Heather Cook 🦓🖖Autistic Life Coach
@autismchrysalis.bsky.social
#ActuallyAutistic life coaching for #latediagnosis #Autistic humans to break a lifetime of shoulds and be free.
#AuDHD #ND #EDS #Disabled, she/her, and happy
Find me: https://www.autismchrysalis.com
All my links: https://autismchrysalis.kit.com/
#AuDHD #ND #EDS #Disabled, she/her, and happy
Find me: https://www.autismchrysalis.com
All my links: https://autismchrysalis.kit.com/
Reposted by Heather Cook 🦓🖖Autistic Life Coach
Comparison leads to judgment leads to negative self talk
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Comparison leads to judgment leads to negative self talk
I'm reflecting on how easy it is for high moral standards, high standards of justice, high standards of behavior, or high standards of achievement can be damaging, painful, and even abusive when…
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December 11, 2025 at 7:36 PM
Comparison leads to judgment leads to negative self talk
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Do you want to stay in your room during the holidays but fear it’s rude? Or promoting bad behavior? Here’s a video where I explore these ideas: buff.ly/AQeigkH
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity #AutismAcceptance #Acceptance #Understanding
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity #AutismAcceptance #Acceptance #Understanding
December 12, 2025 at 8:15 PM
Do you want to stay in your room during the holidays but fear it’s rude? Or promoting bad behavior? Here’s a video where I explore these ideas: buff.ly/AQeigkH
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity #AutismAcceptance #Acceptance #Understanding
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity #AutismAcceptance #Acceptance #Understanding
Just recognizing that what’s going on for you is burnout is huge.
You’re not struggling because of some personal failing, you’re not broken, and you’re not incompetent at being a human.
www.autismchrysalis.com/burnout
#AutisticBurnout #BurnoutRecovery #Burnout #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD
You’re not struggling because of some personal failing, you’re not broken, and you’re not incompetent at being a human.
www.autismchrysalis.com/burnout
#AutisticBurnout #BurnoutRecovery #Burnout #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD
December 12, 2025 at 3:34 PM
Just recognizing that what’s going on for you is burnout is huge.
You’re not struggling because of some personal failing, you’re not broken, and you’re not incompetent at being a human.
www.autismchrysalis.com/burnout
#AutisticBurnout #BurnoutRecovery #Burnout #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD
You’re not struggling because of some personal failing, you’re not broken, and you’re not incompetent at being a human.
www.autismchrysalis.com/burnout
#AutisticBurnout #BurnoutRecovery #Burnout #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD
Comparison leads to judgment leads to negative self talk
youtube.com/shorts/tsa8M...
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Comparison leads to judgment leads to negative self talk
I'm reflecting on how easy it is for high moral standards, high standards of justice, high standards of behavior, or high standards of achievement can be damaging, painful, and even abusive when…
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December 11, 2025 at 7:36 PM
Comparison leads to judgment leads to negative self talk
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Resignation is negativity. It leads to lots of complaining, possibly so much complaining and negativity that other people don’t want to be around you, and it may even drive people away (which reinforces the negative thoughts and leads to more rumination).
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic
December 11, 2025 at 3:49 PM
Resignation is negativity. It leads to lots of complaining, possibly so much complaining and negativity that other people don’t want to be around you, and it may even drive people away (which reinforces the negative thoughts and leads to more rumination).
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic
If you normally hate the holidays, and blame it on "what's the matter with me?"
How about...this is a total change in routine. It's over stimulating. Extra masking. Just for a start.
For help seeing through the stress so you can take care of yourself better this year:
How about...this is a total change in routine. It's over stimulating. Extra masking. Just for a start.
For help seeing through the stress so you can take care of yourself better this year:
Dealing with Holiday Stress Workshop
Learn healthier and more authentic ways deal with stress this holiday season, that work for your neurowonderful brain and individual needs.
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December 11, 2025 at 1:09 AM
If you normally hate the holidays, and blame it on "what's the matter with me?"
How about...this is a total change in routine. It's over stimulating. Extra masking. Just for a start.
For help seeing through the stress so you can take care of yourself better this year:
How about...this is a total change in routine. It's over stimulating. Extra masking. Just for a start.
For help seeing through the stress so you can take care of yourself better this year:
Rest is not optional. It is not laziness. It is not a luxury. It is not giving in. Rest is a survival necessity.
