and dismissed as “normal emotions and reactions to everyday life”.
November 9, 2025 at 3:40 PM
The conflation of mental illnesses with “mental health” has been super harmful for so many people…
It means that debilitating conditions and life limiting illnesses are minimised and dismissed as “normal emotions and reactions to everyday life”.
It means that debilitating conditions and life limiting illnesses are minimised and dismissed as “normal emotions and reactions to everyday life”.
Reposted by Adam Fare 🖤🤍💜
My book Ramping Up Rights aims to arm disabled people with our history and how we fought, so that we can still fight today. The gov and media want disabled people to feel isolated, because we are so strong when we come together - and that terrifies them.
www.hurstpublishers.com/book/ramping...
www.hurstpublishers.com/book/ramping...
Ramping Up Rights | Hurst Publishers
A 100-year history of enraging injustices and inspiring campaigns: the fight for British disability rights isn’t over.
www.hurstpublishers.com
November 9, 2025 at 8:53 AM
My book Ramping Up Rights aims to arm disabled people with our history and how we fought, so that we can still fight today. The gov and media want disabled people to feel isolated, because we are so strong when we come together - and that terrifies them.
www.hurstpublishers.com/book/ramping...
www.hurstpublishers.com/book/ramping...
Reposted by Adam Fare 🖤🤍💜
Yesterday was the 30th anniversary of the Disability Discrimination Act. The absolute tumbleweed from the media & gov shows just how much they want to bury how much disabled people fought and still fight for our rights.
November 9, 2025 at 8:53 AM
Yesterday was the 30th anniversary of the Disability Discrimination Act. The absolute tumbleweed from the media & gov shows just how much they want to bury how much disabled people fought and still fight for our rights.
Misogynistic men oppress and harm themselves by upholding Patriarchy.
They play victim in every situation despite knowingly participating and upholding the thing that’s causing men harm... Then blaming women and feminism for all the problems they create.
It’s pathetic tbh.
They play victim in every situation despite knowingly participating and upholding the thing that’s causing men harm... Then blaming women and feminism for all the problems they create.
It’s pathetic tbh.
November 9, 2025 at 8:20 AM
Misogynistic men oppress and harm themselves by upholding Patriarchy.
They play victim in every situation despite knowingly participating and upholding the thing that’s causing men harm... Then blaming women and feminism for all the problems they create.
It’s pathetic tbh.
They play victim in every situation despite knowingly participating and upholding the thing that’s causing men harm... Then blaming women and feminism for all the problems they create.
It’s pathetic tbh.
Abled folk imagine being disabled and unable to work like a day of annual leave, where they can do whatever they want.
In reality, it’s like a sick day, where you are unable to do anything you want, because your body is unable to function.
And not just one day, but every day.
In reality, it’s like a sick day, where you are unable to do anything you want, because your body is unable to function.
And not just one day, but every day.
November 9, 2025 at 6:58 AM
Abled folk imagine being disabled and unable to work like a day of annual leave, where they can do whatever they want.
In reality, it’s like a sick day, where you are unable to do anything you want, because your body is unable to function.
And not just one day, but every day.
In reality, it’s like a sick day, where you are unable to do anything you want, because your body is unable to function.
And not just one day, but every day.
The average office employee is only productive for about 3 hours out of an 8-hour workday.
I spend longer than that each day on my living room floor, rolling around, massaging my abdomen, managing pain.
We do more than a full time job just to survive.
I spend longer than that each day on my living room floor, rolling around, massaging my abdomen, managing pain.
We do more than a full time job just to survive.
November 8, 2025 at 3:03 PM
The average office employee is only productive for about 3 hours out of an 8-hour workday.
I spend longer than that each day on my living room floor, rolling around, massaging my abdomen, managing pain.
We do more than a full time job just to survive.
I spend longer than that each day on my living room floor, rolling around, massaging my abdomen, managing pain.
We do more than a full time job just to survive.
We need to talk about, and remove the stigma surrounding bodily functions, conditions, and experiences which are clouded by misogyny.
Menstruation, menopause, PCOS, endometriosis, pregnancy, abortions, infertility, and so much more.
Support, not shame.
Education, not stigma.
Menstruation, menopause, PCOS, endometriosis, pregnancy, abortions, infertility, and so much more.
Support, not shame.
Education, not stigma.
November 8, 2025 at 8:11 AM
We need to talk about, and remove the stigma surrounding bodily functions, conditions, and experiences which are clouded by misogyny.
Menstruation, menopause, PCOS, endometriosis, pregnancy, abortions, infertility, and so much more.
Support, not shame.
Education, not stigma.
Menstruation, menopause, PCOS, endometriosis, pregnancy, abortions, infertility, and so much more.
Support, not shame.
Education, not stigma.
Yes, disabled people deserve nice things too.
They deserve hobbies, social lies, things that bring a bit of joy to life.
Maybe the use money they’ve earned through employment to buy it.
Maybe they spend their benefits on it.
Either way, it’s their money and their right.
They deserve hobbies, social lies, things that bring a bit of joy to life.
Maybe the use money they’ve earned through employment to buy it.
Maybe they spend their benefits on it.
Either way, it’s their money and their right.
November 8, 2025 at 6:16 AM
Yes, disabled people deserve nice things too.
They deserve hobbies, social lies, things that bring a bit of joy to life.
Maybe the use money they’ve earned through employment to buy it.
Maybe they spend their benefits on it.
Either way, it’s their money and their right.
They deserve hobbies, social lies, things that bring a bit of joy to life.
Maybe the use money they’ve earned through employment to buy it.
Maybe they spend their benefits on it.
Either way, it’s their money and their right.