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From The Archives: What Men Need to Know About Flirting
What Men Need to Know About Flirting
Flirting is one of the most important and most misunderstood skills when it comes to dating. Here's what you need to know to flirt with confidence.
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February 17, 2026 at 6:29 PM
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And often times they'll equivocate and say "oh, sure gay conversion therapy doesn't work, but this is trans conversion therapy, which is totally different" and try and make a distinction that doesn't exist in practice, because do you know what the actual title of the "Sissy Boy experiment" was...?
February 17, 2026 at 2:48 PM
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The "Gender Critical" movement has resurrected the entire conversion abuse model, and are doing their damnedest to undo the societal abandonment of the practice following the Rekers scandal, and we're being forced to relitigate one of the most damaging and harmful pseudoscientific from of abuse.
February 17, 2026 at 2:42 PM
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There is no hell hot enough for them.

But it felt like, at the very least, conversion therapy would be relegated to a thing of the past within my lifetime, and if the likes of Rekers never saw justice, then hopefully future generations wouldn't have to go through the trauma and abuse. But no...
February 17, 2026 at 2:36 PM
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This is not a subject I'm able to broach without my blood boiling, Rekers did so much harm to generations of LGBTQ people, he was a founder member of NARTH, a member of the Family Research Council, whereas his co-fraud Ole Ivar Lovaas went on to applying this kind of abuse to autistic children.
February 17, 2026 at 2:30 PM
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We saw pro conversion abuse groups like Exodus International shutting down and prominent "ex-gay" spokespeople like John Paulk came out to renounce conversion therapy as not working and apologising for the hurt they've caused, and pretty much the entire industry collapsed in the wake of the scandal.
February 17, 2026 at 2:19 PM
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It fell out of repute after a huge scandal rocked the foundations of the conversion abuse industry; George Rekers had been hiring prostitutes, young men who spoke out about servicing him sexually. This bastard, the father of conversion therapy himself, was gay.

And if he couldn't "cure himself"?
February 17, 2026 at 2:13 PM
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Rekers went on to publish a how-to manual for torturing queer or gender nonconforming children called "Growing Up Straight" in the 80s, based on his fraudulent experiment, and led to an industry of conversion abuse practitioners given the appearance of academically backed up research to support them
February 17, 2026 at 2:05 PM
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Rekers and Lovaas tortured a boy to make him "straight" and then reported that their abuse made him a happy normal boy, when in reality he was broken by it and his family blame the experiment for why he later took his own life as an adult. They traumatized him for life and called it a success.
February 17, 2026 at 1:54 PM
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Content warning for conversion therapy, suicide.

One thing I'd like to add to this is that not only does conversion therapy not work, the academic work that launched an industry of abuse was based on fraud; Rekers and Lovaas' "Sissy Boy" experiment, the child subjected to it later took his own life
The problem of conversion therapy is, as ever, not that conversion therapy doesn't work (although that's true) but that it constitutes an act of violence to suppress almost exclusively vulnerable people's core psychological development and that is devastating.
February 17, 2026 at 1:46 PM
NEW COLUMN: Everything about the way his friend behaves suggests she’s into him, even when she says he’s just a friend. Should he trust her words or her actions?

ASK DR. NERDLOVE: I Don’t Know How To Read My Friend’s Mixed Signals!
I Don't Know How To Read My Friend's Mixed Signals!
Everything about the way his friend behaves suggests she's into him, even when she says he's just a friend. How can he tell what to believe?
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February 17, 2026 at 3:30 AM
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1) the outrage was over the fact that it's a *huge* likeness rights violation.

2) The fear here is the blue collar jobs we'll lose in the industry if something isn't done.

3) The clip is just a hastily edited fight between two of the most photographed men on the planet doing what they do for real.
It took only a 15-second clip of Tom Cruise and Brad Pitt duking it out on a crumbling rooftop — made by A.I. with a two-sentence prompt and the click of a button — to draw swift outrage, and sizable fear, from Hollywood.