All living beings need rest and restoration periodically: daily, seasonally, yearly.
#ActuallyAutistic #EnergyManagement #AuDHD #BurnoutRecovery
All living beings need rest and restoration periodically: daily, seasonally, yearly.
#ActuallyAutistic #EnergyManagement #AuDHD #BurnoutRecovery
December 10, 2025 at 3:37 PM
Rest is not optional. It is not laziness. It is not a luxury. It is not giving in. Rest is a survival necessity.
All living beings need rest and restoration periodically: daily, seasonally, yearly.
#ActuallyAutistic #EnergyManagement #AuDHD #BurnoutRecovery
All living beings need rest and restoration periodically: daily, seasonally, yearly.
#ActuallyAutistic #EnergyManagement #AuDHD #BurnoutRecovery
Alternative Answers to: "How Was Your Day?"
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity
December 9, 2025 at 7:42 PM
Alternative Answers to: "How Was Your Day?"
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity
Dealing with Holiday Stress Workshop Invite
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #AutisticTwitter #Neurospicy #ND
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #AutisticTwitter #Neurospicy #ND
Dealing with Holiday Stress Workshop Invite
For Dealing with Holiday Stress, go to: https://www.autismchrysalis.com/holiday-stressWhat if you could get through the holidays without shutting down, melti...
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December 9, 2025 at 6:01 PM
Dealing with Holiday Stress Workshop Invite
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #AutisticTwitter #Neurospicy #ND
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #AutisticTwitter #Neurospicy #ND
You’re never going to know completely and perfectly exactly what someone is thinking, feeling, or how you’re interpreting what you say. This isn’t your personal failing. This is simply the nature of #communication between individuals who are two different people.
December 9, 2025 at 3:46 PM
You’re never going to know completely and perfectly exactly what someone is thinking, feeling, or how you’re interpreting what you say. This isn’t your personal failing. This is simply the nature of #communication between individuals who are two different people.
If you want some neurodivergent and neuro-positive book recommendations, here are my favorites, ranging from fiction, to sensory advice, to autobiographies, to ways to dissolve internalized ableism.
You can find all of them at: buff.ly/qQMlTQI
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity
You can find all of them at: buff.ly/qQMlTQI
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity
December 8, 2025 at 5:52 PM
If you want some neurodivergent and neuro-positive book recommendations, here are my favorites, ranging from fiction, to sensory advice, to autobiographies, to ways to dissolve internalized ableism.
You can find all of them at: buff.ly/qQMlTQI
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity
You can find all of them at: buff.ly/qQMlTQI
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity
When you first came across something about autism and thought it might have something to do with you, you didn’t have all of the information that you would eventually need to identify with this term. It took some time. 1/2
#unmasking #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #Neurodiversity #AuDHD
#unmasking #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #Neurodiversity #AuDHD
December 8, 2025 at 2:11 PM
When you first came across something about autism and thought it might have something to do with you, you didn’t have all of the information that you would eventually need to identify with this term. It took some time. 1/2
#unmasking #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #Neurodiversity #AuDHD
#unmasking #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #Neurodiversity #AuDHD
JUST RELEASED 6 Things I Know About Rest
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I'm not great at resting, but I've learned a lot and have gotten a lot better at it over the last few years. Here's 6 things I've learned about resting.
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I'm not great at resting, but I've learned a lot and have gotten a lot better at it over the last few years. Here's 6 things I've learned about resting.
6 Things I Know About Rest #autisticburnout #audhd
I'm not great at resting, but I've learned a lot and have gotten a lot better at it over the last few years. Here's 6 things I've learned about resting.
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December 7, 2025 at 9:00 PM
JUST RELEASED 6 Things I Know About Rest
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I'm not great at resting, but I've learned a lot and have gotten a lot better at it over the last few years. Here's 6 things I've learned about resting.
youtu.be/GNDULQx1_p8
I'm not great at resting, but I've learned a lot and have gotten a lot better at it over the last few years. Here's 6 things I've learned about resting.
