Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her)
@coffeeandkink.bsky.social
Sex & relationships writer. Specialist topics: polyamory, pleasure products, sapphic sex, kink and BDSM, pleasure & love after abuse.
Homoflexible, polyamorous, femme.
"A bit weird but in a nice way!"
Writing: https://coffeeandkink.me
Homoflexible, polyamorous, femme.
"A bit weird but in a nice way!"
Writing: https://coffeeandkink.me
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Since this is apparently the done thing around here, I'll do a quick intro thread for those who don't know me.
Hi! I'm Amy!
I'm a sex and relationships writer and I've been running a site called Coffee & Kink (link in my bio) for the last 8 years.
Hi! I'm Amy!
I'm a sex and relationships writer and I've been running a site called Coffee & Kink (link in my bio) for the last 8 years.
I know this is an unpopular opinion but I didn't like BBC's #Unforgivable.
It's a moving and well-acted piece of drama, but it perpetuates the narrative that sexual abuse causes sexual abuse (e.g. survivors are more likely to go on to become perpetrators.) Which is *not evidence-based.*
It's a moving and well-acted piece of drama, but it perpetuates the narrative that sexual abuse causes sexual abuse (e.g. survivors are more likely to go on to become perpetrators.) Which is *not evidence-based.*
August 25, 2025 at 11:08 PM
I know this is an unpopular opinion but I didn't like BBC's #Unforgivable.
It's a moving and well-acted piece of drama, but it perpetuates the narrative that sexual abuse causes sexual abuse (e.g. survivors are more likely to go on to become perpetrators.) Which is *not evidence-based.*
It's a moving and well-acted piece of drama, but it perpetuates the narrative that sexual abuse causes sexual abuse (e.g. survivors are more likely to go on to become perpetrators.) Which is *not evidence-based.*
Sticking to your principles is expensive sometimes. I've turned down three paid gigs in two days because I will not promote AI.
August 15, 2025 at 8:48 AM
Sticking to your principles is expensive sometimes. I've turned down three paid gigs in two days because I will not promote AI.
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I don’t want your AI designed toys.
I don’t want your AI written reviews.
I don’t want your AI generated images.
I don’t want your AI ever, at all, anywhere.
I don’t want your AI written reviews.
I don’t want your AI generated images.
I don’t want your AI ever, at all, anywhere.
July 23, 2025 at 5:22 AM
I don’t want your AI designed toys.
I don’t want your AI written reviews.
I don’t want your AI generated images.
I don’t want your AI ever, at all, anywhere.
I don’t want your AI written reviews.
I don’t want your AI generated images.
I don’t want your AI ever, at all, anywhere.
Same.
I don’t care if “AI will soon be the norm”, I don’t care if “we all have to adapt or die”, you won’t convince me to use it in any of my creative roles.
Seeing writers use AI generated book and podcast covers, Artists using Chat GPT, creatives using AI voices. That’s an immediate blacklist from me
Seeing writers use AI generated book and podcast covers, Artists using Chat GPT, creatives using AI voices. That’s an immediate blacklist from me
July 18, 2025 at 4:59 PM
Same.
Kinda cool to see Lovehoney toys being sold openly in Boots! #normalisepleasure #normalisesextoys
May 14, 2025 at 1:39 PM
Kinda cool to see Lovehoney toys being sold openly in Boots! #normalisepleasure #normalisesextoys
More Than Two Second Edition, by @everickert.bsky.social and @andreazanin.bsky.social, is so so so good!
May 9, 2025 at 7:39 AM
More Than Two Second Edition, by @everickert.bsky.social and @andreazanin.bsky.social, is so so so good!
I'm soon going to write about being an s-type (submissive) with two D-types (Dominants.)
What do you want to know, and if you have experience of this dynamic from either side, what are your thoughts?
What do you want to know, and if you have experience of this dynamic from either side, what are your thoughts?
