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Frau Cupcake Volny 🏳️‍⚧️
@cupcake.rip
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she/her/ours
Leipzig, DE

queer community leader, polyam slut, electronic musician, and infosec girl.

I do speaking/writing on security/dev/queer stuff.

Language student by day,
gay anticapitalist burner by night.

github.com/cvolny
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Frau Cupcake Volny 🏳️‍⚧️ @cupcake.rip · Mar 4
I wonder if I'll ever write something as profound/empowering ever again.

I feel like the political climate out west broke me and trampled my trust in big tech to ever do right by us.

How can I feel inspired when so much of the world is against us?

So we just have to change the world ourselves.
Our systems, processes and technologies wield significant influence over our day-to-day lives. They can codify and perpetuate existing biases and cultures of oppression, or they can be retooled to empower and include previously excluded experiences. Recognizing that we have inequity, we must critically analyze why and how we build these systems to ensure that our technologies, teams and organizations are inclusive and sensitive to diverse perspectives. Much like the proliferation of the Internet connected and amplified a world of diversity, we can provide our users with platforms that enable self-expression, dignity and respect, and empower them to flourish.
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I think I realized that my wife’s bestie and I would have actually been really compatible fwb if we met under different circumstances.

Missing out? No, actually-

I think that it is awesome.
A big win for us,
uncomplicated comrades and wing-women.

We’re hyping that we fuckin,
but we ain’t fuckin
December 15, 2025 at 3:05 PM
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Bath o’clock
Cupcake, a beautiful transgender woman with tattoos and glasses, relaxes in a hot bath.
December 15, 2025 at 12:04 PM
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So I got in yesterday, smoked a bunch of weed and went to bed.

Today I slept in so good and am trying to just relax and enjoy being home.

Also I’m supremely horny and sensitive with on and off headaches.

My hrt is out of whack 🫠
my brain too- from travel + house guest + hard relationship convos 😿
December 12, 2025 at 3:45 PM
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I got to see the beautiful Irish countryside and ocean today 😻💕
December 10, 2025 at 10:54 PM
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My 72yo mom learning to drive on the left, in a city, is absolutely terrifying.
December 10, 2025 at 11:21 AM
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✅ Visit Ireland
✅ Guiness Perfect Pour Certified
December 9, 2025 at 2:17 PM
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Azrael’s remains and paw imprint arrived home today.

It’s strange having more cat urns at home than living cats now.

I went from

“wow you have 3 cats?”
(so many, eccentric cat lady)

to

“you keep urns and talk to them?”
(so many, heartbroken cat lady)

in under a year.
I miss my girls 😿😿
December 4, 2025 at 8:29 AM
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Krka, Croatia
Cupcake, a beautiful pink haired transgender woman stands in front of a waterfall.
November 30, 2025 at 6:53 PM
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We had a lil heart to heart talk about respecting boundaries and that she needs to stop and think before speaking, because she is often just saying whatever story comes to mind without asking “do they want to hear this?”
cupcake.rip Frau Cupcake Volny 🏳️‍⚧️ @cupcake.rip · 18d
Mom is annoying me, in Croatia. Fuck 🤦‍♀️
cupcake.rip Frau Cupcake Volny 🏳️‍⚧️ @cupcake.rip · 22d
Mom is in Germany with me!!!! Yay!!!
November 29, 2025 at 4:28 PM
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Mom is annoying me, in Croatia. Fuck 🤦‍♀️
cupcake.rip Frau Cupcake Volny 🏳️‍⚧️ @cupcake.rip · 22d
Mom is in Germany with me!!!! Yay!!!
November 29, 2025 at 7:27 AM
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It feels good being the person that people chase down after a networking event so they can elevator pitch their startup and ask “hey, can you help us? You’re talking about exactly what we are doing and we want your input.”

It’s not a job offer, but it’s a good networking opportunity all the same.
November 27, 2025 at 11:23 AM
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Mom is in Germany with me!!!! Yay!!!
November 25, 2025 at 3:55 PM
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Honestly, I would give anything to see my bestie at our favorite place on earth.

