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Tez (reading Megan Abbott's EL DORADO DRIVE)
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Cis. She. MDD, ASD, ADD, AIH. Melbourne/Naarm/Narrm. Fiction reader, BlackMilk Galaxy collector, SW client. TezMillerOz on various platforms: WordPress, X, Facebook, Instagram, Threads, etc. Book notes on Goodreads, and sometimes Amazon UK.
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Tez (reading Megan Abbott's EL DORADO DRIVE) @tezmilleroz.bsky.social · 8h
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Tez (reading Megan Abbott's EL DORADO DRIVE) @tezmilleroz.bsky.social · 8h
Perception is kind of a thing with me. If I'm going to be perceived negatively or creepily, then I'd prefer not to be perceived at all. But I can't control people's minds, so I don't get a choice in how other people perceive me. The best I can do is block to avoid being perceived at all.
Perception is kind of a thing with me. If I'm going to be perceived negatively or creepily, then I'd prefer not to be perceived at all. But I can't control people's minds, so I don't get a choice in how other people perceive me. The best I can do is block to avoid being perceived at all.
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Tez (reading Megan Abbott's EL DORADO DRIVE) @tezmilleroz.bsky.social · 8h
And don't give me that "but people are sexually harassed all the time & they don't refuse to interact with people" excuse.

I'm not a particularly social person. I'm an active person online, though, & frequently block accounts I've witnessed being creepy to other people, so they

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And don't give me that "but people are sexually harassed all the time & they don't refuse to interact with people" excuse. I'm not a particularly social person. I'm an active person online, though, & frequently block accounts I've witnessed being creepy to other people, so they don't find out that I exist. But you can't pre-block all the creeps, so some still get through. So while I haven't been sexually harassed "often", that it's happened at all bothers me. And it should bother me, because sexual harassment should *not* be normalised. So if you're a woman paying for SW, you appear as easy prey because they figure you're up for it. Not with creeps in our DMs, we're not.
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Tez (reading Megan Abbott's EL DORADO DRIVE) @tezmilleroz.bsky.social · 8h
"Why don't you want to interact with other clients?"

I've been sexually harrassed by other clients before.

I still get nervous when there are blokes with private profiles following my social media accounts. Makes me feel a little unsafe.

But I don't need a reason to not want to

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"Why don't you want to interact with other clients?" I've been sexually harrassed by other clients before. I still get nervous when there are blokes with private profiles following my social media accounts. Makes me feel a little unsafe. But I don't need a reason to not want to interact. That I don't want to should be accepted.
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Tez (reading Megan Abbott's EL DORADO DRIVE) @tezmilleroz.bsky.social · 8h
I check listing directories daily for new-to-me people to follow on social media. Two things I've noticed recently:

Even though on some sites (like Ivy Societe & Scarlet Blue) there are specific sections for duos, I've still seen duos listed in solo sections instead.

Some

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I check listing directories daily for new-to-me people to follow on social media. Two things I've noticed recently: Even though on some sites (like Ivy Societe & Scarlet Blue) there are specific sections for duos, I've still seen duos listed in solo sections instead. Some profiles on Ivy Societe have moved from the Non-binary section to the Female section.
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Tez (reading Megan Abbott's EL DORADO DRIVE) @tezmilleroz.bsky.social · 9h
Just read that it's Depression Awareness Month.

Pretty sure most people are aware of it. I certainly am.

But sometimes people have specific ideas of what it should look like. So I understand that it may come across that I *don't* have it, just because I never self-harm or harm

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Just read that it's Depression Awareness Month. Pretty sure most people are aware of it. I certainly am. But sometimes people have specific ideas of what it should look like. So I understand that it may come across that I *don't* have it, just because I never self-harm or harm others. Or use substances. I very much do have Major Depressive Disorder, though. And I take my daily medication like a good patient. Even though I just spend a year with my venlafaxine not working efficiently.
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AIR TANTRA @airtantra.bsky.social · 17h
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Tez (reading Megan Abbott's EL DORADO DRIVE) @tezmilleroz.bsky.social · 10h
@merlinslaugh.bsky.social Lunch!
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Jeanne (she/they) @fangirljeanne.bsky.social · 1d
Alchemised can never be disentangled from the legacy of JK Rowling’s campaign of hate against trans people, but even if it could it is so poorly executed that it ends up propping up the very oppressive systems it claims to be critiquing.

