Adam Fare 🖤🤍💜
@adamfare1996.bsky.social
UK. Trying to muddle my way through life. Equity, AuDHD, Disability, Mental illness, Stomas and Eating Disorders. Ace 🖤🤍💜 Views are my own. (He/Him)
This is a bigot-free zone.
https://linktr.ee/adamcfare
This is a bigot-free zone.
https://linktr.ee/adamcfare
It really isn’t nice having to fill in all the PIP forms and writing additional statements…
Essentially having to tell them just how shit your life is, and how useless you are, just to get enough to (barely) survive…
Essentially having to tell them just how shit your life is, and how useless you are, just to get enough to (barely) survive…
November 29, 2025 at 7:23 AM
It really isn’t nice having to fill in all the PIP forms and writing additional statements…
Essentially having to tell them just how shit your life is, and how useless you are, just to get enough to (barely) survive…
Essentially having to tell them just how shit your life is, and how useless you are, just to get enough to (barely) survive…
No one can prepare you for all unknowns… when you wake up from an operation thinking “that feels different”, and your body doesn’t work like it did.
And knowing that, despite what people try to tell you, it won’t “get better” over time… it’ll just be what it’ll be forever.
And knowing that, despite what people try to tell you, it won’t “get better” over time… it’ll just be what it’ll be forever.
November 28, 2025 at 7:18 PM
No one can prepare you for all unknowns… when you wake up from an operation thinking “that feels different”, and your body doesn’t work like it did.
And knowing that, despite what people try to tell you, it won’t “get better” over time… it’ll just be what it’ll be forever.
And knowing that, despite what people try to tell you, it won’t “get better” over time… it’ll just be what it’ll be forever.
When you cancel an appointment because you're not well enough to go, but make sure to cancel it the right way and ask to reschedule...
But they take you off the list anyway and just "discharge"...
That's one way to get waiting lists down I guess...
But they take you off the list anyway and just "discharge"...
That's one way to get waiting lists down I guess...
November 28, 2025 at 4:49 PM
When you cancel an appointment because you're not well enough to go, but make sure to cancel it the right way and ask to reschedule...
But they take you off the list anyway and just "discharge"...
That's one way to get waiting lists down I guess...
But they take you off the list anyway and just "discharge"...
That's one way to get waiting lists down I guess...
Every £1 a rich person earns when they are already rich, takes money out of the economy and has a negative economic multiplier.
The rich getting richer are the real drains on society, we have data to prove it, yet do nothing about it.
The rich getting richer are the real drains on society, we have data to prove it, yet do nothing about it.
November 28, 2025 at 3:19 PM
Every £1 a rich person earns when they are already rich, takes money out of the economy and has a negative economic multiplier.
The rich getting richer are the real drains on society, we have data to prove it, yet do nothing about it.
The rich getting richer are the real drains on society, we have data to prove it, yet do nothing about it.
This is where the level of hate and ableism is at now… wow.
As Jesus once put it: "what shall it profit a man, if he gain the whole world, and then have to pay the mansion tax?"
November 28, 2025 at 12:26 PM
This is where the level of hate and ableism is at now… wow.
Turns out I can’t sleep on my left side any more (the side I want to turn to when I have a bad bowel)…
Because the outside of my left leg has nerve damage so it’s like things are crawling over it.
And the inside has become so stiff it causes excruciating pain.
Yay…!
Because the outside of my left leg has nerve damage so it’s like things are crawling over it.
And the inside has become so stiff it causes excruciating pain.
Yay…!
November 28, 2025 at 8:12 AM
Turns out I can’t sleep on my left side any more (the side I want to turn to when I have a bad bowel)…
Because the outside of my left leg has nerve damage so it’s like things are crawling over it.
And the inside has become so stiff it causes excruciating pain.
Yay…!
Because the outside of my left leg has nerve damage so it’s like things are crawling over it.
And the inside has become so stiff it causes excruciating pain.
Yay…!
Chronic pain doesn’t just disappear overnight…
Getting to sleep is painful.
Waking up is painful.
And being asleep is painful… dreaming about the pain you wake up in… never actually getting restful sleep as a result.
Getting to sleep is painful.
Waking up is painful.
And being asleep is painful… dreaming about the pain you wake up in… never actually getting restful sleep as a result.
