All of that to say there are many ways to be healthy, strong powerful, hot, packed with muscle

It's laughable to me most people's ideas of what different weights look like when it varies so much within the healthy range

(P.S. You often can't tell muscle mass and bone density from looks alone)

I think the pufferfish in the spa office is fascinated by my hair

When I swish and flick and toss my hair (long enough to reach mid-hip), he watches and follows it

WATCHING THE PUFFERFISH WATCH AND FOLLOW MY HAIR IS MY CURRENT FAVORITE THING

Obvi "Is this okay?" when it comes to things that could hurt or be initially uncomfortable is a bit different.

But also, "How's this?" or "Does this help?" are options.

I'm not about to be like, "'Okay' is the standard to aspire to when it comes to pleasure."

Trans people have been a big chunk of my followers ANNNDDDD every time someone says they're trans (especially trans masc) I just know there are some things about myself that I don't have to explain to them. I relax a little more.

Yes yessss!

May I screenshot this for Instagram?

Love that y'all were able to talk it out! I think that willingness and ability is a great green flag

With long-term partners who mattered to me, "Will he respect me if I LOVE sex?" was (and for me should be!) a non-concern

It was more like, "Okay, she's such a wonderful human. Cultural conditioning about sex makes me wonder whether she feels the same way — but it’s worth it to ask. She's worth it"

IME intercourse on the first date isn't a huge deal, though

Literally ALL of my past serious relationships started with what the other person worried might be "just" a hookup

If they wanted to date me, they asked for clarity, said it was okay either way, defined intentions. And we dated