"It’s nothing short of terrifying," one scriptwriter said.
Why an A.I. Video of Tom Cruise Battling Brad Pitt Spooked Hollywood
A 15-second clip created by an artificial intelligence tool owned by the Chinese technology company ByteDance appears more cinematic than anything so far.
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February 16, 2026 at 10:50 PM
Now live on Patreon: his best friend is incredibly touchy, plays with his hair, leans on him and generally seems to be into him as more than a friend... even when she says she isn't. How is he supposed to read these mixed signals?

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February 16, 2026 at 10:23 PM
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Tough conversations are uncomfortable, but it’s also the path to resolution. Ditching your partner for a conflict-free AI relationship? That’s not quite the same thing. 🫠

Ep 1 is live! 🎧
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February 16, 2026 at 10:02 PM
From The Archives: 5 Harsh Truths About Dating (And What You Can Do About It)
5 Harsh Truths About Dating (And What You Can Do About It)
Dating is a struggle... so why are you making it harder on yourself? Facing these harsh truths about dating will change your love life.
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February 16, 2026 at 8:32 PM
February 16, 2026 at 6:59 PM
From The Archives: How Do I Change My Luck on the Dating Scene?
How Do I Change My Luck on the Dating Scene?
She's been single for a long time, and making some big changes to her life hasn't made a difference. How can she finally turn her luck around?
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February 16, 2026 at 6:30 PM
Love to when I’m at the gym, start lifting weights and my arms IMMEDIATELY start doing the “doesn’t want to uncurl” style cramp.

Definitely not a thing that makes me want to call it early and get a deep tissue massage instead.
February 16, 2026 at 5:29 PM
NEW COLUMN: Everything about the way his friend behaves suggests she’s into him, even when she says he’s just a friend. Should he trust her words or her actions?

ASK DR. NERDLOVE: I Don’t Know How To Read My Friend’s Mixed Signals!
I Don't Know How To Read My Friend's Mixed Signals!
Everything about the way his friend behaves suggests she's into him, even when she says he's just a friend. How can he tell what to believe?
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February 16, 2026 at 5:03 PM
Now live on Patreon: his best friend is incredibly touchy, plays with his hair, leans on him and generally seems to be into him as more than a friend... even when she says she isn't. How is he supposed to read these mixed signals?

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February 15, 2026 at 11:14 PM
And we are LIVE! Come join the chaos!
Hey NerdLovers, it's a little last minute, but I'll be joining my Do As We Say co-host Dr. Liz Powell on their monthly live Q&A (assuming I don't manage to find new and fascinating ways to make tech go boom). Join us at 1 CST at www.instagram.com/dr... or instagram.com/drlizp...!
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February 15, 2026 at 9:08 PM
Hey NerdLovers, it's a little last minute, but I'll be joining my Do As We Say co-host Dr. Liz Powell on their monthly live Q&A (assuming I don't manage to find new and fascinating ways to make tech go boom). Join us at 1 CST at www.instagram.com/dr... or instagram.com/drlizp...!
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February 15, 2026 at 8:52 PM
From The Archives: These Mistakes Are Costing You Dates
These Mistakes Are Costing You Dates
Dating is hard enough as it is. Don't let these common mistakes ruin your relationship before it even has a chance to start.
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February 15, 2026 at 8:00 PM
From The Archives: I Want To Ask Out My Crush, But I’m Afraid Of Going Viral For Being Cringe!
I Want To Ask Out My Crush, But I'm Afraid Of Going Viral For Being Cringe!
He wants to ask out one of the popular girls at his school, but he's afraid of becoming someone's TikTok content. How can he avoid becoming cringe content?
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February 15, 2026 at 6:30 PM
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Desperately looking for anyone in Scotland to foster a 2 year old female cat named Bambi. Incredibly affectionate and friendly. Indoor-only. Whether temporary (a few weeks) or longer term.

She's going to be put to sleep otherwise -- due to a heart issue that won't affect her for another 12 months
February 14, 2026 at 9:34 PM