Structured Success
@structuredsuccess.ca
ADHD Coach & Academic Strategist | Guiding ADHD, autistic, and neurodivergent clients through lived experience | they/her | #AuDHD | www.structuredsuccess.ca
Every time a website updates their privacy policy, I just assume that they are finding new ways to harvest and sell my data at this point, and the more corpo-speak they use in the announcement the more data I assume they're stealing :/
December 19, 2025 at 4:58 PM
Every time a website updates their privacy policy, I just assume that they are finding new ways to harvest and sell my data at this point, and the more corpo-speak they use in the announcement the more data I assume they're stealing :/
Being autistic doesn't stop when you have kids, if anything, it changes in unique and unpredictable ways.
Being an autistic parent means navigating all the challenges of parenting while also needing to navigate our own (and often our child's) neurodivergent needs. It's a lot
Being an autistic parent means navigating all the challenges of parenting while also needing to navigate our own (and often our child's) neurodivergent needs. It's a lot
December 18, 2025 at 2:47 PM
Being autistic doesn't stop when you have kids, if anything, it changes in unique and unpredictable ways.
Being an autistic parent means navigating all the challenges of parenting while also needing to navigate our own (and often our child's) neurodivergent needs. It's a lot
Being an autistic parent means navigating all the challenges of parenting while also needing to navigate our own (and often our child's) neurodivergent needs. It's a lot
The goal of emotional regulation isn't to reduce the size of emotions, nor is to to stop feeling emotions altogether.
The goal is to absorb mild emotional shocks without them becoming outsized emotional reactions that reek havoc on physical, mental, and social wellbeing
The goal is to absorb mild emotional shocks without them becoming outsized emotional reactions that reek havoc on physical, mental, and social wellbeing
December 17, 2025 at 3:47 PM
The goal of emotional regulation isn't to reduce the size of emotions, nor is to to stop feeling emotions altogether.
The goal is to absorb mild emotional shocks without them becoming outsized emotional reactions that reek havoc on physical, mental, and social wellbeing
The goal is to absorb mild emotional shocks without them becoming outsized emotional reactions that reek havoc on physical, mental, and social wellbeing
Stop thinking about ADHD and/or autism only in terms of behaviour!
Neurodivergent conditions change our behaviour and behavioural needs, sure, but they also change our sensory experiences, how we think about ourselves and world, and our emotions
Neurodivergent conditions change our behaviour and behavioural needs, sure, but they also change our sensory experiences, how we think about ourselves and world, and our emotions
December 16, 2025 at 2:57 PM
Stop thinking about ADHD and/or autism only in terms of behaviour!
Neurodivergent conditions change our behaviour and behavioural needs, sure, but they also change our sensory experiences, how we think about ourselves and world, and our emotions
Neurodivergent conditions change our behaviour and behavioural needs, sure, but they also change our sensory experiences, how we think about ourselves and world, and our emotions
Autistic communities aren't always inclusive or accessible to all autistic people equally.
Autistic social and support groups (and research participants) often under represent the true diversity of autistic people. This skews our understanding of autism, autistic experiences, and community needs
Autistic social and support groups (and research participants) often under represent the true diversity of autistic people. This skews our understanding of autism, autistic experiences, and community needs
December 15, 2025 at 3:25 PM
Autistic communities aren't always inclusive or accessible to all autistic people equally.
Autistic social and support groups (and research participants) often under represent the true diversity of autistic people. This skews our understanding of autism, autistic experiences, and community needs
Autistic social and support groups (and research participants) often under represent the true diversity of autistic people. This skews our understanding of autism, autistic experiences, and community needs
If you want to change a behaviour, you need to understand why the behaviour is happening.
If you don't meet the need that causes the behaviour to arise, simply discouraging or punishing the behaviour isn't healthy or ethical, and it's not going to work.
...this skeet is about ABA.
If you don't meet the need that causes the behaviour to arise, simply discouraging or punishing the behaviour isn't healthy or ethical, and it's not going to work.
...this skeet is about ABA.
December 14, 2025 at 3:15 PM
If you want to change a behaviour, you need to understand why the behaviour is happening.
If you don't meet the need that causes the behaviour to arise, simply discouraging or punishing the behaviour isn't healthy or ethical, and it's not going to work.
...this skeet is about ABA.
If you don't meet the need that causes the behaviour to arise, simply discouraging or punishing the behaviour isn't healthy or ethical, and it's not going to work.
