Jules (they/them)
@jmpurnell.bsky.social
Sexuality Educator | Intimacy Coach | Restorative Justice | Speaker & Writer 🖤🌿✨
https://linktr.ee/jmpurnell
https://linktr.ee/jmpurnell
Happening TOMORROW! Still time to sign up for the Kink & Non-Monogamy Conference — I will be presenting RACK, RASH, & RJ, a workshop on creating safer spaces within BDSM/kink community from a restorative justice perspective.
Register here: www.kissandtellmagazine.com/shop/confere...
Register here: www.kissandtellmagazine.com/shop/confere...
Conference - K&NM - Jules - Kiss & Tell Magazine
www.kissandtellmagazine.com
October 16, 2025 at 1:06 PM
Happening TOMORROW! Still time to sign up for the Kink & Non-Monogamy Conference — I will be presenting RACK, RASH, & RJ, a workshop on creating safer spaces within BDSM/kink community from a restorative justice perspective.
Register here: www.kissandtellmagazine.com/shop/confere...
Register here: www.kissandtellmagazine.com/shop/confere...
Have you heard The Telepathy Tapes? This wildly popular podcast seems to present compelling evidence that non-speaking autistic people can communicate telepathically, but what’s really going on, and how might it be promoting potentially harmful practices?
jmpurnell.substack.com/p/sex-lies-a...
jmpurnell.substack.com/p/sex-lies-a...
Sex, Lies, and The Telepathy Tapes
Facilitated Communication, Abuse, and Magical Ableism
jmpurnell.substack.com
August 7, 2025 at 6:24 PM
Have you heard The Telepathy Tapes? This wildly popular podcast seems to present compelling evidence that non-speaking autistic people can communicate telepathically, but what’s really going on, and how might it be promoting potentially harmful practices?
jmpurnell.substack.com/p/sex-lies-a...
jmpurnell.substack.com/p/sex-lies-a...
Have you ever wanted to go to a sex positive event, but aren’t sure how to find them or what to expect when you get there? Check out my latest Substack post to learn more!
open.substack.com/pub/jmpurnel...
open.substack.com/pub/jmpurnel...
August 1, 2025 at 2:07 PM
Have you ever wanted to go to a sex positive event, but aren’t sure how to find them or what to expect when you get there? Check out my latest Substack post to learn more!
open.substack.com/pub/jmpurnel...
open.substack.com/pub/jmpurnel...
I often find myself wishing there was an antidote to all of the garbage advice about dating geared at men. So I decided to roll up my sleeves and offer some advice myself.
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July 12, 2025 at 2:29 PM
I often find myself wishing there was an antidote to all of the garbage advice about dating geared at men. So I decided to roll up my sleeves and offer some advice myself.
open.substack.com/pub/jmpurnel...
open.substack.com/pub/jmpurnel...
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When most folks hear the word "consent," they often think it's mostly about some version of "getting permission". That is important, but it's also a bare minimum for relating.
When we say "consent" we mean something much richer!
When we say "consent" we mean something much richer!
July 11, 2025 at 8:17 PM
When most folks hear the word "consent," they often think it's mostly about some version of "getting permission". That is important, but it's also a bare minimum for relating.
When we say "consent" we mean something much richer!
When we say "consent" we mean something much richer!
♾️💜
Happy Week of Visibility for Non-monogamy! 🌈 It's time to be open about being open.
This week is dedicated to celebrating non-monogamous communities, families, and relationships. Learn more about #NonMonogamyVisibility and @openloveorg.bsky.social at www.weekofvisibility.com
This week is dedicated to celebrating non-monogamous communities, families, and relationships. Learn more about #NonMonogamyVisibility and @openloveorg.bsky.social at www.weekofvisibility.com
July 7, 2025 at 4:08 PM
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In my Sexuality and Society class last semester, we covered the topic of fantasy. Most people are fine with having fantasies and never acting them out. Your fantasies are fine, even if you’d never do it in real life!
You’re not your fantasies, even though they’re an important part of who you are.
You’re also not bad because your fantasies are violent, submissive, messy, or would be morally ambivalent questionable if they played out IRL.
We don’t choose what turns us on. But we can choose how we engage with it.
You’re also not bad because your fantasies are violent, submissive, messy, or would be morally ambivalent questionable if they played out IRL.
We don’t choose what turns us on. But we can choose how we engage with it.
July 6, 2025 at 11:54 AM
In my Sexuality and Society class last semester, we covered the topic of fantasy. Most people are fine with having fantasies and never acting them out. Your fantasies are fine, even if you’d never do it in real life!
Curious about how to navigate having a genuinely pleasurable sexual experience but not sure where to start? I share some insights and tips based on my years of experience as a sexuality professional!
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June 30, 2025 at 3:16 PM
Curious about how to navigate having a genuinely pleasurable sexual experience but not sure where to start? I share some insights and tips based on my years of experience as a sexuality professional!
open.substack.com/pub/jmpurnel...
open.substack.com/pub/jmpurnel...
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Pride Month commemorates the Stonewall Riots, which began in the early hours of 28 June 1969.