May 6, 2025 at 9:32 PM
I'm soon going to write about being an s-type (submissive) with two D-types (Dominants.)
What do you want to know, and if you have experience of this dynamic from either side, what are your thoughts?
What do you want to know, and if you have experience of this dynamic from either side, what are your thoughts?
Look I know everything seems to be written by fucking AI these days but there are actually still human content writers out there, and when you're rude to us about work we poured our skills and hearts into it still hurts.
April 25, 2025 at 4:03 PM
Look I know everything seems to be written by fucking AI these days but there are actually still human content writers out there, and when you're rude to us about work we poured our skills and hearts into it still hurts.
I tried "vibrating" orgasm gel and I regret all my life choices. That shit BURNS.
April 24, 2025 at 1:27 AM
I tried "vibrating" orgasm gel and I regret all my life choices. That shit BURNS.
Cosy, secure polyam life: your partners gently making fun of you in the group chat (which is named for an obscure in-joke, obvs) 🥰🥰🥰
April 21, 2025 at 9:38 PM
Cosy, secure polyam life: your partners gently making fun of you in the group chat (which is named for an obscure in-joke, obvs) 🥰🥰🥰
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My exclusive interview with Nour Hifaoui Fakhoury about her graphic novel, "Titties," has been published by Coffee & Kink (@coffeeandkink.bsky.social)!
It's available to read for free here: coffeeandkink.me/2025/04/15/n...
#comics #graphicnovels #publishingnews #writingcommunity #comicbooks
It's available to read for free here: coffeeandkink.me/2025/04/15/n...
#comics #graphicnovels #publishingnews #writingcommunity #comicbooks
[Guest Post] Nour Hifaoui Fakhoury’s "Titties": Resistance Against Misogynistic Censorship in the Arab World with Erotic Graphic Novels by J. D. Harlock
J. D. Harlock interviews SWANA artist and writer Nour Hifaoui Fakhoury about her explicit adult graphic novel Titties.
coffeeandkink.me
April 15, 2025 at 9:13 AM
My exclusive interview with Nour Hifaoui Fakhoury about her graphic novel, "Titties," has been published by Coffee & Kink (@coffeeandkink.bsky.social)!
It's available to read for free here: coffeeandkink.me/2025/04/15/n...
#comics #graphicnovels #publishingnews #writingcommunity #comicbooks
It's available to read for free here: coffeeandkink.me/2025/04/15/n...
#comics #graphicnovels #publishingnews #writingcommunity #comicbooks
I often wonder why I'm usually some level of sore/stiff. Then I remember that I'm over 30, I work at a desk, and I like to sleep in the most unhinged positions imaginable.
April 3, 2025 at 11:01 PM
I often wonder why I'm usually some level of sore/stiff. Then I remember that I'm over 30, I work at a desk, and I like to sleep in the most unhinged positions imaginable.
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I meant to launch this last month, but better late than never!
TIME FOR ANOTHER GIVEAWAY!
Read the whole thread to find out how to enter our Double Rainbow Giveaway to win either an XL/Super Soft Philco or a Small/Super Soft Philco!
Be sure to comment on THIS POST after you read over the rules 🌈💖
TIME FOR ANOTHER GIVEAWAY!
Read the whole thread to find out how to enter our Double Rainbow Giveaway to win either an XL/Super Soft Philco or a Small/Super Soft Philco!
Be sure to comment on THIS POST after you read over the rules 🌈💖
April 2, 2025 at 10:01 PM
I meant to launch this last month, but better late than never!
TIME FOR ANOTHER GIVEAWAY!
Read the whole thread to find out how to enter our Double Rainbow Giveaway to win either an XL/Super Soft Philco or a Small/Super Soft Philco!
Be sure to comment on THIS POST after you read over the rules 🌈💖
TIME FOR ANOTHER GIVEAWAY!
Read the whole thread to find out how to enter our Double Rainbow Giveaway to win either an XL/Super Soft Philco or a Small/Super Soft Philco!