79 Warning Signs of Autistic Burnout
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#AutisticBurnout #Burnout #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD
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#AutisticBurnout #Burnout #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD
December 7, 2025 at 7:17 PM
79 Warning Signs of Autistic Burnout
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#AutisticBurnout #Burnout #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD
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#AutisticBurnout #Burnout #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD
Who decided that screaming when you get burned on a hot stove is an acceptable reaction, but walking out of the room when people are talking over each other is an unacceptable reaction? 1/2
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity
December 7, 2025 at 2:12 PM
Who decided that screaming when you get burned on a hot stove is an acceptable reaction, but walking out of the room when people are talking over each other is an unacceptable reaction? 1/2
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity
What's the autistic version of the ADHD tax? How does it cost you more to go through life because you're autistic?
#AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Neurodiversity
#AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Neurodiversity
December 6, 2025 at 2:29 PM
What's the autistic version of the ADHD tax? How does it cost you more to go through life because you're autistic?
#AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Neurodiversity
#AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Neurodiversity
They benefit from my burnout #actuallyautistic #audhd #internalizedableism #autisticburnout
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #AutisticTwitter #Neurospicy #ND
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #AutisticTwitter #Neurospicy #ND
They benefit from my burnout #actuallyautistic #audhd #internalizedableism #autisticburnout
This is an excerpt from this workshop: https://www.autismchrysalis.com/ia/ Internalized Ableism Workshop and Self-Assessment: How much is ableism affecting y...
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December 5, 2025 at 4:02 PM
They benefit from my burnout #actuallyautistic #audhd #internalizedableism #autisticburnout
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #AutisticTwitter #Neurospicy #ND
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #AutisticTwitter #Neurospicy #ND
Getting better at the things that burnt you out is not burnout recovery.
Recovery involves leaving the old ways behind and making something better.
#AutisticBurnout #BurnoutRecovery #Burnout #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD
Recovery involves leaving the old ways behind and making something better.
#AutisticBurnout #BurnoutRecovery #Burnout #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD
December 5, 2025 at 3:41 PM
Getting better at the things that burnt you out is not burnout recovery.
Recovery involves leaving the old ways behind and making something better.
#AutisticBurnout #BurnoutRecovery #Burnout #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD
Recovery involves leaving the old ways behind and making something better.
#AutisticBurnout #BurnoutRecovery #Burnout #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD
Reposted by Heather Cook 🦓🖖Autistic Life Coach
I don’t romanticise autism.
But I’m also done pretending the real problem is us.
It’s the hostile environments, the absurd expectations, and the constant demand to be palatable.
But I’m also done pretending the real problem is us.
It’s the hostile environments, the absurd expectations, and the constant demand to be palatable.
December 4, 2025 at 3:34 PM
I don’t romanticise autism.
But I’m also done pretending the real problem is us.
It’s the hostile environments, the absurd expectations, and the constant demand to be palatable.
But I’m also done pretending the real problem is us.
It’s the hostile environments, the absurd expectations, and the constant demand to be palatable.
However someone responds to you telling them you’re autistic has a lot more to do with them than with you.
#unmasking #AutisticMasking #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #Neurodiversity
#unmasking #AutisticMasking #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #Neurodiversity
December 4, 2025 at 3:50 PM
However someone responds to you telling them you’re autistic has a lot more to do with them than with you.
#unmasking #AutisticMasking #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #Neurodiversity
#unmasking #AutisticMasking #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #Neurodiversity
Anxiety or Sensory Sensitivity? Here's How to Tell
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Anxiety #Sensory #Interoception
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Anxiety #Sensory #Interoception
December 3, 2025 at 8:30 PM
Anxiety or Sensory Sensitivity? Here's How to Tell
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Anxiety #Sensory #Interoception
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Anxiety #Sensory #Interoception
December 3, 2025 at 2:32 PM
People-pleasing behaviors or fawn responses are a kind of social trauma response. It’s “please be okay with me, so that I can be safe. I’m going to do whatever you want, make myself into whoever you want me to be, in order for me to feel safe.”
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity
December 2, 2025 at 2:41 PM
People-pleasing behaviors or fawn responses are a kind of social trauma response. It’s “please be okay with me, so that I can be safe. I’m going to do whatever you want, make myself into whoever you want me to be, in order for me to feel safe.”
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity
Look out for a new video from me tomorrow on 6 things I know about rest.
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autisticburnout
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autisticburnout
December 1, 2025 at 6:50 PM
Look out for a new video from me tomorrow on 6 things I know about rest.
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autisticburnout
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autisticburnout