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loxocele
@loxocele.bsky.social
personal account of a proudly neurodivergent writer / researcher / parent / human. (also, there are cats.)
“I love air & I don’t love air. I don’t love air because it’s the thing that’s keeping me from flying. I do love air because otherwise I couldn’t breathe.”

—The MiniCritter, 4y4m
August 16, 2025 at 12:28 AM
an entire victorian’s worth of sqft, and EVERY SINGLE CAT (resident + foster = 5) apparently _needs_ to be in the bathroom watching me tub-soak. 😹
August 1, 2025 at 2:32 AM
The MiniCritter (age 4y3m): “MOM, I’m DONE!!”

me, eating right next to him: (*nods*) “Bowl in dishwasher, please.”

The MiniCritter (exasperated): “THEN can I play with my penis?!!!”

#YourBodyIsForYou #ButNotAtTheDinnerTable
July 22, 2025 at 1:00 AM
tfw you research tenaciously to answer a question…

…only to have your gratification in answering it overshadowed by your disappointment at how stupid the answer is. 😝
June 3, 2025 at 2:22 AM
ah yes, that nervewracking stage of pregnancy when you can no longer see ~half your body & most personal grooming becomes blind guesswork with sharp objects. 🙃
May 28, 2025 at 4:09 PM
and in the middle of all this — sometime during second or third sleep — i dreamed something new.

something quietly hopeful (under the usual “anxiety dream” surface).

i’ll take it.
January 23, 2025 at 7:08 PM
so i’ll say this about post-covid anosmia & hypogeusia:

if you subsequently get hit with a violent norovirus (or food poisoning?), not being able to smell & only minimally being able to taste really does come in handy. 🙃
January 23, 2025 at 6:13 PM
along these lines, i have recently been fixated on Movies About Lesbians Who Get Happy Endings.

friends, please recommend more of same: must include lesbian/queer ~women, must include happy endings, absolutely no suicide or violence or permanent heartbreak pls. ❤️
i Almost Never spend time watching stuff (unless it’s a social activity with other people), but every 3-4 blue moons there are exceptions — times when my brain will neither audiobook nor sleep & refuses to settle down even with music.
November 15, 2024 at 4:17 PM
i Almost Never spend time watching stuff (unless it’s a social activity with other people), but every 3-4 blue moons there are exceptions — times when my brain will neither audiobook nor sleep & refuses to settle down even with music.
November 15, 2024 at 4:14 PM
i’m still sorting what i feel safe saying in a 100% public forum, but hey: thought i’d put up a recent post to say HI ALL Y’ALL to the current migration away from the bad place(s). <3
November 10, 2024 at 10:51 PM
the great sigh of relief that you sigh when the storm breaks and—

(*ahhhhh*)

—for a hot second, everything is Right again in your own personal microcosm.
November 21, 2023 at 7:09 AM
is iceland airwaves on bluesky? (are hashtags still a thing?)

am in reykjavík. am at #airwaves23 (in oldskool parlance). anyone else? <3
November 2, 2023 at 10:04 PM
my brain: (*makes random connection!*)

i am about to make a joke abt this when i realize… my friend will not know WTF i am talking about.

me: (*starts laughing*)

friend: (*looks puzzled*)

me: (*laughs harder*)

friend: (*so quizzical*)

me: (*laughing too hard to talk*)

…hi, i’m autistic. 😁
October 6, 2023 at 12:14 AM
shoutout to the crew of tonight’s delta 2442, because *omg*: so many of the passengers within earshot of me are absolutely insufferable. 😝

#beverageservice
September 26, 2023 at 2:56 AM
that other site FB is aggressively advertising their dating service to me, and each time i just laugh and think, “Oh HONEY.”
September 26, 2023 at 1:50 AM
also trying to sort my voice here — all i knew when i joined was, “oh, people are excited about it”; i has no idea the whole premise was Always Public.

since my personal account in Birdland had been private since like 2010… huh. personal+public is an odd thing to wrap my head around.
September 23, 2023 at 2:33 AM
going through & requesting Last Downloads on that other site — not just for myself (15+ years on my personal account / long locked out of my professional account), but for my two kid quotes accounts as well (one per each kid, of course).

feels like trying to salvage after a flood or a fire.
September 23, 2023 at 2:30 AM
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I said this on the bad site, but let’s not assume this collapse is just overconfident mediocrity at work. There are a lot of investors on that list for whom the collapse of the most potent activist organizing platform in history is worth a lot more than $44B.
July 2, 2023 at 2:05 AM
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US customs and border protection are using "AI" to try to detect "sentiment & emotion."

This is a terrible idea.

You cannot control for all variants of affective display across even one cultural context population, let alone all of the cultures on Earth, & it's DEEPLY DANGEROUS to think you can.
The A.I. Surveillance Tool DHS Uses to Detect ‘Sentiment and Emotion’
Internal DHS and corporate documents detail the agency’s relationship with Fivecast, a company that promises to scan for “risk terms and phrases” online.
www.404media.co
August 26, 2023 at 12:33 AM
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According to the list of the richest people, the 50 richest own together 3245 billions of dollars.

Considering that 50k could change the life of a single household, if each one of those 50 people would donate only ONE of their billions, we could drastically change the life of 1 million households.
August 25, 2023 at 6:36 PM
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Honestly, I hope that the BlueSky devs get this. When I hear "Users can build their own safety tools using the API," it sounds like "If you want to avoid targeted harassment, learn to code."

And that...does not seem like a promising approach.
was arguing with a fediverse/mastodon person yesterday and i just hope these people know that 99% of social media users just wanna post little sentences online for their buddies and followers. i don’t want to do homework before learning how to post in a hyperspecific community
July 24, 2023 at 3:07 PM
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I create an infographic on Bluesky Feeds for anyone who is struggling to understand how to access feeds.
July 23, 2023 at 5:46 AM
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the concept of “executive dysfunction” doesn’t at all look at the societal factors that impact our memory, our ability to concentrate, how we think, etc. and instead says that “executive dysfunction” is solely the result of an individual person’s brain “dysfunction”
July 23, 2023 at 10:18 AM