November 28, 2025 at 7:16 AM
Chronic pain doesn’t just disappear overnight…
Getting to sleep is painful.
Waking up is painful.
And being asleep is painful… dreaming about the pain you wake up in… never actually getting restful sleep as a result.
Getting to sleep is painful.
Waking up is painful.
And being asleep is painful… dreaming about the pain you wake up in… never actually getting restful sleep as a result.
Spent nearly 10 hours so far sorting out my PIP review…
Filling in the forms, collating and formatting medical evidence, writing personal supporting statements, etc…
All when I should be resting & recovering from surgery.
All to maintain just enough income/money to survive.
Filling in the forms, collating and formatting medical evidence, writing personal supporting statements, etc…
All when I should be resting & recovering from surgery.
All to maintain just enough income/money to survive.
November 27, 2025 at 6:53 PM
Spent nearly 10 hours so far sorting out my PIP review…
Filling in the forms, collating and formatting medical evidence, writing personal supporting statements, etc…
All when I should be resting & recovering from surgery.
All to maintain just enough income/money to survive.
Filling in the forms, collating and formatting medical evidence, writing personal supporting statements, etc…
All when I should be resting & recovering from surgery.
All to maintain just enough income/money to survive.
Imagine being such a disgusting person that you think it’s a win that you have just made it harder and more expensive for a disabled person to have transport that they need to get out of the house…
The depths we have sunk to…
The depths we have sunk to…
November 27, 2025 at 1:53 PM
Imagine being such a disgusting person that you think it’s a win that you have just made it harder and more expensive for a disabled person to have transport that they need to get out of the house…
The depths we have sunk to…
The depths we have sunk to…
All benefits are entitlements.
All benefits are 100% valid for anyone who qualifies.
Whether it be disability benefits, UC, out of work benefits, child benefit, State Pension, Carers Allowance, or anything else.
End the benefits stigma. We will all claim benefits in our lives.
All benefits are 100% valid for anyone who qualifies.
Whether it be disability benefits, UC, out of work benefits, child benefit, State Pension, Carers Allowance, or anything else.
End the benefits stigma. We will all claim benefits in our lives.
November 27, 2025 at 8:16 AM
All benefits are entitlements.
All benefits are 100% valid for anyone who qualifies.
Whether it be disability benefits, UC, out of work benefits, child benefit, State Pension, Carers Allowance, or anything else.
End the benefits stigma. We will all claim benefits in our lives.
All benefits are 100% valid for anyone who qualifies.
Whether it be disability benefits, UC, out of work benefits, child benefit, State Pension, Carers Allowance, or anything else.
End the benefits stigma. We will all claim benefits in our lives.
The real benefits scandal is that companies can pay employees such as low wage so the Government has to top it up for them to be able to survive.
And that the DWP knowingly enables and allows PIP assessors to lie on reports.
And that the DWP knowingly enables and allows PIP assessors to lie on reports.
November 27, 2025 at 7:28 AM
The real benefits scandal is that companies can pay employees such as low wage so the Government has to top it up for them to be able to survive.
And that the DWP knowingly enables and allows PIP assessors to lie on reports.
And that the DWP knowingly enables and allows PIP assessors to lie on reports.
If you don’t understand how disability benefits can be a net economic positive…
You don’t understand basic economics.
Every £1 you cut from disability benefits, you cut nearly £2 from the economy.
And you harm a vulnerable person.
You don’t understand basic economics.
Every £1 you cut from disability benefits, you cut nearly £2 from the economy.
And you harm a vulnerable person.
November 26, 2025 at 2:48 PM
If you don’t understand how disability benefits can be a net economic positive…
You don’t understand basic economics.
Every £1 you cut from disability benefits, you cut nearly £2 from the economy.
And you harm a vulnerable person.
You don’t understand basic economics.
Every £1 you cut from disability benefits, you cut nearly £2 from the economy.
And you harm a vulnerable person.
Disabled people who claim disability benefits, are just as eligible to that money as state pensioners who claim that benefit.
Both are and should be seen as entitlements for anyone who qualifies.
Both are and should be seen as entitlements for anyone who qualifies.
November 26, 2025 at 10:57 AM
Disabled people who claim disability benefits, are just as eligible to that money as state pensioners who claim that benefit.
Both are and should be seen as entitlements for anyone who qualifies.
Both are and should be seen as entitlements for anyone who qualifies.