Basically, it’s an ICE agent/immigrant woman of color Romance
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Tez (reading Megan Abbott's EL DORADO DRIVE) @tezmilleroz.bsky.social · 10h
Enjoy your ballpit 🙂
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Tez (reading Megan Abbott's EL DORADO DRIVE) @tezmilleroz.bsky.social · 1d
Ultimately my dream would be to meet & humanize myself to as many industry people as possible. Like a provider-client speed-dating event. (If I could avoid interacting with other clients.)

Make an event like this happen (during a morning or early afternoon), #SWers of #Naarm/#Melbourne...
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Tez (reading Megan Abbott's EL DORADO DRIVE) @tezmilleroz.bsky.social · 1d
Farfetched social date ideas I'd consider paying for (but they'd likely never happen):

Being your +1 at a daytime...

-coffee catch-up with your industry mates.

-munch you regularly attend.

-witness a photo shoot.

-witness solo content creation.

-play party.

-helping with admin tasks.
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Tez (reading Megan Abbott's EL DORADO DRIVE) @tezmilleroz.bsky.social · 1d
That could be misinterpreted as a saviour complex or whatever. But it absolutely is *not*. I ain't saving myself, let alone anyone else.

And it's not some power play to wield finances over people. I don't look down upon anyone. I see people as equals. Higher than me in terms of

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That could be misinterpreted as a saviour complex or whatever. But it absolutely is *not*. I ain't saving myself, let alone anyone else. And it's not some power play to wield finances over people. I don't look down upon anyone. I see people as equals. Higher than me in terms of knowledge, wisdom, and expertise, but otherwise equal. I don't want to lord over anyone. Treat people how you want to be treated. Set an example. Be the good you want to see in the world. I see more availability, I think, "This is where I can do the most good." And I'd get to have my pick of timeslots. Short notice! I read people booking for 2026, but I can't even look beyond 7 days into my future. To reiterate: not a saviour or power thing. Just wanting to be the least intrusive. Which is pretty much my raison d'etre. If you can't be a positive, then at least be as less of a negative as you can. Psychology: Feeling like a burden to my fam.
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Tez (reading Megan Abbott's EL DORADO DRIVE) @tezmilleroz.bsky.social · 1d
But I digress.

I remember reading how some people choose to appear busier or more available than they are as a marketing tool. But that wouldn't work on me (if I was the target audience). I see people mentioning having "very few timeslots available, so book in now"... I think,

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But I digress. I remember reading how some people choose to appear busier or more available than they are as a marketing tool. But that wouldn't work on me (if I was the target audience). I see people mentioning having "very few timeslots available, so book in now"... I think, "I'll wait until they've got more time." Like my brain interprets busy as being in danger of burnout or needing a break or more expensive or unavailable. Whereas if I see someone mention that business is dead or slow, I'm much more likely to consider booking. Because they'd welcome it more, or be more appreciative, or could really benefit from it in some way? Thinking, "It would be a good deed if I did this. I would be helpful. Easing burden, rather than contributing to it. Putting some good out into the world." Of course, that's overstating what the reality probably is. But the psychology of it... If I hear business is slow or dead, I feel something like sympathy. I care more. Thinking I could make a positive difference. Delusional, probably. But it seems realistic to my eejit brain.
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Tez (reading Megan Abbott's EL DORADO DRIVE) @tezmilleroz.bsky.social · 1d
The thing about not using social media to sell something means whatever I post is just on my mind. I don't come up with lies, or try to give an impression that isn't real.

