Hey there Doc I'm a long time reader and I was hoping you could lend your expert advice on a issue I've been having for sometime. So little bit of backstory for most of high school and the early years of college I was the typical nerd. I was quiet, smart, terribly nervous around women (I use to stutter something terrible when I'd even try to talk to them.) You know the usual shtick. The good news is that as I got older and thanks to some of your articles I became more social calibrated and came out of my

Every relationship is a matter of compromise. Nobody gets 100% of what they want in a partner; you get anywhere from 60% - 90% and round up because they're just that worth it. But while some things on our dating wish-list are 'It would be nice if,' others are 'must haves' and still more are 'absolutely must not'. But handling dealbreakers often isn't as black or white as we might like... especially when someone we are interested in has dealbreakers that exclude us. When it comes to dating dealbreakers, it can be hard to know how to handle them. Are your dealbreakers too finicky?

Hey Kate, what’s the biggest mistake men make on dates with women? Not asking anywhere near enough questions. Or, in many cases, not asking any questions at all. Really? That’s the bigg…

The goal of arguing with your partner isn't to stop fighting, it's to fix the problem causing the fight. Here's how to solve conflicts in your relationship the right way.

The goal of arguing with your partner isn't to stop fighting, it's to fix the problem causing the fight. Here's how to solve conflicts in your relationship the right way.

Doctor's Note: I'm at PAX East this year! If you're coming to PAX, make sure to come to my panel: Video Game Romance - The Stories We Love, The Lessons They Teach at 8 PM EST in Arachnid Theater! And now, your letters.  Hi, Doc: I am in a nearly perfect relationship with the most wonderful woman I've ever known. That 'nearly' though, is kind of a big deal. Background: I'm in my early 40s, she (call her 'D') is in her mid 30s, and both of us have been married to awful people in the past. We've been together more

No matter how much it may feel like our rational side is pure and in control, our emotions find ways of making things even harder than they need to be. We all have moments when it seems like our brain betrays us and our emotions undercut us. You're having a very serious, intense and necessary conversation with someone and you can feel the tears coming on and you know that if you start crying it's going to undercut your position. You know you're being irrational, but your girlfriend's friendship with that guy makes you want to climb the walls with possessive jealousy. You're trying

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The goal of arguing with your partner isn't to stop fighting, it's to fix the problem causing the fight. Here's how to solve conflicts in your relationship the right way.

Hey Dr. NerdLove, I am 26 years old and have been hard on myself for being (mostly) single for the past few years. Many aspects of my life are great. I have a great job in Los Angeles programming video games, above-average physical fitness, a good group of friends, and interesting hobbies. I perform well on online dating websites, and with effort, get about one online date a month.  That said, I feel that my diet restrictions are holding me back from performing better in both online and real life dating pools. I have celiac disease, which requires a strict

Over the course of your love life, you're going to have to deal with a breakup. Sometimes you'll see the breakup coming a mile away like an oncoming train and you'll realize that there's no getting around it. It's going to happen and the only thing left to do is to brace yourself and try to figure out how to make it not suck as much. But then there are the breakups that sneak up on you and hit you when you're not looking. There's nothing that delivers a nut-kick to your soul like a breakup that seems to come

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