It’s actually easier than you think to see which men are capable of being normal. We’ve all (and I really mean ALL - even other men) have been taught to ignore the blaring red flags of cis men to spare their feelings. It’s okay to walk away from that, no matter who you are.

The best thing you can do for yourself is decenter men and stop trying to save them. If men are good, they will show you with their actions. They won’t put everything onto you. They’ll treat you like a person. Even I’ve experienced that with cis men despite being unlucky with them generally.

violent men rarely see themselves as violent men. They’re always moving the goalpost. “I didn’t physically abuser them! I never hit them with a closed fist!”

Because you cannot stop a violent man from hurting others. As much as you try. As much as you try to your own death. It will never work.

And let me tell you if you try and walk that path you’re going to absorb all the violence they spew. You’ll become a sponge, but you’ll never be able to soak it up completely.

It happened a looooong time ago, but nowaday I def agree with the ppl that were staging the intervention. It was about my terrible boyfriend at the time. But it is still super awkward no matter what haha.

Nooo

The day hours are oppressive

SAME!

too much trauma to do it at the right time. Too much fun to be witchy.

I just like never ever wanted to experience this. It makes me so emo. Especially how well it worked on me. I couldn’t even see how much my boundaries were constantly being crossed.

Yeah I never wanted to experience this. Especially when the person never wanted to know the why, they just wanted all the access to my body only on their terms.