I miss them so so so much 😭
Cupcake, blonde, seated between two gorgeous people kissing her cheeks simultaneously.
November 25, 2025 at 7:48 AM
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your jobs board has an 0x0ff1ce subdomain where applicants must manually POST (curl, etc) an application with specified parameters and the job id from "GET /jobs" results.

OK, you got me, this seems like a cool place to go work just for doing it this way.
Screenshot of monospace website output: ``` ## List open positions `GET /jobs` ## Apply to a position `POST /jobs/{jobId}/apply` Headers: - `Content-Type: multipart/form-data` Fields: - `firstName` - `lastName` - `email` - `cv` (binary; only application/pdf) - `message` (optional; who referred you, desired salary, etc.) ```
November 25, 2025 at 5:38 AM
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Sitting on a train, thinking about gock…
November 25, 2025 at 3:47 AM
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(good things)
Why does this keep happening to me?
Wait, right- I remember- I’m kind, smart, and hot.
Makes sense.
November 24, 2025 at 7:27 PM
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existentialcomics.com
In a way Trump and Mamdani are similar. They are both populists fighting against the elite, it's just who they see as "the elite" differs.

Mamdani sees the elite as the billionaires who control the economic, political, and social systems of society.

Trump sees the elite as people who read books.
November 22, 2025 at 12:18 AM
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> Students are afraid to fail, and AI presents itself as a savior. But what we learn from history is that progress requires failure. It requires reflection.

I love this framing and wholeheartedly agree with, but it does miss the point that university is hard, cripplingly expensive, and GPA sticks.
katbeyer.bsky.social Kat Beyer @katbeyer.bsky.social · 26d
Beautifully written & reasoned 3 min read. “To my students and to anyone who might listen, I say: Don’t surrender to AI your ability to read, write and think when others once risked their lives and died for the freedom to do so.”