Be sure to comment on THIS POST after you read over the rules 🌈💖
Pro relationship tip: date people whose tone when they pick up the phone sounds like you've made their entire day by calling. 💜
April 2, 2025 at 8:46 PM
Pro relationship tip: date people whose tone when they pick up the phone sounds like you've made their entire day by calling. 💜
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I need to know - is it called ethical monogamy or consensual monogamy?
April 1, 2025 at 10:58 PM
I need to know - is it called ethical monogamy or consensual monogamy?
🚨 New post! 🚨
Ready to get deinfluenced? Here are six pleasure products and sexual wellness things you DO NOT NEED.
coffeeandkink.me/2025/03/31/d...
Ready to get deinfluenced? Here are six pleasure products and sexual wellness things you DO NOT NEED.
coffeeandkink.me/2025/03/31/d...
Deinfluencing You: 6 Sexual Wellness and Pleasure Products You Do Not Need
I'm jumping on the deinfluencing trend and deinfluencing you from sexual wellness products and pleasure products you definitely don't need.
coffeeandkink.me
March 31, 2025 at 12:11 PM
🚨 New post! 🚨
Ready to get deinfluenced? Here are six pleasure products and sexual wellness things you DO NOT NEED.
coffeeandkink.me/2025/03/31/d...
Ready to get deinfluenced? Here are six pleasure products and sexual wellness things you DO NOT NEED.
coffeeandkink.me/2025/03/31/d...
Things I get excited about in my 30s: our new custom furniture pieces we ordered months ago are finally arriving tomorrow! #renovating
March 30, 2025 at 6:02 PM
Things I get excited about in my 30s: our new custom furniture pieces we ordered months ago are finally arriving tomorrow! #renovating
Pro abortion and proud.
*taps mic*
please for the love of all that is holy and good in the world, stop announcing to everyone that "NO ONE IS PRO ABORTION."
YOU'RE WRONG.
I AM.
A LOT OF PEOPLE ARE.
ABORTION IS HEALTH CARE.
I'M PRO HEALTH CARE.
I'M PRO CHEMO.
I'M PRO BUTTERFLY STITCHES.
STOP SPREADING STIGMA.
please for the love of all that is holy and good in the world, stop announcing to everyone that "NO ONE IS PRO ABORTION."
YOU'RE WRONG.
I AM.
A LOT OF PEOPLE ARE.
ABORTION IS HEALTH CARE.
I'M PRO HEALTH CARE.
I'M PRO CHEMO.
I'M PRO BUTTERFLY STITCHES.
STOP SPREADING STIGMA.
a man with long hair and a beard is smiling and saying thank you .
Alt: a man with long hair and a beard is smiling and saying thank you .
that man is keanu reeves and he's bowing with his hand to his heart.
media.tenor.com
March 29, 2025 at 8:04 AM
Pro abortion and proud.
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Reminder that Doxy is selling off old stock of the Doxy original (they're updating the look for 2025). You can get 40% off with code CLASSIC40 between now and... whenever they're gone. So be quick if you want a massive bargain. doxymassager.com/doxy-origina... (my affiliate link)
Doxy Original - Doxy
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March 28, 2025 at 12:22 PM
Reminder that Doxy is selling off old stock of the Doxy original (they're updating the look for 2025). You can get 40% off with code CLASSIC40 between now and... whenever they're gone. So be quick if you want a massive bargain. doxymassager.com/doxy-origina... (my affiliate link)
🚨 New review! 🚨
Blush Novelties Avant Lucky, a spectacular sparkly thing stocked and sent to me by the wonderful @pgshop.bsky.social 💜
coffeeandkink.me/2025/03/28/b...
Blush Novelties Avant Lucky, a spectacular sparkly thing stocked and sent to me by the wonderful @pgshop.bsky.social 💜
coffeeandkink.me/2025/03/28/b...
