There is a gap between what our instincts tell us and what we can reason out, and I believe we have to notice that gap and cross it. I believe we should ask ourselves, "does the feeling I'm having (however strong) match this individual person's actual behavior?" before we take any kind of action.

16. big tits oblivious by brushy, 2023

at a certain point yiris friends realize that uhm. big tits has disadvantages.

so much of my psychology (cf. my fear of my own body existing in 3-space in conjunction with and proximity to other bodies, which I've been talking about on main tonight) *is* built around a paralyzing fear of causing harm I do not wish to cause

Transphobia is visual. Whether you pass is down to luck. Whether someone clocks you as a trans woman and mistreats you when you really are just a guy with long hair is down to luck. I got top surgery in 2022 and didn't pass until 2025. No one can magically detect this shit. They're guessing.