Commentary from a cool prof in 🧵

www.huffpost.com/entry/histor...
I Set A Trap To Catch My Students Cheating With AI. The Results Were Shocking.
"Students are not just undermining their ability to learn, but to someday lead."
www.huffpost.com
November 21, 2025 at 2:22 PM
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Here’s the coming-out letter I shared with my friends and family on Facebook eight years ago. Maybe something in there will resonate for you. True story at the end there.
On this day 8 years ago Stella Sacco Nov 20, 2017 • 8y Hello friends, tamily, and loved ones! I wrote you a letter here, but I don't want to bury the lede, since this might go a little long: I'm transgender, and I'm starting my transition to living lite as a woman soon. Here's my letter to you. A few years ago my now ex-fiancee and I were visiting my family for Christmas. One night I couldn't sleep and took some of my dad's Ambien. Ambien makes me act pretty goofy, makes me suggestible, and then makes me forget all about it after I fall asleep. As we were falling asleep she asked me to tell her a secret, and I immediately and matter-of-factly said "Sometimes I want to be a girl." I had never articulated that complete thought before, not in my head, and certainly not out loud. Years later, she didn't remember that moment. I shouldn't have remembered it. But I did. I had always thought that there was something different about me that was difficult to place. In the absence of an explanation, I simply wrote it off as feeling "weird" due to anxiety or depression. But after saying "I want to be a girl" out loud, it became harder and harder to think of that feeling as nebulous or undefined. In the last few months, I started thinking about questions I had about myselt that I had been able to handwave away when I considered them as isolated or individual. When I put them all together, as part of a pattern, a consistent answer started to form. Why did I never identify with male characters in media? Why did I always play as female characters in video games? Why were friendships with women so easy for me, and male friendships so hard? Why did I slip into a softer, more feminine cadence when alone with women I was comfortable with? Why did I always prefer slimmer, more form-fitting clothes? Why did my beard make me feel uncomfortable, even knowing it made me more attractive to a lot of women? What was that weird phantom limb feeling I got when I saw myself shirtless? What was that weird, nonsexual feeling I had when I saw that happy brunette in a cute dress on the poster at the thrift store? Why had I fallen in love with lesbians so many times? Why had I unconsciously formed a worldwide network of trans woman friends? Why did I have dreams about being a woman, or being in a woman's body, or dressing as a woman and getting complimented on how great I looked, sometimes as often as twice a month? Why was my favorite Sailor Moon character growing up the TALL BLONDE LESBIAN? I mean, that one's a little on the nose, isn't it? But it wasn't until I used FaceApp to see what I'd look like "as a girl", that | really understood. I felt like I finally saw something in the "mirror" I could identify with. When had any trans girl in history had the opportunity to see something like that, without already being on hormones? What a miracle, even if it's just an algorithm. I couldn't get that image out of my head. I'd read phrases like "If you wish you were a girl, you probably are one" and they hadn't really registered until then. So. Some of you might have questions, and rest assured, uh, I also have questions. I know a lot from seeing my trans friends live their lives in transition, and there will inevitably be commonalities, but this is my own life, and my own unique self. The most important thing I want to say is this: no matter what, I am still the same person you know. The things that you love about me will not change. I Will still be sweet and kind and funny and tell really bad jokes. I'll just...probably be a lot hotter. And yes, I still like women. (Isn't it weird that nothing about my desires has changed, but I'm gay now? That's weird, right?) I hope I can count on your support and love. If I can't, this is a free pass: you don't have to be in my life starting today. I don't say this to be dramatic, just pragmatic. I believe working through this will make me a happier, fuller person (literally, I'm going to fill out), but it won't be without challenges, and if you can't reconcile your ideology with the realities of my life and identity, I don't need that additional challenge. But, if you're just having trouble tackling this, if you've never really had a trans friend or loved one before, you can talk to me and we can figure it out together. As for pronouns and names -- I'II be going by Stella Michelle Sacco, and my pronouns are she/her. Yes, Stella was my late cat's name, but it was also the name of my drummer in Rock Band, which...actually, I don't know which is dorkier. Anyway, I'll be changing my Facebook name soon. One last thing. I recently asked my mom what she would have named me if she knew I was a girl when I was born. She said the doctor had told her that I was a boy months before, thanks to ultrasounds, and so she had never considered any female names. But there was one thing she wanted to share. When she went into labor with me, the nurses checked my vitals and prepared my station. When she asked why they had set up a pink blanket for me, they look confused and said that they had checked my heart, and my rapid heartbeat had indicated I was a girl. Thank you for reading all of this. I love you.
November 20, 2025 at 2:25 PM
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Practical? No
Beautiful? Yes

I need some dungeon time, I miss tying.
Orange synthetic rope twisted like a hishi karada along the ribs of a metal bedframe.
November 20, 2025 at 2:28 PM
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Telling someone today about missing her, I realized that Azzy was 19yo… I’m 38.

I lost a cat that was here for half of my life.
Basically all of my adult life.
The most important, most me part of my life.
I left a really shitty, abusive, childhood home- adopted a cat- and she was with me since.
cupcake.rip Frau Cupcake Volny 🏳️‍⚧️ @cupcake.rip · Nov 14
I said goodbye to my oldest friend today. The best cat, Azrael. I love you baby 💕
Azrael a Smokey black cat sitting at the counter.
November 20, 2025 at 2:10 PM
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I said goodbye to my oldest friend today. The best cat, Azrael. I love you baby 💕
Azrael a Smokey black cat sitting at the counter.
November 14, 2025 at 4:58 PM
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Ahhhhhhhh!

(interview today, along with lots of other stress)
November 13, 2025 at 7:52 AM
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This week is insanely up and down for life circumstances.

Truly not a boring life.
Definitely getting my therapy’s worth.
November 11, 2025 at 2:34 PM
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Fully lucid, no anesthesia/twilight, butt scope was not on my bingo sheet for this week 😭😭😭

Yes I know it’s only 5 minutes for a jpouch, but that was an extremely uncomfortable 5 minutes 🤬😡
November 11, 2025 at 11:52 AM