Patrons of the Stonewall Inn, a mob-run, low rent gay bar in the West Village of Manhattan said, “Enough!” to Police raids.
Prominent among the rioters were trans women, drag queens, dykes and sex workers.
Patrons of the Stonewall Inn, a mob-run, low rent gay bar in the West Village of Manhattan said, “Enough!” to Police raids.
Prominent among the rioters were trans women, drag queens, dykes and sex workers.
June 1, 2025 at 12:07 PM
Pride Month commemorates the Stonewall Riots, which began in the early hours of 28 June 1969.
Patrons of the Stonewall Inn, a mob-run, low rent gay bar in the West Village of Manhattan said, “Enough!” to Police raids.
Prominent among the rioters were trans women, drag queens, dykes and sex workers.
Patrons of the Stonewall Inn, a mob-run, low rent gay bar in the West Village of Manhattan said, “Enough!” to Police raids.
Prominent among the rioters were trans women, drag queens, dykes and sex workers.
These issues often get collapsed together, but it’s possible to both oppose trafficking and support rights for sex workers! ☂️❤️
June 25, 2025 at 12:08 AM
These issues often get collapsed together, but it’s possible to both oppose trafficking and support rights for sex workers! ☂️❤️
The story of Adriana Smith and her medical autonomy and choice to give birth (or not) being taken from her is deeply disturbing, however is very much situated in the historical roots of anti-blackness and misogyny (misogynoir) in the medical field. open.substack.com/pub/jmpurnel...
June 21, 2025 at 1:32 AM
The story of Adriana Smith and her medical autonomy and choice to give birth (or not) being taken from her is deeply disturbing, however is very much situated in the historical roots of anti-blackness and misogyny (misogynoir) in the medical field. open.substack.com/pub/jmpurnel...
My heart is broken by the decision to allow states to ban trans care for young people. However, I’ve lived long enough to see tides turn over and over, and this isn’t the end. Trans people are here, trans youth are loved. This regime can’t permanently change that, just throw up temporary obstacles.
I have spent my life fighting for justice alongside brilliant lawyers, organizers, activists and artists. And I am not stopping now or ever.
June 19, 2025 at 2:55 PM
My heart is broken by the decision to allow states to ban trans care for young people. However, I’ve lived long enough to see tides turn over and over, and this isn’t the end. Trans people are here, trans youth are loved. This regime can’t permanently change that, just throw up temporary obstacles.
So exciting to get a shout-out from @cuddlist.bsky.social! 😁
Say hi to Jules Purnell!
@jmpurnell.bsky.social
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Jules is a Certified Cuddlist Practitioner who practices in New England/Massachusetts.
Book a session with them today!
@jmpurnell.bsky.social
cuddlist.com/jules
Jules is a Certified Cuddlist Practitioner who practices in New England/Massachusetts.
Book a session with them today!
June 18, 2025 at 8:20 PM
So exciting to get a shout-out from @cuddlist.bsky.social! 😁
The loneliness epidemic has made the world feel smaller, but touch and connection can give a sense of belonging and being seen.
"It’s hard to ignore the existential crisis that is ongoing in a lot of our lives...
In a world of distance and digital loneliness, the professional cuddler is there to give you what society sometimes can’t: connection to another human being."
Read whole article: www.thepitchkc.com/snuggle-sesh...
In a world of distance and digital loneliness, the professional cuddler is there to give you what society sometimes can’t: connection to another human being."
Read whole article: www.thepitchkc.com/snuggle-sesh...
June 17, 2025 at 1:33 PM
The loneliness epidemic has made the world feel smaller, but touch and connection can give a sense of belonging and being seen.
Detransition fear mongers often skip over this point.
June 16, 2025 at 2:24 AM
Detransition fear mongers often skip over this point.
Absolutely surreal to be in LA for a wedding today of all days. My family and I are gonna at least tune in for the livestream!
Not able to march with us tomorrow? Tune into the livestream!
June 14th starting at 9:30am PST, hosted by Jessica Denson of Lights On.
Everyone has a role in this fight: tinyurl.com/50501LiveStr...
#lightson #iceoutofla #fiftyfiftyone #socal #losangeles #losangelesprotest #live
June 14th starting at 9:30am PST, hosted by Jessica Denson of Lights On.
Everyone has a role in this fight: tinyurl.com/50501LiveStr...
#lightson #iceoutofla #fiftyfiftyone #socal #losangeles #losangelesprotest #live
June 14, 2025 at 2:14 PM
Absolutely surreal to be in LA for a wedding today of all days. My family and I are gonna at least tune in for the livestream!
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Not able to march with us tomorrow? Tune into the livestream!
June 14th starting at 9:30am PST, hosted by Jessica Denson of Lights On.
Everyone has a role in this fight: tinyurl.com/50501LiveStr...
#lightson #iceoutofla #fiftyfiftyone #socal #losangeles #losangelesprotest #live
June 14th starting at 9:30am PST, hosted by Jessica Denson of Lights On.
Everyone has a role in this fight: tinyurl.com/50501LiveStr...
#lightson #iceoutofla #fiftyfiftyone #socal #losangeles #losangelesprotest #live
June 13, 2025 at 9:21 PM
Not able to march with us tomorrow? Tune into the livestream!