Then the whole autistic trait of taking things at face value. That's why I think people selling their

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The thing about not using social media to sell something means whatever I post is just on my mind. I don't come up with lies, or try to give an impression that isn't real. Then the whole autistic trait of taking things at face value. That's why I think people selling their services of being objects or fantasies isn't wise, because it gives off the wrong impression of how people should treat you - especially with so many neurodivergent people who may take things literally. Mind you, I just treat everyone like people deserving of politeness, respect, and appreciation. Haven't been told *not* to do that yet. I can adapt to be more selfish & bitcht, but I couldn't degrade or humiliate. My personal ethics would literally prevent me from doing so. (Even if objectification, degradation, and humiliation are supposedly consensual, the logic part of my brain wouldn't be able to reconcile that.)
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Tez (reading Megan Abbott's EL DORADO DRIVE) @tezmilleroz.bsky.social · 1d
Have learned that if you want me to do something, you have to tell me to do so. Then I will do it. Simple. I apparently won't obey my own orders, but I will obey other people's. Is that just the sub in me, or some other kind of psychology at play? (Also, you can apparently tell me

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Have learned that if you want me to do something, you have to tell me to do so. Then I will do it. Simple. I apparently won't obey my own orders, but I will obey other people's. Is that just the sub in me, or some other kind of psychology at play? (Also, you can apparently tell me to tell you something [including what to do] & I will. What can I say? I'm agreeable.)
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Tez (reading Megan Abbott's EL DORADO DRIVE) @tezmilleroz.bsky.social · 1d
Ch*ms*x? No, definitely not. I'd be personally offended if someone couldn't deal with my presence when they're stone cold sober.

(Psychology: Being sober my entire life, while living with an active alcoholic [*never* in recovery] my entire life.)
Ch*ms*x? No, definitely not. I'd be personally offended if someone couldn't deal with my presence when they're stone cold sober. (Psychology: Being sober my entire life, while living with an active alcoholic [*never* in recovery] my entire life.)
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Tez (reading Megan Abbott's EL DORADO DRIVE) @tezmilleroz.bsky.social · 1d
Ego has been boosted, so I'm back to my obnoxious self. (Overnight was bloody awful.)

Wishing y'all the best. Look after yourselves & others. Remind people they're appreciated so they don't forget. Spread the goodwill.
Ego has been boosted, so I'm back to my obnoxious self. (Overnight was bloody awful.) Wishing y'all the best. Look after yourselves & others. Remind people they're appreciated so they don't forget. Spread the goodwill.
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CAMERON WILSON @cameronwilson.bsky.social · 1d
me when i overshare and immediately regret it afterwards
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Tez (reading Megan Abbott's EL DORADO DRIVE) @tezmilleroz.bsky.social · 1d
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TMI

I thought my mouth would be too dry for a BBBJ, but apparently it's not? 🤷‍♀️ Learn something every day...
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Tez (reading Megan Abbott's EL DORADO DRIVE) @tezmilleroz.bsky.social · 1d
How have I managed to make more eye-contact with someone I've met thrice compared to someone I've met countless more times? Because he told me to? Is that what I need to do things?
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Tez (reading Megan Abbott's EL DORADO DRIVE) @tezmilleroz.bsky.social · 2d
I'm also nosey AF 👍 Not enough to ask questions or get involved. But when I come across stuff, I devour it 😉
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Tez (reading Megan Abbott's EL DORADO DRIVE) @tezmilleroz.bsky.social · 2d
Your cat is stealing the scene 😉
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Tez (reading Megan Abbott's EL DORADO DRIVE) @tezmilleroz.bsky.social · 2d
Welcome 🙂
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Tez (reading Megan Abbott's EL DORADO DRIVE) @tezmilleroz.bsky.social · 2d
@merlinslaugh.bsky.social Lunch!
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