Cody Daigle-Orians
@codydo.bsky.social
Writer and educator. Also: Books. Horror. Theatre. 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
Aspec language being used by allo people in ways that erase their aspec meanings point to the necessity for expanding aspec literacy for allo people.
Allo people need aspec literacy, too.
There's value in extending our education efforts to catch allos up to speed on our lives and experiences.
open.substack.com
November 24, 2025 at 3:45 PM
Aspec language being used by allo people in ways that erase their aspec meanings point to the necessity for expanding aspec literacy for allo people.
Me watching people discovering Act Two of Wicked is a little bit of a mess:
a man is saying sorry bout it in front of a purple lip
ALT: a man is saying sorry bout it in front of a purple lip
media.tenor.com
November 21, 2025 at 9:21 PM
Me watching people discovering Act Two of Wicked is a little bit of a mess:
First semester at my Ohio university under SB1, and this question now appears on the course evals.
Sorry, Ohio. Not gonna be a narc.
Sorry, Ohio. Not gonna be a narc.
November 21, 2025 at 9:15 PM
First semester at my Ohio university under SB1, and this question now appears on the course evals.
Sorry, Ohio. Not gonna be a narc.
Sorry, Ohio. Not gonna be a narc.
Super excited for BEING ARO!
Exclusive Cover Reveal: Being Aro ed. by Madeline Dyer and Rosiee Thor
Today on the site I'm delighted to reveal the cover of Being Aro: A Collection of Aromantic Fiction About Love, Connection, and Empowerment ed. by Madeline Dyer and Rosiee Thor, a YA anthology releasing May 26, 2026 from Page…
Today on the site I'm delighted to reveal the cover of Being Aro: A Collection of Aromantic Fiction About Love, Connection, and Empowerment ed. by Madeline Dyer and Rosiee Thor, a YA anthology releasing May 26, 2026 from Page…
Exclusive Cover Reveal: Being Aro ed. by Madeline Dyer and Rosiee Thor
Today on the site I'm delighted to reveal the cover of Being Aro: A Collection of Aromantic Fiction About Love, Connection, and Empowerment ed. by Madeline Dyer and Rosiee Thor, a YA anthology releasing May 26, 2026 from Page Street YA! Here's the gist: Explore expansive aromantic love and connection in stories across genres These twelve stories showcase aromantic people breaking generational curses, finding acceptance, and protecting the vulnerable while highlighting the infinite ways people find connection and love without romance.
lgbtqreads.com
November 21, 2025 at 6:11 PM
Super excited for BEING ARO!
"Instead of spending your time trying to figure out how to please an imaginary partner, focus your time on imagining what you want out of a relationship and a partner. Think about the things that make a relationship fulfilling and nurturing to you."
"I don't know where to begin forming a relationship with an allo person. Help!"
What to do when it's hard to imagine how an ace/allo relationship might succeed.
open.substack.com
November 20, 2025 at 8:10 PM
"Instead of spending your time trying to figure out how to please an imaginary partner, focus your time on imagining what you want out of a relationship and a partner. Think about the things that make a relationship fulfilling and nurturing to you."
I deeply enjoyed talking horror, reclaiming stories, and aspec power with my friend @nocturnalxlight.bsky.social. This was an absolute delight, and Ell delivers so many gems here. Gotta read it.
Horror, Telling Stories, and Aspec Power... with Ell Huang
In this One on One, I talk to my lovely friend and fellow horror fan Ell Huang about our shared love of horror, bringing an aspec lens to the genre, and reclaiming the power of our stories as aspec pe...
open.substack.com
November 17, 2025 at 5:10 PM
I deeply enjoyed talking horror, reclaiming stories, and aspec power with my friend @nocturnalxlight.bsky.social. This was an absolute delight, and Ell delivers so many gems here. Gotta read it.
can someone recommend a therapy theory-minded book about trauma? I'm interested in a text that will explore trauma from the angle of how therapy understands it and how it approaches it treatment-wise.
November 14, 2025 at 5:36 PM
can someone recommend a therapy theory-minded book about trauma? I'm interested in a text that will explore trauma from the angle of how therapy understands it and how it approaches it treatment-wise.
Reposted by Cody Daigle-Orians
Frankenstein (2025)
November 13, 2025 at 11:45 PM
Frankenstein (2025)
From the advice column: "Enter new connections as you. Live in that good space of your interests, your sense of humor, your care for other people, your curiosity about their lives. Don’t forget: you are not exclusively your challenges."
"I'm worried I'll never get what I need from my relationships."
Sometimes, the complexity of our experience can make seeing our full selves (and what we offer) difficult.
acedadadvice.substack.com
November 13, 2025 at 2:59 PM
From the advice column: "Enter new connections as you. Live in that good space of your interests, your sense of humor, your care for other people, your curiosity about their lives. Don’t forget: you are not exclusively your challenges."
Had to postone, so this workshop is now coming up on Sunday!
www.crowdcast.io/c/aspecfree
www.crowdcast.io/c/aspecfree
Breaking Free from Sex and Romance: Strategies for Mastering an Aspec Mindset
Register now for Breaking Free from Sex and Romance: Strategies for Mastering an Aspec Mindset on crowdcast, scheduled to go live on November 16, 2025, 12:00 PM EST.
www.crowdcast.io
November 11, 2025 at 4:08 PM
Had to postone, so this workshop is now coming up on Sunday!
www.crowdcast.io/c/aspecfree
www.crowdcast.io/c/aspecfree
I’ve had a few interactions recently with people who say they’re demisexual and then describe wildly not demisexual experiences, and I fear allo people are gonna render that word meaningless for actual ace-spec demi folks.