...this skeet is about ABA.
Before getting diagnosed with ADHD, it can feel like everything is leading up to our assessment, like our assessment is the destination or end of the journey.
But learning you are neurodivergent is the beginning of self-understanding, not the end
But learning you are neurodivergent is the beginning of self-understanding, not the end
December 13, 2025 at 11:08 PM
Before getting diagnosed with ADHD, it can feel like everything is leading up to our assessment, like our assessment is the destination or end of the journey.
But learning you are neurodivergent is the beginning of self-understanding, not the end
But learning you are neurodivergent is the beginning of self-understanding, not the end
ADHD'ers will seriously be like "I'm just lazy" while they are spending every morsel of energy they have, moving heaven and earth, just to get started
December 13, 2025 at 8:31 PM
ADHD'ers will seriously be like "I'm just lazy" while they are spending every morsel of energy they have, moving heaven and earth, just to get started
For better mental health, you need to understand how feedback loops work.
Depression, anxiety, and even mania often exists in feedback loops where an initial situation leads to a self-reinforcing cycle, and before we know it, we're in a scary place filled with dangers that we struggle to get out of
Depression, anxiety, and even mania often exists in feedback loops where an initial situation leads to a self-reinforcing cycle, and before we know it, we're in a scary place filled with dangers that we struggle to get out of
December 11, 2025 at 8:21 PM
For better mental health, you need to understand how feedback loops work.
Depression, anxiety, and even mania often exists in feedback loops where an initial situation leads to a self-reinforcing cycle, and before we know it, we're in a scary place filled with dangers that we struggle to get out of
Depression, anxiety, and even mania often exists in feedback loops where an initial situation leads to a self-reinforcing cycle, and before we know it, we're in a scary place filled with dangers that we struggle to get out of
Having a spiky profile, like many autistic and/or ADHD do, is wild.
Tell me why so many of us do amazing work in complex, highly involved situations (like complicated work projects) but struggle with basic home- and self-care tasks (like showers or laundry).
It is astounding
Tell me why so many of us do amazing work in complex, highly involved situations (like complicated work projects) but struggle with basic home- and self-care tasks (like showers or laundry).
It is astounding
December 10, 2025 at 5:16 PM
Having a spiky profile, like many autistic and/or ADHD do, is wild.
Tell me why so many of us do amazing work in complex, highly involved situations (like complicated work projects) but struggle with basic home- and self-care tasks (like showers or laundry).
It is astounding
Tell me why so many of us do amazing work in complex, highly involved situations (like complicated work projects) but struggle with basic home- and self-care tasks (like showers or laundry).
It is astounding
Getting a diagnosis is associated with both positive and negative consequences.
On the good side, diagnoses can help us understand ourselves and plan appropriately for the future, including setting realistic goals. They can also enable us to identify and build supports towards personal growth
On the good side, diagnoses can help us understand ourselves and plan appropriately for the future, including setting realistic goals. They can also enable us to identify and build supports towards personal growth
December 9, 2025 at 8:26 PM
Getting a diagnosis is associated with both positive and negative consequences.
On the good side, diagnoses can help us understand ourselves and plan appropriately for the future, including setting realistic goals. They can also enable us to identify and build supports towards personal growth
On the good side, diagnoses can help us understand ourselves and plan appropriately for the future, including setting realistic goals. They can also enable us to identify and build supports towards personal growth
Managing ADHD isn't something that can be done alone.
The best management of ADHD requires some combination of professional support, accommodation, medical treatment, and community building (oh, and luck).
Stop trying to do it alone!
The best management of ADHD requires some combination of professional support, accommodation, medical treatment, and community building (oh, and luck).
Stop trying to do it alone!
December 8, 2025 at 8:29 PM
Managing ADHD isn't something that can be done alone.
The best management of ADHD requires some combination of professional support, accommodation, medical treatment, and community building (oh, and luck).
Stop trying to do it alone!
The best management of ADHD requires some combination of professional support, accommodation, medical treatment, and community building (oh, and luck).
Stop trying to do it alone!
Different neurodivergent conditions can look very similar but be COMPLETELY different.
This is why it's so important to understand the root of our behaviours or experiences. These differences change our treatment options, accommodations, and personal coping strategies!
This is why it's so important to understand the root of our behaviours or experiences. These differences change our treatment options, accommodations, and personal coping strategies!
