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Stephi Cham

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Editor by day and night | LGBTQ+ Editors Association secretary, board of directors Published by Publishers Weekly, Capstone Press, Strange Horizons, JAMA, et al. Former medical end-of-life music therapist she/her | StephiCham.com

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Stephi Cham @stephicham.com · 3d

Idk if anyone uses it as a verb haha but a personality hire is someone who gets hired bc of their personality rather than technical skill/expertise! Like they're just that likable and personable

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Stephi Cham @stephicham.com · 3d

Looked through self-defense tools today

Me: I won't consider anything lethal. So, these options could incapacitate an attacker. What about after?
Guy: Huh?
Me: How do I keep them there safely while I call them an ambulance?
Him and suddenly everyone in earshot: YOU DON'T

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Stephi Cham @stephicham.com · 6d

I wish I were someone who could be personality-hired but all I am is personality-tired

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Stephi Cham @stephicham.com · 7d

(ง’̀-‘́)ง
(refraining from advice in case this is a vent and not a question, but curious about the context if you feel like sharing!)

Stephi Cham @stephicham.com · 7d

jealousy feels so, so ugly when it's of someone you love so, so much.

Stephi Cham @stephicham.com · 8d

living is wondrous and miraculous, I know, but it is also EXHAUSTING. like, I barely made it through an entire day, and now I have to do it again?

Stephi Cham @stephicham.com · 9d

This is the benchmark I'm landing on too. My first therapist introduced me to "We do our best until we know better." I realized not everyone fills in the next part: when you know better, do better.

Kathleen Rowan 🌱 @rowanauthor.bsky.social · 9d

Do what you can when you can, and when you can do more, do more.

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Stephi Cham @stephicham.com · 9d

today's nuance: it's for the best that you left, but that doesn't mean I have to forgive you for leaving.

Stephi Cham @stephicham.com · 12d

I sleep like a baby (easily awakened and immediately distressed when interrupted)

Stephi Cham @stephicham.com · 12d

I don't need someone to write my book. I need someone to wash my dishes so I can write my book.

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Stephi Cham @stephicham.com · 15d

"you just have to have discipline and do things you dislike!"
listen, I can't even do the things that I DO like

selfcaregamer @selfcaregamer.bsky.social · 15d

something they don't tell you when you have ADHD or depression is that you're going to have to fight your brain to do the things you really want to do. it doesn't matter how much you love it, it could still be a battle somedays

Stephi Cham @stephicham.com · 16d

"you look exhausted"
thanks! did it all myself ☺️

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Stephi Cham @stephicham.com · 17d

read this as "no-good billionaires" at first—still accurate

Stephi Cham @stephicham.com · 17d

It might be the only thing that could make immortality worth it!

Stephi Cham @stephicham.com · 17d

books should automatically come with time to read them

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Stephi Cham @stephicham.com · 17d

those 30-minute ones in the middle of a video single-handedly drove me off the YouTube app and Google Chrome. the fact that i can't wash my dishes without pausing to press skip was INFURIATING

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Stephi Cham @stephicham.com · 19d

a surprising effect of hospitalization that I keep forgetting: people who used to laugh whenever I joked about my death now instantly sober up and say quietly, "that would be horrible."

Stephi Cham @stephicham.com · 19d

Once in a while I get caught in a group convo that's like "You never know! When I was little I wanted to do [totally different profession]!" and I'm like when I was 10 I wanted to work in publishing, and now I work in... publishing.

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Stephi Cham @stephicham.com · 20d

I've been reassured that I'm more than enough. a bit much, actually

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Stephi Cham @stephicham.com · 20d

Is he entirely white below his neck?? That's such an adorable pattern on an adorable pup 😭🩷

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Stephi Cham @stephicham.com · 20d

Yes!! They mentioned one of their new singles charted #1 on something?? (idk charts) They're on tour with A Day to Remember and performing better than I've ever seen (which seems to be the consensus)—I LOVE "honestly i" and "Better Days," would love to know your thoughts if you listen!

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Stephi Cham @stephicham.com · 20d

Last week I handled something badly, and instead of my usual crashout of regret and shame, I decided to handle something else better instead. 10/10 recommend and should do again. #WeeknightWriters

Weeknight Writers @weeknightwriters.bsky.social · 20d

Q3: What can you do to make next week a little easier for yourself? #WeeknightWriters

Notepad that says "#WeeknightWriters - What can you do in the next week to make life a little more pleasant?"

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Stephi Cham @stephicham.com · 20d

(Granted, not MUCH better. But better.)

Stephi Cham @stephicham.com · 20d

My all-time fav band, Yellowcard, retired in 2017 and meant it. Years later, when asked to find any small reason to live, I said if YC ever reunited somehow I'd hate to miss it.
YC's album, Better Days, is out next week, but this week I thought: we're in the better days now. #WeeknightWriters

Weeknight Writers @weeknightwriters.bsky.social · 20d

Q2: What is one thing that’s brought you joy this week? #WeeknightWriters

Notepad that says "#WeeknightWriters - What is one thing that's brought you joy this week?"

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Stephi Cham @stephicham.com · 21d

this meeting could've been an audible sigh

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