When you’re struggling to cope with physical health conditions & symptoms, too many assume you’re struggling with mindset and mental health, and talking would help.
Actually this often isn’t true.
No amount of talking will ease the symptoms or exhaustion.
Actually this often isn’t true.
No amount of talking will ease the symptoms or exhaustion.
November 26, 2025 at 8:41 AM
When you’re struggling to cope with physical health conditions & symptoms, too many assume you’re struggling with mindset and mental health, and talking would help.
Actually this often isn’t true.
No amount of talking will ease the symptoms or exhaustion.
Actually this often isn’t true.
No amount of talking will ease the symptoms or exhaustion.
The owner of my car isn’t me.
It’s the Motability charity.
I just lease it from them, spending my higher-rate Mobility PIP, which I’d get into my bank account if it didn’t go to leasing the car.
At the end of the lease, the car goes back to Motability. I own nothing.
It’s the Motability charity.
I just lease it from them, spending my higher-rate Mobility PIP, which I’d get into my bank account if it didn’t go to leasing the car.
At the end of the lease, the car goes back to Motability. I own nothing.
November 26, 2025 at 7:18 AM
The owner of my car isn’t me.
It’s the Motability charity.
I just lease it from them, spending my higher-rate Mobility PIP, which I’d get into my bank account if it didn’t go to leasing the car.
At the end of the lease, the car goes back to Motability. I own nothing.
It’s the Motability charity.
I just lease it from them, spending my higher-rate Mobility PIP, which I’d get into my bank account if it didn’t go to leasing the car.
At the end of the lease, the car goes back to Motability. I own nothing.
So fucking exhausted right now.
I’ve got a body that changed overnight.
Got to manage things completely differently.
No predictability of symptoms, no trust in anything.
Genuinely don’t know how I’m going to get through this.
(Please, no advice, this is genuinely how I feel)
I’ve got a body that changed overnight.
Got to manage things completely differently.
No predictability of symptoms, no trust in anything.
Genuinely don’t know how I’m going to get through this.
(Please, no advice, this is genuinely how I feel)
November 25, 2025 at 4:51 PM
So fucking exhausted right now.
I’ve got a body that changed overnight.
Got to manage things completely differently.
No predictability of symptoms, no trust in anything.
Genuinely don’t know how I’m going to get through this.
(Please, no advice, this is genuinely how I feel)
I’ve got a body that changed overnight.
Got to manage things completely differently.
No predictability of symptoms, no trust in anything.
Genuinely don’t know how I’m going to get through this.
(Please, no advice, this is genuinely how I feel)
Oh joy PIP review forms have arrived…
Just what I need less than 2 weeks post-op…
Got to get ready for 6 months of anxiety and fighting against an ableist system for the bare minimum (which is what I already get)…
Just what I need less than 2 weeks post-op…
Got to get ready for 6 months of anxiety and fighting against an ableist system for the bare minimum (which is what I already get)…
November 25, 2025 at 3:12 PM
Oh joy PIP review forms have arrived…
Just what I need less than 2 weeks post-op…
Got to get ready for 6 months of anxiety and fighting against an ableist system for the bare minimum (which is what I already get)…
Just what I need less than 2 weeks post-op…
Got to get ready for 6 months of anxiety and fighting against an ableist system for the bare minimum (which is what I already get)…
There are actually many, very valid, reasons that someone may choose what's classed as a "luxury" car as their Motability vehicle.
Maybe it's the only dealership close.
Maybe the layout works.
Maybe it's what they're used to.
Maybe it's the only thing they can get in/out of...
Maybe it's the only dealership close.
Maybe the layout works.
Maybe it's what they're used to.
Maybe it's the only thing they can get in/out of...
November 25, 2025 at 11:14 AM
There are actually many, very valid, reasons that someone may choose what's classed as a "luxury" car as their Motability vehicle.
Maybe it's the only dealership close.
Maybe the layout works.
Maybe it's what they're used to.
Maybe it's the only thing they can get in/out of...
Maybe it's the only dealership close.
Maybe the layout works.
Maybe it's what they're used to.
Maybe it's the only thing they can get in/out of...
Ableism due to ignorance is still ableism, by the way.
Impact is more important than intent.
Impact is more important than intent.
November 25, 2025 at 8:56 AM
Ableism due to ignorance is still ableism, by the way.
