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Dr. NerdLove
@doctornerdlove.com
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Free now of the chains of Twitter, traveling the world and doing good. Dispensing the best dating advice on the Internet. Send your dating questions to [email protected].
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I do clean up nicely on occasion…
Doc taking a mirror selfie, wearing linen pants and a snug black button down
November 25, 2025 at 10:33 PM
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Part of meaningful self-improvement means learning to love your imperfect self, too.

Need help making real changes? Send in your questions about love, sex and dating to ASK DR. NERDLOVE at doctornerdlove.com/c... or email them to doc@doctornerdlove.com!
Image of a smartphone showing a romantic couple in silhouette against fairy lights in the background. Underneath a reminder notice says "SUBMIT A DATING ADVICE QUESTION!"
November 25, 2025 at 4:59 AM
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Part of meaningful self-improvement means learning to love your imperfect self, too.

Need help making real changes? Send in your questions about love, sex and dating to ASK DR. NERDLOVE at doctornerdlove.com/c... or email them to doc@doctornerdlove.com!
Image of a smartphone showing a romantic couple in silhouette against fairy lights in the background. Underneath a reminder notice says "SUBMIT A DATING ADVICE QUESTION!"
November 24, 2025 at 6:31 PM
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A vital component of a successful relationship is knowing what you're actually looking for. Need help figuring it out? Send in YOUR questions about love, sex and dating to ASK DR. NERDLOVE at doctornerdlove.com/c... or email them to doc@doctornerdlove.com!
Image of a smartphone showing a romantic couple in silhouette against fairy lights in the background. Underneath a reminder notice says "SUBMIT A DATING ADVICE QUESTION!"
November 22, 2025 at 6:05 PM
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A vital component of a successful relationship is knowing what you're actually looking for. Need help figuring it out? Send in YOUR questions about love, sex and dating to ASK DR. NERDLOVE at doctornerdlove.com/c... or email them to doc@doctornerdlove.com!
Image of a smartphone showing a romantic couple in silhouette against fairy lights in the background. Underneath a reminder notice says "SUBMIT A DATING ADVICE QUESTION!"
November 21, 2025 at 11:00 PM
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Now live on Patreon: he was newly divorced and not looking for commitment. She was polyamorous and willing to keep things casual. But how can they make things work when he doesn't understand what being poly actually *means*?

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My Partner Keeps Breaking My Heart Because He Doesn't Know How Polyamory Works...
November 20, 2025 at 11:10 PM
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I realize I say "I will never be out of work" a lot, but sometimes I read shit like this and realize that I shouldn't have said it where the gods could hear...
Screenshot of a post from Twitter - The Nazi App, by a dude (name and icon removed) offering "advice" on approaching women. Text reads: "Fellas, next time you go up to a woman at a bar do this. I've done this countless times, & it works 9 times out of 10. Walk up to the bar & stand confidently next to her. Order your drink from the bartender & immediately look into her eyes & don't break contact until she does. While looking into her soul shout out to the bartender confidently, "And please my good sir get this little temptress whatever she's drinking." Introduce yourself in a seductive & deep confident tone which intrigues her sexually proving you're a confident man not afraid to ask for what he wants. Then make an offhand remark which should make zero sense given the situation. Her curiosity is now peaked. When the bartender delivers the drinks, ask him for a napkin & a pen. While you're writing your name & number on the napkin speak these words in your best James Bond impression which should be spoken seductively, slowly, calmly, mysteriously, & with a touch of cocky arrogance, "Nice to meet you sweet tits, & thank you for the drink, l'll be sure to get the next one when you meet me later at the bar I'm headed to." Just slide the napkin to her, while graciously letting the bartender know to put your drink on her tab. Then simply walk away leaving the bar. This sounds like a dick move, but you will be amazed how many times you'll get a text wondering which bar she should meet you at. It's like shooting fish in a barrel."
November 20, 2025 at 8:58 PM
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I love that apparently there’s a universal face for “well, shit…” and it’s this.
A red Labrador-looking puppy making a “disappointed/uncomfortable” face
November 20, 2025 at 4:55 PM
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Relationships can be confusing. Don't make them harder than they have to be! Let me help with YOURS!

Send in your questions about love, sex and dating to ASK DR. NERDLOVE at doctornerdlove.com/c... or email them to doc@doctornerdlove.com!
Image of a smartphone showing a romantic couple in silhouette against fairy lights in the background. Underneath a reminder notice says "SUBMIT A DATING ADVICE QUESTION!"
November 20, 2025 at 3:16 AM
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Now in early access on Patreon: Her friend admitted he had feelings for her at an incredibly inconvenient time. A year later, circumstances have changed... but does he feel the same way? Or is it too late for her?

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How Do I Ask My Friend If He's Still In Love With Me?
November 19, 2025 at 10:10 PM
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Relationships can be confusing. Don't make them harder than they have to be! Let me help with YOURS!

Send in your questions about love, sex and dating to ASK DR. NERDLOVE at doctornerdlove.com/c... or email them to doc@doctornerdlove.com!
Image of a smartphone showing a romantic couple in silhouette against fairy lights in the background. Underneath a reminder notice says "SUBMIT A DATING ADVICE QUESTION!"
November 19, 2025 at 5:09 PM
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Now in early access on Patreon: Her friend admitted he had feelings for her at an incredibly inconvenient time. A year later, circumstances have changed... but does he feel the same way? Or is it too late for her?

