No one can make that call but you and your wife.

I use my personal email, and not my good personal email! Just the one I regularly give out that gets junk and spam.

Can't use the institutional one, because it's not portable if you leave, and a person loses access at some point.

Also, I don't want to spam up the institutional one.

Also:

I'd be happy to hear more about what's the biggest challenge right now and lend support. I've followed you for years and think the world of you.

My 2¢:

Academia is a creative pursuit. It's as creative as art, music or theater, etc.

Don't let setbacks get you down?
There are so many in any creative pursuit!

Treat yourself as the artist you are?
Be good to yourself. You're making a difference in the world.