I already gave you my answer, you just don't believe it. I think you'd like some big theatrical mask-off moment where I become the guy you need me to be, but I'm busy cooking sides and pies for Thanksgiving and don't really have time for you to insist I'm someone I'm not.

I already explained, and I don't think this is going anywhere productive. I get that you disagree, I get what you think, I believe you're wrong about me and have no interest in letting this devolve further. Have a good holiday.

And that could well be insufficient! The only true apology is improved behavior.

Because it was a noticeable outlier from the sorts of examples I normally see in this particular channel, where most of these guys not only do the shitty thing but also don't seem to realize that it was, or why. Nowhere in there did I say he did anything good or that he doesn't deserve consequences.

I mean, he posted this of his own volition in a place she presumably couldn't see, as an example of what he acknowledged was bad behavior. Again, doesn't mean anything here is *good.*

That's an observation, not a defense. She'd have been well within her rights to divorce him.

I mean, sure. He did say this was last year - did he try to fix it? What did he do this year? He could very well be trash, I wasn't defending him. Just making an observation.

To be very clear, I was not defending the guy? I was just pointing out that it was sadly refreshing that he didn't double down.

Absolutely am not, to be clear.

Oh, it's probably too late and he has nobody to blame but himself, so we're clear.

Didn't say it was enough. Just that it was notable, which is its own kind of sad.

Oh, bare minimum would have been to write some goddamn notes. He would have to work pretty hard at this point to get up to bare minimum.

To be clear, dude sucks. I'm just used to guys acting reactive and defensive even now like "it's her fault for not telling me it was important" or whatever.

Yeah, it's really bad. I think I'm just so used to guys coming out of this situation acting like they're the victim that I'm impressed he had the wherewithal to realize he fucked up.

For sure! As I say, he should feel like shit.

These before/afters are amazing because they always age backwards.

I will say, most of these guys don't seem to realize they've done something wrong. This guy clearly feels like shit - which he should! - but that self-awareness can be a foundation to being better.

The economy is upside down, and so is Australia, so

Hard to say, in addition to being very Southern they were also terrible cooks. Burned the shit out of everything.