November 10, 2025 at 5:28 PM
I’ve had a few interactions recently with people who say they’re demisexual and then describe wildly not demisexual experiences, and I fear allo people are gonna render that word meaningless for actual ace-spec demi folks.
There's often a suggestion that sex-favorable ace people have an easy road. But sex-favorable asexuality is still asexuality.
Sex-favorable asexuality *is* asexuality.
Being sex-favorable isn't an "easier" form of asexuality.
acedadadvice.substack.com
November 10, 2025 at 2:55 PM
There's often a suggestion that sex-favorable ace people have an easy road. But sex-favorable asexuality is still asexuality.
I'm of course very happy the Supreme Court won't hear the case to overturn Obergefell v Hodges. That's great news.
I would not be surprised, however, if the dismantling of marriage equality shows up in some other form down the road.
I would not be surprised, however, if the dismantling of marriage equality shows up in some other form down the road.
November 10, 2025 at 2:53 PM
I'm of course very happy the Supreme Court won't hear the case to overturn Obergefell v Hodges. That's great news.
I would not be surprised, however, if the dismantling of marriage equality shows up in some other form down the road.
I would not be surprised, however, if the dismantling of marriage equality shows up in some other form down the road.
Therapists I’ve jived with in my life have all been men I thought, “that’s a gay man, Maury” but were married to women and had children.
That’s my new screening question going forward.
That’s my new screening question going forward.
November 7, 2025 at 7:34 PM
Therapists I’ve jived with in my life have all been men I thought, “that’s a gay man, Maury” but were married to women and had children.
That’s my new screening question going forward.
That’s my new screening question going forward.
New on the advice column: there are ways to navigate a changing landscape with a close friend when romance enters the picture.
"My roommate has a new boyfriend, and it's changing our relationship."
Tackle the changes head-on, and be honest about what you're feeling.
acedadadvice.substack.com
November 6, 2025 at 9:47 PM
New on the advice column: there are ways to navigate a changing landscape with a close friend when romance enters the picture.
A thing that always cracks me up on the gay apps: guys who have screen names like "BIGDADDY202" or something and they're like 21. Mama, help me.
November 6, 2025 at 9:46 PM
A thing that always cracks me up on the gay apps: guys who have screen names like "BIGDADDY202" or something and they're like 21. Mama, help me.
Since it's the 5th, it's a great day to launch the first set of High Five interviews!
High Five: Aspec Interviews — Ace Dad Advice
acedadadvice.com
November 5, 2025 at 5:11 PM
Since it's the 5th, it's a great day to launch the first set of High Five interviews!
Aspec invisibility isn’t the only obstacle in figuring ourselves out and embracing who we are.
You can't read a life written in invisible ink.
Asexual invisibility, intelligibility and learning to read ourselves.
open.substack.com
November 4, 2025 at 5:09 PM
Aspec invisibility isn’t the only obstacle in figuring ourselves out and embracing who we are.
November 1, 2025 at 7:11 PM
Happy Halloween! This year I’m the legend, the icon Chuck Tingle. LOVE IS REAL
October 31, 2025 at 2:15 PM
Happy Halloween! This year I’m the legend, the icon Chuck Tingle. LOVE IS REAL
Being ace and acting as though allonormativity is right is shooting yourself in the foot.
Why would you adhere to a worldview that doesn’t think you deserve to exist as yourself?
Why would you adhere to a worldview that doesn’t think you deserve to exist as yourself?
October 31, 2025 at 1:46 AM
Being ace and acting as though allonormativity is right is shooting yourself in the foot.
Why would you adhere to a worldview that doesn’t think you deserve to exist as yourself?
Why would you adhere to a worldview that doesn’t think you deserve to exist as yourself?
Colder weather is here, and my seasonal depression is around the corner, so chances are slim I'm gonna put up with your internet bullshit. lol
October 30, 2025 at 7:07 PM
Colder weather is here, and my seasonal depression is around the corner, so chances are slim I'm gonna put up with your internet bullshit. lol
“Just go to a food bank, a church or a charity”
For every meal the food bank provides, the SNAP program provides 9.
Even if donations are rapidly scaled up, they won’t be able to meet the needs of 42 million Americans who are about to go hungry.
It’s not sustainable.
For every meal the food bank provides, the SNAP program provides 9.
Even if donations are rapidly scaled up, they won’t be able to meet the needs of 42 million Americans who are about to go hungry.
It’s not sustainable.
October 28, 2025 at 12:22 PM
Started THE CHAIR COMPANY, and it's so good and weird.
October 26, 2025 at 9:29 PM
Started THE CHAIR COMPANY, and it's so good and weird.
"If there’s one mental shift I think you’d get a ton from, it’s shifting from thinking about the current position you’re in as combative to thinking about it as collaborative."
"I'd like our queerplatonic relationship to evolve, but I'm afraid to mess things up."
You can turn these hard conversations into exciting spaces for exploration.
acedadadvice.substack.com
October 26, 2025 at 9:21 PM
"If there’s one mental shift I think you’d get a ton from, it’s shifting from thinking about the current position you’re in as combative to thinking about it as collaborative."