Impact is more important than intent.
Impact is more important than intent.
Niche post-proctectomy post…
But fucking hell my arse crack is itchy… the glue is starting to peel off and it’s super irritating.
Also seeps a bit of fluid which is… pleasant…
All these things they should tell you about but don’t.
But fucking hell my arse crack is itchy… the glue is starting to peel off and it’s super irritating.
Also seeps a bit of fluid which is… pleasant…
All these things they should tell you about but don’t.
November 25, 2025 at 7:25 AM
Niche post-proctectomy post…
But fucking hell my arse crack is itchy… the glue is starting to peel off and it’s super irritating.
Also seeps a bit of fluid which is… pleasant…
All these things they should tell you about but don’t.
But fucking hell my arse crack is itchy… the glue is starting to peel off and it’s super irritating.
Also seeps a bit of fluid which is… pleasant…
All these things they should tell you about but don’t.
Immediately when I woke up from 4.5 hours of surgery, I said “this feels very different”…
Even before I’d looked at it felt my new stoma.
Turns out I was right, it is very different.
Don’t tell us that we don’t know our bodies intrinsically.
Even before I’d looked at it felt my new stoma.
Turns out I was right, it is very different.
Don’t tell us that we don’t know our bodies intrinsically.
November 24, 2025 at 3:07 PM
Immediately when I woke up from 4.5 hours of surgery, I said “this feels very different”…
Even before I’d looked at it felt my new stoma.
Turns out I was right, it is very different.
Don’t tell us that we don’t know our bodies intrinsically.
Even before I’d looked at it felt my new stoma.
Turns out I was right, it is very different.
Don’t tell us that we don’t know our bodies intrinsically.
My mobility issues are definitely worse since the operation.
The outside of my leg has no superficial sensation any more... And I've now got really bad stiffness in my hip joint which periodically cracks something in there.
Oh joy...
The outside of my leg has no superficial sensation any more... And I've now got really bad stiffness in my hip joint which periodically cracks something in there.
Oh joy...
November 24, 2025 at 10:36 AM
My mobility issues are definitely worse since the operation.
The outside of my leg has no superficial sensation any more... And I've now got really bad stiffness in my hip joint which periodically cracks something in there.
Oh joy...
The outside of my leg has no superficial sensation any more... And I've now got really bad stiffness in my hip joint which periodically cracks something in there.
Oh joy...
It’s easy to tell people “you’ll find a way to manage”, or “It’ll be okay”
But the truth is that you can’t promise that, and no one can know with certainty.
We might do, but we might not. And there’s no shame or failure if we don’t
But the truth is that you can’t promise that, and no one can know with certainty.
We might do, but we might not. And there’s no shame or failure if we don’t
November 24, 2025 at 8:36 AM
It’s easy to tell people “you’ll find a way to manage”, or “It’ll be okay”
But the truth is that you can’t promise that, and no one can know with certainty.
We might do, but we might not. And there’s no shame or failure if we don’t
But the truth is that you can’t promise that, and no one can know with certainty.
We might do, but we might not. And there’s no shame or failure if we don’t
If you’re disabled…
You’re “genuinely disabled”
That’s it. It’s that simple.
You’re “genuinely disabled”
That’s it. It’s that simple.
November 24, 2025 at 7:09 AM
If you’re disabled…
You’re “genuinely disabled”
That’s it. It’s that simple.
You’re “genuinely disabled”
That’s it. It’s that simple.
This is what a colostomy on a battered body looks like.
If you don’t like it, that’s not my issue.
This is my body that has survived major surgery and I now have to learn to live with.
It’s not pretty, far from perfect, and it’s difficult to manage.
But it’s my body.
If you don’t like it, that’s not my issue.
This is my body that has survived major surgery and I now have to learn to live with.
It’s not pretty, far from perfect, and it’s difficult to manage.
But it’s my body.
November 23, 2025 at 5:07 PM
This is what a colostomy on a battered body looks like.
If you don’t like it, that’s not my issue.
This is my body that has survived major surgery and I now have to learn to live with.
It’s not pretty, far from perfect, and it’s difficult to manage.
But it’s my body.
If you don’t like it, that’s not my issue.
This is my body that has survived major surgery and I now have to learn to live with.
It’s not pretty, far from perfect, and it’s difficult to manage.
But it’s my body.