cutebucket
@cutebucket.bsky.social
she/her 30+ Grumpy tsundere man addict. Sometimes NSFW🔞. Raider, Gposer, and occasional writer, mostly of Hyth/Azem/Emet and EmetWoL.
Currently playing: FFXIV, Infinity Nikki, Fire Emblem Heroes
#noralore for rambling about my WoL
Currently playing: FFXIV, Infinity Nikki, Fire Emblem Heroes
#noralore for rambling about my WoL
Genuinely, why do we have to fight? Why can't we all just enjoy the old man together? Why all the jealously and possessiveness over a fictional dude? I made a rule prohibiting any and all ship war discourse on my tiny emetwol discord for this reason. I just wanna chill, man...😭
June 18, 2025 at 10:10 PM
Genuinely, why do we have to fight? Why can't we all just enjoy the old man together? Why all the jealously and possessiveness over a fictional dude? I made a rule prohibiting any and all ship war discourse on my tiny emetwol discord for this reason. I just wanna chill, man...😭
And all I can think is, what good did this do? Was some kind of "justice" really served here? Or did it just hurt a bunch of already marginalized people and kick back up the "Selchwives" discourse again for some self-righteous internet points?
June 18, 2025 at 3:57 AM
And all I can think is, what good did this do? Was some kind of "justice" really served here? Or did it just hurt a bunch of already marginalized people and kick back up the "Selchwives" discourse again for some self-righteous internet points?
It's been months, and it still haunts me. It still hurts so goddamn much. It's far more quiet in there. Hell, I'VE been far more quiet.
I'm so tired of what fandom has become, where every instance of interpersonal "drama" is leaked to social media to become the new circus of the week.
I'm so tired of what fandom has become, where every instance of interpersonal "drama" is leaked to social media to become the new circus of the week.
June 18, 2025 at 3:57 AM
It's been months, and it still haunts me. It still hurts so goddamn much. It's far more quiet in there. Hell, I'VE been far more quiet.
I'm so tired of what fandom has become, where every instance of interpersonal "drama" is leaked to social media to become the new circus of the week.
I'm so tired of what fandom has become, where every instance of interpersonal "drama" is leaked to social media to become the new circus of the week.
It NEVER should have escalated to the level it did, and I still can't help but blame myself for not being awake the moment the arguing started to realize how severe the issue was and put a stop to it before several hours had passed. All I could do was apologize to the people who remained.
June 18, 2025 at 3:57 AM
It NEVER should have escalated to the level it did, and I still can't help but blame myself for not being awake the moment the arguing started to realize how severe the issue was and put a stop to it before several hours had passed. All I could do was apologize to the people who remained.
And when some got angry and things turned ugly fast, I completely shut down. I was getting accusatory DMs, screenshots were leaked, people were getting death threats and being accused of HORRIBLE things, over what started as one member simply saying they were uncomfortable with an image posted.
June 18, 2025 at 3:57 AM
And when some got angry and things turned ugly fast, I completely shut down. I was getting accusatory DMs, screenshots were leaked, people were getting death threats and being accused of HORRIBLE things, over what started as one member simply saying they were uncomfortable with an image posted.
No one teaches you how to moderate an online space. Every article I've looked up on the subject is vague and unhelpful tips anyone familiar with the internet would know. I didn't understand what the members wanted or needed from me in that moment. I'm not sure I could give them what they wanted.
June 18, 2025 at 3:57 AM
No one teaches you how to moderate an online space. Every article I've looked up on the subject is vague and unhelpful tips anyone familiar with the internet would know. I didn't understand what the members wanted or needed from me in that moment. I'm not sure I could give them what they wanted.
I tried to write a calm and evenhanded response while attempting to handle the moderation side of things privately. But that just seemed to make a lot of people even angrier. I didn't realize it until after I made my initial message, but some open punishment and shaming. But I'm not about that.
June 18, 2025 at 3:57 AM
I tried to write a calm and evenhanded response while attempting to handle the moderation side of things privately. But that just seemed to make a lot of people even angrier. I didn't realize it until after I made my initial message, but some open punishment and shaming. But I'm not about that.
Until one night a few months ago, an argument started at 4am my local time. I woke up to a friend trying to contact me about it a few hours later, but I was busy that morning and couldn't get around to properly trying to discern what happened until later that afternoon.
June 18, 2025 at 3:57 AM
Until one night a few months ago, an argument started at 4am my local time. I woke up to a friend trying to contact me about it a few hours later, but I was busy that morning and couldn't get around to properly trying to discern what happened until later that afternoon.
But I did it anyway. I pushed past my fears and went for it. And people joined! It never had more than 100 people in it, and only a fraction that were active, but it felt like a real community. I was so happy! Everyone seemed fun and chill. And for 99% of the time, they were.
June 18, 2025 at 3:57 AM
But I did it anyway. I pushed past my fears and went for it. And people joined! It never had more than 100 people in it, and only a fraction that were active, but it felt like a real community. I was so happy! Everyone seemed fun and chill. And for 99% of the time, they were.