June 14th starting at 9:30am PST, hosted by Jessica Denson of Lights On.
Everyone has a role in this fight: tinyurl.com/50501LiveStr...
#lightson #iceoutofla #fiftyfiftyone #socal #losangeles #losangelesprotest #live
June 14th starting at 9:30am PST, hosted by Jessica Denson of Lights On.
Everyone has a role in this fight: tinyurl.com/50501LiveStr...
#lightson #iceoutofla #fiftyfiftyone #socal #losangeles #losangelesprotest #live
This looks awesome!
In celebration of the Week of Visibility for Non-monogamy, join The Pincus Center and @drelisheff.bsky.social for "Creating and Maintaining Polyamorous Families" on Thursday, July 10, 7 PM ET.
RSVP here: www.eventbrite.com/e/creating-a...
#NonMonogamyVisibility ; @openloveorg.bsky.social
RSVP here: www.eventbrite.com/e/creating-a...
#NonMonogamyVisibility ; @openloveorg.bsky.social
June 13, 2025 at 9:05 PM
This looks awesome!
What am I up to the next few months, you ask?! It’s so exciting to be working with such awesome orgs and collaborators! If you’re interested in having me come to your org for a workshop or are looking for a keynote for your upcoming event, please reach out: julesmpurnell.com or linktr.ee/jmpurnell
June 12, 2025 at 3:40 PM
What am I up to the next few months, you ask?! It’s so exciting to be working with such awesome orgs and collaborators! If you’re interested in having me come to your org for a workshop or are looking for a keynote for your upcoming event, please reach out: julesmpurnell.com or linktr.ee/jmpurnell
Love Dr. Eli Sheff’s work!
Check out my newest post on Psychology Today
What Is the Difference Between Rough Sex and BDSM? | Psychology Today www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-...
Image: A costumed and tattooed person spanking another costumed person.
What Is the Difference Between Rough Sex and BDSM? | Psychology Today www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-...
Image: A costumed and tattooed person spanking another costumed person.
What Is the Difference Between Rough Sex and BDSM?
Rough sex is murkier than BDSM, which is often clearly defined and has an associated community with rules and expectations. Both share similar actions, impacts, and motivations.
www.psychologytoday.com
June 11, 2025 at 11:13 PM
Love Dr. Eli Sheff’s work!
What is the triadic model? Simply put, it’s when two professionals and a client collaborate on the client’s goals. This is broadly applied to touch therapy when a client’s “neck-up” therapy requires additional support from a touch pro.
The Triadic Model involves 2 professionals; a clinician (a psychotherapist, counselor, coach, etc.) who addresses the emotional & cognitive aspects of a client's healing journey, and a touch worker (a cuddle therapist or other somatic therapist) who provides physical support that facilitates healing
June 6, 2025 at 9:26 PM
What is the triadic model? Simply put, it’s when two professionals and a client collaborate on the client’s goals. This is broadly applied to touch therapy when a client’s “neck-up” therapy requires additional support from a touch pro.
Exciting announcement! I’m launching my new intimacy coaching practice and can’t wait to book new clients! Feeling adrift and like you could use some time to connect with your body? Hoping to overcome shame/anxiety related to touch? Check out my new website and book with me! julesintimacycoach.com
June 6, 2025 at 4:11 PM
Exciting announcement! I’m launching my new intimacy coaching practice and can’t wait to book new clients! Feeling adrift and like you could use some time to connect with your body? Hoping to overcome shame/anxiety related to touch? Check out my new website and book with me! julesintimacycoach.com
Next Week! Register for Understanding Non-Monogamies: ENM & Libido Differences. Great for therapists and educators or folks who are curious to understand more about the intersection of things like polyamory and asexuality. June 12th, 6:30-8pm EST
Link: www.eventbrite.com/e/understand...
Link: www.eventbrite.com/e/understand...
June 5, 2025 at 12:45 PM
Next Week! Register for Understanding Non-Monogamies: ENM & Libido Differences. Great for therapists and educators or folks who are curious to understand more about the intersection of things like polyamory and asexuality. June 12th, 6:30-8pm EST
Link: www.eventbrite.com/e/understand...
Link: www.eventbrite.com/e/understand...
If you’ve been around me for longer than 45 minutes, you’ve probably heard me (very glibly) say “Agriculture was a mistake!” In this video I dig into the connection between agriculture and monogamy with a side quest into the roots of patriarchy:
youtu.be/BpVcO9XNc14?...
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Sexuality Mini-Lecture Series - Agriculture & Monogamy
YouTube video by Jules Purnell
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June 4, 2025 at 3:26 PM
If you’ve been around me for longer than 45 minutes, you’ve probably heard me (very glibly) say “Agriculture was a mistake!” In this video I dig into the connection between agriculture and monogamy with a side quest into the roots of patriarchy:
youtu.be/BpVcO9XNc14?...
youtu.be/BpVcO9XNc14?...
🏔️🏔️🥧☕️🌲🌲
June 4, 2025 at 12:49 AM
🏔️🏔️🥧☕️🌲🌲