[Toy Review] Blush Novelties Avant Lucky Glitter Dildo - Coffee & Kink
The Blush Novelties Avant Lucky is a silicone glitter dildo in a beautiful blue, pink and purple ombre reminiscent of the bi pride flag.
coffeeandkink.me
March 28, 2025 at 12:42 PM
🚨 New review! 🚨
Blush Novelties Avant Lucky, a spectacular sparkly thing stocked and sent to me by the wonderful @pgshop.bsky.social 💜
coffeeandkink.me/2025/03/28/b...
Blush Novelties Avant Lucky, a spectacular sparkly thing stocked and sent to me by the wonderful @pgshop.bsky.social 💜
coffeeandkink.me/2025/03/28/b...
People who strap-on top: does the aesthetic of the dildo you're using impact how you feel about your gender and/or gender presentation?
March 27, 2025 at 6:39 PM
People who strap-on top: does the aesthetic of the dildo you're using impact how you feel about your gender and/or gender presentation?
At the station waiting for the train to the other train to the shuttle to the airport to the plane to my girl 💜💜💜
March 24, 2025 at 9:27 AM
At the station waiting for the train to the other train to the shuttle to the airport to the plane to my girl 💜💜💜
🚨 New review! 🚨
Blush Novelties Neo Elite confetti dildo for @pgshop.bsky.social 🥰
coffeeandkink.me/2025/03/21/b...
Blush Novelties Neo Elite confetti dildo for @pgshop.bsky.social 🥰
coffeeandkink.me/2025/03/21/b...
Blush Dildo Review: Neo Elite Hanky Panky Glow in the Dark
This Blush dildo is made of clear silicone and filled with blue, green, purple and pink confetti pieces. It also glows in the dark.
coffeeandkink.me
March 21, 2025 at 12:19 PM
🚨 New review! 🚨
Blush Novelties Neo Elite confetti dildo for @pgshop.bsky.social 🥰
coffeeandkink.me/2025/03/21/b...
Blush Novelties Neo Elite confetti dildo for @pgshop.bsky.social 🥰
coffeeandkink.me/2025/03/21/b...
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New review from the lovely @coffeeandkink.bsky.social - Who doesn't love a bit of Lesbian Pride! coffeeandkink.me/2025/03/13/a...
[Toy Review] Avant Pride P3 Beauty Small Suction Cup Dildo - Coffee & Kink
The Avant Pride P3 Beauty is a small suction cup dildo from Blush Novelties made of body-safe silicone in the lesbian pride flag colours
coffeeandkink.me
March 20, 2025 at 10:50 AM
New review from the lovely @coffeeandkink.bsky.social - Who doesn't love a bit of Lesbian Pride! coffeeandkink.me/2025/03/13/a...
Build your relationship with yourself.
Choose partners who help you to become the happiest and healthiest version of that self.
Treat long term love as a group project.
Maintain identities as separate people. Resist becoming a single unit. It's not romantic, it's creepy.
Choose partners who help you to become the happiest and healthiest version of that self.
Treat long term love as a group project.
Maintain identities as separate people. Resist becoming a single unit. It's not romantic, it's creepy.
Last question - How can we build and maintain better relationships?
This is the end of today's episode of QuestionSky. As always, I love you all and I'll see you in the next thread 😘
(Sia x Chandelier plays in the background)
- nai 🦋
This is the end of today's episode of QuestionSky. As always, I love you all and I'll see you in the next thread 😘
(Sia x Chandelier plays in the background)
- nai 🦋
March 17, 2025 at 9:36 PM
Build your relationship with yourself.
Choose partners who help you to become the happiest and healthiest version of that self.
Treat long term love as a group project.
Maintain identities as separate people. Resist becoming a single unit. It's not romantic, it's creepy.
Choose partners who help you to become the happiest and healthiest version of that self.
Treat long term love as a group project.
Maintain identities as separate people. Resist becoming a single unit. It's not romantic, it's creepy.