I also got a foraging manual for my particular area, but not sure how legitimate it is. Knowing what native plants do is interesting, but also helpful.

I felt so weird looking up stuff for bug out bags, but you get it hoping you never need it. Living in Florida for 10 years, you just make sure you have something. Anyways, no shame in having some basic stuff, like a utility knife.

*water filter pitchers with spare filters
*kitchen towels and rags
*I just bought a bidet attachment for the toilet in case we ever run out of toilet paper again.
*obviously non-perishable foods/protein bars

And as we have learned from many advocates in the disability justice movement: ableism is a tool of white supremacy that labels people as “dangerous, stupid and crazy” for the purpose of justifying violence. So stop using slurs! Unpack your insecurities! And don’t call the cops on a 15 year old.

With white men this lack of consistent fawning results in aggression, dominance, possible violence, but also SA, more dangerous. We need to talk about how AuDHD brings out people’s greatest insecurities and violence which is potentially deadly.

I get the opposite I get cold snaps: my body starts shaking and I feel like I have the chills. I have to take a hot bath and keep Gatorade and energy bar near me at night in case I wake up at 2am freezing.

The car seats thing might have been another store now that I think of it. Ugh. Wayfair donated the bunk beds. That’s right. It was so long ago.

I honestly don’t. I’ve just never forgotten and I’m sure that information was scrubbed. I stopped buying from them at that point, and that’s why I don’t.

I need to correct this: with white men there is the risk of SA. Which is a very threatening thing. Not to diminish that at all.

And as we have learned from many advocates in the disability justice movement: ableism is a tool of white supremacy that labels people as “dangerous, stupid and crazy” for the purpose of justifying violence. So stop using slurs! Unpack your insecurities! And don’t call the cops on a 15 year old. 🤦‍♀️

The worst things people assume about me also change based on who I interact with and what they consider the worst. If I’m with another white woman she feels threatened by my lack of fawning, I’m not one of the girls. I experience more bullying behavior. But I’m not seen as a threat to her life.

The problem is that it’s a regular experience that people assume if I’m not doing that labor that I’m a: liar, manipulative, shady, sneaky, rude, judgmental. Autistics get the worst assumptions from people *within their positioning*. So do ADHD ers: lazy, uncooperative, no focus, defiant.

I understand that might seem like I see both sides as the same. They aren’t. But I spent enough of my life fighting people who didn’t want to hear me. I struggle still, because they are so loud. I believe we must make what is better louder. And that involves introspection and accountability.