Just remember that sick, gentle, and generally kind people can still be very manipulative, selfish, and thoughtless.

Please forgive me offering a solution if all you wanted was to rant and get some empathy. I am trying not to do that, but it’s hard, esp when you have been there. I appreciate you being so gracious.

If the only person inconvenienced or endangered is you, I don’t see an issue with it, at all (as a chronic procrastinator & avoider). The husband’s actions are so deeply selfish & thoughtless, I am stunned. I have been through it so I am probably triggered over here.

This is so extremely distressing and disturbing. I felt the same way around my bar prep & i went to where my parents were, stayed in my grandfather’s empty condo, and studied in peace. Please consider doing that. Sort out the rel with this saboteur later.

You did not ruin anything!

It’s really okay!

Then he got bored w TCC & threatened to quit & finally I had it. I said look… whether you get your AA or not, I am going to be a lawyer, hopefully really soon. You do do. Do whatever tf you want. I don’t have enough energy for your bullshit. Just do whatever tf you want.

were a decimal. Like, below 1. I think that’s the issue. Anyway, in FL, if you graduated HS anywhere in the world, you automatically are admitted to any community college, so he did that. To avoid working, primarily.

The most hilarious part I think is he decided to finish his undergraduate degree & applied to my school but didn’t get in. He was so upset so I offered to look @ his application to see what went wrong. His GPA from the school where we met was .9. I was like honey i didn’t know there were GPAs that

I am sorry you are caught on this incredibly stressful hamster wheel. If you care for any advice, I suggest going forward in small bits of time; trying to stay in your lane & accomplishing what you can. The anger & loneliness of being w an inattentive, irresponsible partner cannot be overexpressed.

I left him to go to law school & begged him to stay in S FL where he finally had a good job in credit card customer service. He showed up one day unwanted on my front porch. He told me repeatedly he hated law school, law students, lawyers & the law. I said well good thing you can leave!

For YEARS.

Thank you! 🙏🏽 It’s hard to convince yourself of that when they tell you every day you are deficient in every way.

His mom actively hated me & I am unsure why esp since I supported him for most of our 18 year rel. When we got kicked out of her wedding, she screamed @ him how disappointed she was after investing so much in him he “ran off with some girl from NY” which is how you say Jewish girl without saying it.

with me about Jesus, without comprehending the things they argue to me as “known truths” are just dearly held religious Christian beliefs & not proven truths TO ME. Believe whatever you want. Stop asking me questions if you already know & just want to fight.

“Messianic Jews” are Jews, due to the fundamental beliefs of Judiasm. I have friends who are Messianic Jews (Jews for Jesus) & they fundamentally misunderstand the tenets of Judaism. But who cares. I respect what they believe & what is meaningful to them, & it is what it is. I have had people argue

Happy Thanksgiving, Yooty.

Agreed! I saw Springsteen twice! 🎸

Writing changes EVERYthing. 😇