Stella Harris
@stellaharris.bsky.social
Freelance writer, published author, intimacy educator, mediator.
📚Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships
📚 The Ultimate Guide to Threesomes
☠️Horror enthusiast.
😷Wear a mask.
www.stellaharris.net/links
📚Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships
📚 The Ultimate Guide to Threesomes
☠️Horror enthusiast.
😷Wear a mask.
www.stellaharris.net/links
I was supposed to give a talk later this week, but the person hiring me just backed out. They said that upon further reflection, they can't afford me - it's just not in the budget for their event.
The conversation could (should) have ended there.
The conversation could (should) have ended there.
December 15, 2025 at 8:24 PM
I was supposed to give a talk later this week, but the person hiring me just backed out. They said that upon further reflection, they can't afford me - it's just not in the budget for their event.
The conversation could (should) have ended there.
The conversation could (should) have ended there.
As a sex & kink educator, I don't always feel I have the expertise to meet the current moment. But apparently the safety risks of hog tying people have become relevant outside the dungeon/bedroom, so here we go:
Bondage comes with hidden risks, including nerve damage and positional asphyxiation.
Bondage comes with hidden risks, including nerve damage and positional asphyxiation.
October 6, 2025 at 9:46 PM
As a sex & kink educator, I don't always feel I have the expertise to meet the current moment. But apparently the safety risks of hog tying people have become relevant outside the dungeon/bedroom, so here we go:
Bondage comes with hidden risks, including nerve damage and positional asphyxiation.
Bondage comes with hidden risks, including nerve damage and positional asphyxiation.
Hey Portland, want to learn rope bondage? I’m doing a three week series this month: Rope 101, Rope 201, and a Rope Lab for practice. Starting next week, masks required!! forbiddentickets.com/events/stell...
October 6, 2025 at 9:29 PM
Hey Portland, want to learn rope bondage? I’m doing a three week series this month: Rope 101, Rope 201, and a Rope Lab for practice. Starting next week, masks required!! forbiddentickets.com/events/stell...
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For Spooktober I’m going to try to recommend a sleeper horror movie each day.
Today’s is ‘Cam’, which is not just a terrific horror movie — not just smart about what it explains and what it doesn’t — but also has quietly smart cultural politics about sex work.
Learn nothing, just jump in.
Today’s is ‘Cam’, which is not just a terrific horror movie — not just smart about what it explains and what it doesn’t — but also has quietly smart cultural politics about sex work.
Learn nothing, just jump in.
Watch Cam | Netflix Official Site
After a look-alike takes over her account, a cam girl with a growing fan base sets out to identify the mysterious culprit and reclaim her own identity.
www.netflix.com
October 1, 2025 at 7:15 PM
For Spooktober I’m going to try to recommend a sleeper horror movie each day.
Today’s is ‘Cam’, which is not just a terrific horror movie — not just smart about what it explains and what it doesn’t — but also has quietly smart cultural politics about sex work.
Learn nothing, just jump in.
Today’s is ‘Cam’, which is not just a terrific horror movie — not just smart about what it explains and what it doesn’t — but also has quietly smart cultural politics about sex work.
Learn nothing, just jump in.
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Covid is a social justice issue, especially now that governments have abandoned us in favour of “you do you” policies that leave the vulnerable by the wayside
Wearing a mask is a form of resistance
It protects your health & the health of your community
It says you don’t view others as expendable
Wearing a mask is a form of resistance
It protects your health & the health of your community
It says you don’t view others as expendable
September 21, 2025 at 3:34 AM
Covid is a social justice issue, especially now that governments have abandoned us in favour of “you do you” policies that leave the vulnerable by the wayside
Wearing a mask is a form of resistance
It protects your health & the health of your community
It says you don’t view others as expendable
Wearing a mask is a form of resistance
It protects your health & the health of your community
It says you don’t view others as expendable
It’s that time of year again! Just in time for Kinktober, you can get a ton of kink and BDSM classes for one low price. One of my classes is included, along with lots of other amazing educators.
