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A safe space for survivors of Cluster B abuse. No tolerance for gaslighting people into Cluster B acceptance. Cluster B's Do Not Interact. Message for anonymous posting, or venting/support. #clusterb #emotionalabuse #abuserecovery

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Cluster B Abuse Support @cblovedones.bsky.social · Jan 20

We are a group of people who have banded together to offer support for people suffering from #ClusterB abuse. This includes abuse perpetuated by #ASPD, #HPD, #NPD, and #BPD.
If you’re in a relationship with, a friend of, or a family member of a iwCB (Individual with Cluster B), this page is for 🫵

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Dr. Tina Paone @drtinapaone.bsky.social · 3d

A narcissist's faked helplessness is a manipulation tactic. They claim they "can't" do something to get you to do it, making you feel helpful while subtly gaining control and avoiding responsibility. 😡

❓ What things did they tell you they couldn't do?

#narcissticabuse #domesticviolence #cptsd

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Cluster B Abuse Support @cblovedones.bsky.social · 12d

Borderline presenting psychopathy (cluster B) does not typically manifest with a splitting of morals; the split is when the mask falls and the core they’ve been holding back is revealed. Splitting is a misnomer, it implies two different personalities; when it reality it’s one, with a fragile mask.

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Cindy Ann Pedersen @cindyannpedersen.com · 19d

Their actions may seem erratic, but once you recognize their playbook, their unpredictable tactics become predictable. However, predicting the unpredictable is not the same as outsmarting them.
#SurvivorMusic #TruthWarriors #PathologicalAbuse #Narcissist #Sociopath #Psychopath #Gaslighting

Their Moves Are Never Random

Pathological Abuse | Pathological Games

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Cindy Ann Pedersen @cindyannpedersen.com · 23d

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#SurvivorMusic

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · Aug 20

The only thing to be done with some people is to make every effort to forget that they exist. They add nothing to your life, & even accidentally stumbling upon their words will only destabilize you & distract from your goals.

Go cold turkey. Grey rock. They are not a thing.

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Cluster B Abuse Support @cblovedones.bsky.social · Aug 14

We’re sorry your have to deal with these things. Sending you good vibes :)

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · Aug 11

There are few betrayals as common or hurtful as the familial expectation that you be polite to & engage with people who abused you.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · Aug 7

You're not being "difficult" or "resistant" if emotional regulation strategies that worked for others don't fit for you. All it means is what it means: those tools & your nervous system don't click. No judgment; no shame.

Yes, it's frustrating. But it's not your "failure."

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Cluster B Abuse Support @cblovedones.bsky.social · Aug 7

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · Aug 6

Something we learn in CPTSD recovery is that "bravery" isn't always about "pushing through" a situation no matter the damage we're sustaining; it's often more about sitting w/ feelings & memories we hate or don't understand without denying, disowning, or dissociating them.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · Aug 1

Complex trauma has a way of making us feel like we're already dead. That the version of us who was "supposed" to exist & live died, & we're just a husk. What got left behind.

It's not true.

If you are alive to read these words, your journey is not over.

Breathe. Blink. Focus.

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Cluster B Abuse Support @cblovedones.bsky.social · Jul 27

Books that explain Cluster B’s for children? Not a bad idea!

Cluster B Abuse Support @cblovedones.bsky.social · Jul 26

The distinction between actual personality disorders and CPTSD needs to be more clearly defined and made. Too many resources are given to unrecoverable PD’s that get mixed in with treatable, addressable CPTSD’s, to the point where it’s almost Insulting to people with PTSD if you didn’t know better.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · Jul 20

Trauma Brain is going to try to trick us into jumping from "realistically assessing & taking responsibility for our role in our current struggles" to "blaming ourselves for our symptoms, vulnerability, & abuse."

Don't let it get away with that sh*t. They're not the same.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · Jul 19

Do not let Trauma Brain or the Addiction Beast trick you into abandoning your recovery because your options are imperfect at the moment.

Your options may suck right now-- but you still deserve safety, stability, support, & recovery.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · Jul 11

Extend yourself grace, even when healing isn't graceful.

Nobody's judging or ranking or scoring our recovery (nobody who matters, anyway). The success of our recovery is its effectiveness in keeping us alive & supporting our functioning-- not how good or cinematic it looks.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · Jul 11

Maybe today you have Trauma Brain whispering-- or screaming-- in you ear there's no possible way to create or sustain a life worth living. That happens.

Take that as a sign that today is not for making big decisions; breathe; & focus on the next recovery supporting micro choice.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · Jul 11

Nobody else saves us.

The person who saves us is the version of ourselves we develop in recovery.

We're not just looking to heal our trauma wounds or our addiction patterns here. We're working to become a person less vulnerable to them & more skillful at managing them.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · Jul 11

The fact you made the best decision you could to serve your safety, stability, & recovery, doesn't mean you won't doubt or second guess it. Decisions in recovery often aren't obvious-- & very often our options suck.

Easy does it. Just do your best w/ the information you have.

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Words Finally Spoken @wordsfinallyspoken.bsky.social · Jul 10

Abusers don't abuse everyone. They look like very nice people to many. They do this so they can keep abusing the people at home "Undetected". It's manipulation, gaslighting.

Abusers think👇

"If everyone thinks I'm a good person out in public, then I'll still be able to abuse my targets in private."

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · Jul 9

Trauma Brain is going to present you w/ "facts" that "feel" very "true." Which is your cue to remember that trauma conditioning makes things "feel" "true" that can't possibly BE true-- such as you, as a child, being to blame for the behavior of adults.

(No. You weren't.)

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Kaitlin Kal Lee @kaitlinkallee.bsky.social · Jul 9

Abuser’s will claim to not remember things they’ve done to you. The victim will never forget.

(Exceptions for the part of the brain protecting itself from memories -)

However, a casual night of abuse could be nothing to an abuser and forever in the mind of the abused.

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Kjell Kamfjord @kjellkamfjord.bsky.social · Jul 8

There are several groups of people seeking shelter under the "neurodiversity" umbrella, too. Cluster-B personality disorders (narcissists, psychopaths, sociopaths) for example, are starting to refer to themselves as neurodiverse. Wondering if it'll catch on. "Affect deficit disorder", too.

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FuzzyBear1982 @fuzzybear1982.bsky.social · Jul 6

I've yet to encounter a scenario where confronting a narcissist is worth it, and frankly I don't believe one exists.

Narcissistic tendencies, markedly their marrow-deep apathy, implies the existence of much darker tendencies that I'd rather not know about.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · Jul 5

The fact that you are exhausted and/or in pain does not reflect negatively on you as a person. It is not evidence of "failure." It is not evidence of "laziness." And it is absolutely not evidence that you are "unworthy" or morally "bad."

Repeat as necessary. Put it on a loop.

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