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How Do I Ask My Friend If He's Still In Love With Me?
November 19, 2025 at 12:28 AM
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OK look. I get a *lot* of emails from folks who want to promote whatever weird little survey or trend piece they've got going, but COME ON. A full third of these are just bullshit and the majority of the rest are older than *steam*, you just combined 'em and tried to give them a new name.
a pair of columns in a spreadsheet, one on the left labeled "trend" and on the right labeled "Description". Text reads: Love bomb ghosting: Over the top affection early on, followed by disappearance Breadcrumbing Being vague or inconsistent about the relationship status Monkey branching: Seeking and securing another partner before ending your current relationship "A touch of the t'ism": A growing trend on dating apps, with men seeking women who are only "slightly autistic" Floodlighting: Rapid and intense sharing of vulnerability to fast-track intimacy Shrekking: Dating someone perceived as less attractive in the hope they'll be more loyal Submarining: Ghosting someone and reappearing later like nothing happened Paperclipping: Re-entering someone's life with no intention of having a relationship Micromancing: Small "romantic gestures", such as sending a meme, stead of intentional romance Yap-trapping: Dominating the conversation, leaving the other unheard
November 18, 2025 at 7:49 PM
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The Secret Origin of Major Armstrong
Major Armstrong from Full Metal Alchemist: a tall, absurdly muscled body-builder type, completely bald except for a curly forelock, old-timey mustache, flexing and posing shirtless in front of a chalkboard. Text reads "If you need some, here it is"
November 18, 2025 at 3:46 PM
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Need help troubleshooting your relationship? Let me put an extra set of eyes on it!

Send in your questions about love, sex and dating to ASK DR. NERDLOVE at doctornerdlove.com/c... or email them to doc@doctornerdlove.com!
Image of a smartphone showing a romantic couple in silhouette against fairy lights in the background. Underneath a reminder notice says "SUBMIT A DATING ADVICE QUESTION!"
November 18, 2025 at 4:37 AM
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"One of the things that I say often is that you are the common denominator in all your relationships; after all, these are your relationships, not ones that happen to other people. That doesn't mean that your relationship struggles are always your fault; it just means that you're a constant in the equation, not the constant. That's why it can be important to examine your behavior, your actions and choices, and how they may be affecting your relationships. Being mindful of these can give you insight into what's going on and why. " Highlighted portion: "Many times, the issues are external to you; bad luck exists, after all. But sometimes, the problem is something you are doing. And sometimes it's something you're NOT doing."
November 17, 2025 at 8:54 PM
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Need help troubleshooting your relationship? Let me put an extra set of eyes on it!

Send in your questions about love, sex and dating to ASK DR. NERDLOVE at doctornerdlove.com/c... or email them to doc@doctornerdlove.com!
Image of a smartphone showing a romantic couple in silhouette against fairy lights in the background. Underneath a reminder notice says "SUBMIT A DATING ADVICE QUESTION!"
November 17, 2025 at 6:31 PM
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Now live on Patreon: every relationship he's had follows the same pattern. Either he's the best boyfriend they ever had (and then they dump him anyway), their anxiety goes out of control or they turn toxic. What's going on?

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Why Do All My Relationships End The Exact Same Way?
November 17, 2025 at 5:40 AM
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Now live on Patreon: every relationship he's had follows the same pattern. Either he's the best boyfriend they ever had (and then they dump him anyway), their anxiety goes out of control or they turn toxic. What's going on?

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Why Do All My Relationships End The Exact Same Way?
November 16, 2025 at 7:17 PM
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A successful relationship doesn't just happen! Let me help you ensure YOUR love story has a happy ending!

Send in your questions about love, sex and dating to ASK DR. NERDLOVE at doctornerdlove.com/c... or email them to doc@doctornerdlove.com!
Image of a smartphone showing a romantic couple in silhouette against fairy lights in the background. Underneath a reminder notice says "SUBMIT A DATING ADVICE QUESTION!"
November 15, 2025 at 3:36 AM
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“Is not cat, is Popple!”

(H/t @seananmcguire.bsky.social
Vincent the ginger Maine Coon sticking his head out of a pink and orange vinyl pop up cat tent that is tilted backwards to an alarming degree…
November 14, 2025 at 5:31 PM
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A successful relationship doesn't just happen! Let me help you ensure YOUR love story has a happy ending!

Send in your questions about love, sex and dating to ASK DR. NERDLOVE at doctornerdlove.com/c... or email them to doc@doctornerdlove.com!
Image of a smartphone showing a romantic couple in silhouette against fairy lights in the background. Underneath a reminder notice says "SUBMIT A DATING ADVICE QUESTION!"
November 14, 2025 at 5:30 PM
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Now live on Patreon: And you thought YOUR break up sucked... his ex took everything in the break up, including his sense of being a human being. How can he recover after being told he was more of a project than a person?

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My Ex Didn't Just Break Up With Me, She *Broke* Me!
November 14, 2025 at 9:16 AM
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Now live on Patreon: And you thought YOUR break up sucked... his ex took everything in the break up, including his sense of being a human being. How can he recover after being told he was more of a project than a person?

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My Ex Didn't Just Break Up With Me, She *Broke* Me!
November 13, 2025 at 10:26 PM
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Trying to avoid your dating fears just leads you to paralysis. Let me help you overcome yours!

Send in your questions about love, sex and dating to ASK DR. NERDLOVE at doctornerdlove.com/c... or email them to doc@doctornerdlove.com!
Image of a smartphone showing a romantic couple in silhouette against fairy lights in the background. Underneath a reminder notice says "SUBMIT A DATING ADVICE QUESTION!"
November 13, 2025 at 3:18 AM