Check it out: stellaharris--domsubliving.thrivecart.com/kink-bundle/
Check it out: stellaharris--domsubliving.thrivecart.com/kink-bundle/
September 18, 2025 at 11:13 PM
It’s that time of year again! Just in time for Kinktober, you can get a ton of kink and BDSM classes for one low price. One of my classes is included, along with lots of other amazing educators.
Check it out: stellaharris--domsubliving.thrivecart.com/kink-bundle/
Check it out: stellaharris--domsubliving.thrivecart.com/kink-bundle/
I’m teaching a free online class on Tuesday, September 9th. (RSVP Required)
Come learn all about kink communication!
forbiddentickets.com/events/portl...
Come learn all about kink communication!
forbiddentickets.com/events/portl...
September 5, 2025 at 5:05 PM
I’m teaching a free online class on Tuesday, September 9th. (RSVP Required)
Come learn all about kink communication!
forbiddentickets.com/events/portl...
Come learn all about kink communication!
forbiddentickets.com/events/portl...
Advice needed! I’m working with someone on a research, writing, and performance project. They just dropped our notes into ChatGPT and produced a script. I’m completely horrified and it has sucked the joy out of something I was looking forward to. I’m also conflict avoidant. What do I do?
September 3, 2025 at 12:30 AM
Advice needed! I’m working with someone on a research, writing, and performance project. They just dropped our notes into ChatGPT and produced a script. I’m completely horrified and it has sucked the joy out of something I was looking forward to. I’m also conflict avoidant. What do I do?
I’m reading a rental contract for an upcoming class. Included on the list of “prohibited items & activities” is “summoning of spirits.”
SUMMONING OF SPIRITS
Just snuck into the list alongside things like smoking and glitter.
I need to know what happened to prompt this inclusion.
SUMMONING OF SPIRITS
Just snuck into the list alongside things like smoking and glitter.
I need to know what happened to prompt this inclusion.
July 25, 2025 at 1:18 AM
I’m reading a rental contract for an upcoming class. Included on the list of “prohibited items & activities” is “summoning of spirits.”
SUMMONING OF SPIRITS
Just snuck into the list alongside things like smoking and glitter.
I need to know what happened to prompt this inclusion.
SUMMONING OF SPIRITS
Just snuck into the list alongside things like smoking and glitter.
I need to know what happened to prompt this inclusion.
Happy Summerween.
June 28, 2025 at 5:58 PM
Happy Summerween.
Me, every time I try to incorporate suggestions from an editor.
a man with a beard is smiling with the words writing is hard below him
Alt: Chuck from Supernatural with the words writing is hard below him
media.tenor.com
June 23, 2025 at 8:10 PM
Me, every time I try to incorporate suggestions from an editor.
Just intentionally bumped into a man at the grocery store because he was blocking the whole aisle and didn’t move when he saw me coming. (Thanks to the only benefit of peri-menopause: giving absolutely zero fucks.*)
June 8, 2025 at 11:21 PM
Just intentionally bumped into a man at the grocery store because he was blocking the whole aisle and didn’t move when he saw me coming. (Thanks to the only benefit of peri-menopause: giving absolutely zero fucks.*)
I’ve been invited to a sexy PowerPoint play party. Yes, that’s exactly what it sounds like. PowerPoint presentations followed by sex. I feel like my entire life has been leading to this moment. (Super extra bonus, it’s a Covid cautious party with everyone doing plus life testing before unmasking!)
June 3, 2025 at 2:48 AM
I’ve been invited to a sexy PowerPoint play party. Yes, that’s exactly what it sounds like. PowerPoint presentations followed by sex. I feel like my entire life has been leading to this moment. (Super extra bonus, it’s a Covid cautious party with everyone doing plus life testing before unmasking!)
I’m not sure that tattoos are actually cheaper than therapy, but they are better for instant gratification! (Made by Stacy Fevinger.)
