I don’t think of myself as harsh or rude or any of those things. Honest, yes (but not the ‘I’m just being honest’ type of brutality that people use to justify being an arsehole). Forthright, you bet. Sometimes impatient, sure. Easily irritated (with strangers at least), yep. But harsh? I tend(ed) to think not. I had an exchange on a BDSM dating site the other day that both made me laugh and made me wonder if I AM harsh. [...]

I cuff him and tie him spread-eagled to the bed. I take out the piercing gear and lay it out. The 14 gauge needles , clamps, antiseptic, anticipating the pain he would be in soon. He is nervous, this is the first time I have restrained him for a piercing. I lean down to kiss him, soft, [...]

I’m a fool for that shake in your thighs I’m a fool for that sound in your sighs I’m a fool for your belly Stay open…  Rhye – Open  [...]

I adore the ‘men as sex objects’ thing. One of the things I love most about treating men as sex objects is that it actually gives those who maybe are a little shy or even too ‘manly’ to admit that they love that attention a different way of looking at themselves, a different level of confidence. They walk around in the world a little more aware of themselves as desirable sexual ‘things’, [...]

Sometimes it looks like this:  It’s just not enough is it…? I know I know… so I also have this:  I can’t just leave it at that, of course… I have to TALK about it! It’s not ‘stomach lurching, ooh must go masturbate’ porn, it’s more – oh my, look at him… – I love it when he tries to get up and gets jerked back by the chains… – [...]

I’m answering Q&As from my Ask Me page. So, let’s go. ___ Hello! How does an older, mature submissive find an attractive female dominant close to his own age? I am 69 years old, and basically a service submissive and masochist, who has a few fantasies, but nothing too extreme. I have been into the scene since my late teens. It’s not that I haven’t tried, [...]

6’3 of very very pretty…   [...]

Oh god. I cannot stop laughing. RawrRawrDinosaur has recorded my hateful and creepy comments in his utterly sexy British voice. It’s fucking hilarious and brilliant. I love this so much! *laugh*   [...]

Welcome to Elust 126– The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #125? Start with the rules, come back January 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!   [...]

I have been a fan of Najakcharmer’s posts and writings for a long time, and her fabulous long term poly relationship with her two men has been a thread throughout. This is a story about a happy, healthy, wonderful poly relationship full of love and primal passion. It’s long, but totally worth it… Author: Najakcharmer “Eventually the whip arm gets weary, [...]

Protection from what, you may well ask, and I am glad you did… Submissives apparently need protection from the Big Bad Dommes (BBDs). Really. Why? Because submissives allegedly can’t say ‘No thank you’ or ‘I’m not interested, strange shouty lady who is ordering me about’ or ‘Are you insane?!’ or ‘Piss off’ or anything of that ilk.  They need their Domme, [...]

We are on Skype having a chat when the phone rings. He is expecting a call, excuses himself, picks it up. I stay online and listen to his end of the conversation, waiting for him to finish. I get a little bored and send him an instant message.  “Say ‘horrendous’.”  He messages back, “Yes Ma’am…” There is a smile in his voice as he continues his conversation. [...]

Given my recent post on torture porn… I give you this:  Seriously, how totally awesome terribly disturbing is that?!! Brilliant!! Disgusting… tsk tsk!!  [...]

She beckoned him onto the bed and he quickly placed her clothes over the chair and scrambled up. “On your stomach, spread-eagle”, she commanded. He stretched out on the bed face down and waited. She moved around the bed, gently putting the heavy leather cuffs on him and attaching them to the bedposts, hardly touching him, silent, the only sounds his breathing and the gentle clink of the buckles and clips as she attached them. [...]

Now we all know (don’t we, gentlemen?!) that approaching a dominant woman who you don’t know with a list of kinks that you would like to have done to you is inappropriate, as is asking to be her submissive/slave, asking her to train you, asking to serve or worship her, or telling her how she should dominate you, [...]

I’m in kind of a slump. I’ve been here before, it will pass, but talking about it is better than not talking about it I guess. Being slumpy makes me not want to do things that I know will help me lift out of the slump because my brain goes ‘But I don’t waaaaaannnt to’ like a three year old. [...]

…I’m not frightened Been to hell and I’ve seen the truth …I’m not lying I only know that this much is true I’m gonna miss you…  What is this ‘Break Up Project’ and why are you suddenly only posting song clips?!    [...]

Sometimes, life is just life, a kiss is just a kiss and play is just play. And sometimes, angels sing. When I talk about my relationships, I often pluck out those moments that ARE the angels singing, and I hold those instances up to the light and examine them. I sometimes talk about day to day stuff, [...]

October 21st was International Fisting Day. Not really my thing, so I couldn’t get all excited about it. However, today is Love Our Lurkers (LOL) day for bloggers. Now THAT’S something I can get behind!    It was started by Bonnie who said this: On Thursday, November 10, many spanking, DD, and Ds bloggers will publish posts where they invite their readers to comment. [...]

And yet, even though it’s *my* birthday, I am giving *you* a gift… that’s two years in a row! My nudity is now officially an annual event!    And yes, it’s really me (I know at least one of you was going to ask!). The photo was taken on the rocky headland of one of the gorgeous beaches here. Happy birthday wishes, [...]