May 30, 2025 at 4:12 AM
I’m not sure that tattoos are actually cheaper than therapy, but they are better for instant gratification! (Made by Stacy Fevinger.)
I worked in animal welfare for a decade and the only animal that left me with a permanent scar is a hamster.
May 27, 2025 at 10:31 PM
I worked in animal welfare for a decade and the only animal that left me with a permanent scar is a hamster.
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The “damsel in distress” has captured imaginations all the way back to early myths and legends. If you're curious about "damsel in distress" style bondage, head over to the Twisted Monk blog where @stellaharris.bsky.social talks about the how and why in THE DAMSEL IN DISTRESS.
The Damsel in Distress - Stella Harris
When I teach a beginner’s rope bondage class, people always want to know what they can do with what they’ve learned. What kind of scene can they put together with just a few basic ties? And that’s…
www.twistedmonk.com
May 27, 2025 at 9:01 PM
The “damsel in distress” has captured imaginations all the way back to early myths and legends. If you're curious about "damsel in distress" style bondage, head over to the Twisted Monk blog where @stellaharris.bsky.social talks about the how and why in THE DAMSEL IN DISTRESS.
Excited to being back my bisexuality class this year, along with the fab @millennialsexpert.bsky.social as a co-presenter! Grab your tickets for this online class: www.sheboptheshop.com/its-not-a-ph...
May 20, 2025 at 7:13 PM
Excited to being back my bisexuality class this year, along with the fab @millennialsexpert.bsky.social as a co-presenter! Grab your tickets for this online class: www.sheboptheshop.com/its-not-a-ph...
Goth squirrel on my patio.
May 2, 2025 at 11:11 PM
Goth squirrel on my patio.
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I have a deep aversion to local TV news, but now I am ON it because last year, the power company Arizona Public Service cut off electricity to my mother’s house outside of Phoenix, killing her.
82-year-old APS customer died after power was shut off in May 2024
An 82-year-old woman died in May 2024 after her power was cut off on a very hot day. Her son and an advocate say this shows an issue with state policies.
www.12news.com
April 23, 2025 at 2:55 AM
I have a deep aversion to local TV news, but now I am ON it because last year, the power company Arizona Public Service cut off electricity to my mother’s house outside of Phoenix, killing her.
Tell me the horror movie that started your love of horror
April 19, 2025 at 4:52 AM
Tell me the horror movie that started your love of horror
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Please ignore tired pieces in publications like the Atlantic that are still trying to stigmatize mask wearing.
Wearing a mask to prevent sickness from airborne viruses is a science-informed position, and it has been that way for over 100 years.
Wearing a mask to prevent sickness from airborne viruses is a science-informed position, and it has been that way for over 100 years.
April 3, 2025 at 11:16 PM
Please ignore tired pieces in publications like the Atlantic that are still trying to stigmatize mask wearing.
Wearing a mask to prevent sickness from airborne viruses is a science-informed position, and it has been that way for over 100 years.
Wearing a mask to prevent sickness from airborne viruses is a science-informed position, and it has been that way for over 100 years.
Finally made a couple of mask chains! Clearly a work in progress.
April 2, 2025 at 7:45 PM
Finally made a couple of mask chains! Clearly a work in progress.
Would be cool if the satanists made wearing N95s one of their religious practices, so they could challenge mask bans in court.
March 26, 2025 at 8:16 PM
Would be cool if the satanists made wearing N95s one of their religious practices, so they could challenge mask bans in court.
Like all of my author friends, my books were part of the content stolen to train AI.
“Meta went to great lengths to cover up its use of pirated works. The company methodically removed all traces of copyright information, from the notices in LibGen's dataset to copyright paragraphs in scientific papers and source metadata.” the-decoder.com/metas-libgen...
March 20, 2025 at 11:35 PM
Like all of my author friends, my books were part of the content stolen to train AI.