December 7, 2025 at 3:04 PM
Different neurodivergent conditions can look very similar but be COMPLETELY different.
This is why it's so important to understand the root of our behaviours or experiences. These differences change our treatment options, accommodations, and personal coping strategies!
This is why it's so important to understand the root of our behaviours or experiences. These differences change our treatment options, accommodations, and personal coping strategies!
Me: Hi, I'm Maaya, and this is my anxiety dog. Her name is Korra.
Them: Oh, she's like a service dog then?
Me: No no no no. She has crippling anxiety. In fact, she's afraid of cooking
Them: Oh, she's like a service dog then?
Me: No no no no. She has crippling anxiety. In fact, she's afraid of cooking
December 6, 2025 at 10:49 PM
Me: Hi, I'm Maaya, and this is my anxiety dog. Her name is Korra.
Them: Oh, she's like a service dog then?
Me: No no no no. She has crippling anxiety. In fact, she's afraid of cooking
Them: Oh, she's like a service dog then?
Me: No no no no. She has crippling anxiety. In fact, she's afraid of cooking
There's so much pressure to conform to the neurotypical way of things. This creates an invisible power dynamic to existing in a neurotypical world as a neurodivergent person.
This can steal our agency and teach us it isn't safe to diverge from neurotypical expectations
This can steal our agency and teach us it isn't safe to diverge from neurotypical expectations
December 6, 2025 at 3:51 PM
There's so much pressure to conform to the neurotypical way of things. This creates an invisible power dynamic to existing in a neurotypical world as a neurodivergent person.
This can steal our agency and teach us it isn't safe to diverge from neurotypical expectations
This can steal our agency and teach us it isn't safe to diverge from neurotypical expectations
Knowing with 100% certainty that I'm not going to be able do everything I need to get done today, no matter how hard I try, is not a great task initiation strategy, fyi
December 6, 2025 at 2:09 PM
Knowing with 100% certainty that I'm not going to be able do everything I need to get done today, no matter how hard I try, is not a great task initiation strategy, fyi
Why do so few people understand that emotional regulation is a core struggle for ADHD'ers?
It's so hard when our emotions are big, fast, or intrusive, the way they are for many of us. And can lead us down majorly dark emotional paths before we even realize what's happening (1/2)
It's so hard when our emotions are big, fast, or intrusive, the way they are for many of us. And can lead us down majorly dark emotional paths before we even realize what's happening (1/2)
December 5, 2025 at 5:38 PM
Why do so few people understand that emotional regulation is a core struggle for ADHD'ers?
It's so hard when our emotions are big, fast, or intrusive, the way they are for many of us. And can lead us down majorly dark emotional paths before we even realize what's happening (1/2)
It's so hard when our emotions are big, fast, or intrusive, the way they are for many of us. And can lead us down majorly dark emotional paths before we even realize what's happening (1/2)
Intrusive regret, the feeling when you cringe and overanalyze something that happened years ago, is an intrusive thought like any other.
It can be distressing, disturbing or even negatively impact our ability to function, but it isn't something we're choosing or doing to ourselves
It can be distressing, disturbing or even negatively impact our ability to function, but it isn't something we're choosing or doing to ourselves
December 4, 2025 at 2:52 PM
Intrusive regret, the feeling when you cringe and overanalyze something that happened years ago, is an intrusive thought like any other.
It can be distressing, disturbing or even negatively impact our ability to function, but it isn't something we're choosing or doing to ourselves
It can be distressing, disturbing or even negatively impact our ability to function, but it isn't something we're choosing or doing to ourselves
Every single neurodivergent condition has complexity and nuance to it. One person's experience with ADHD or OCD, for example, can be SO SO SO different than someone else's.
Remember: Our traits and our experiences aren't universal, and neither are anyone else's
Remember: Our traits and our experiences aren't universal, and neither are anyone else's
December 3, 2025 at 3:25 PM
Every single neurodivergent condition has complexity and nuance to it. One person's experience with ADHD or OCD, for example, can be SO SO SO different than someone else's.
Remember: Our traits and our experiences aren't universal, and neither are anyone else's
Remember: Our traits and our experiences aren't universal, and neither are anyone else's
Autistic people sometimes communicate in different ways than allistic people. These differences can be in word choice or tone, but can be the medium of communication itself.
Using assistive technology to communicate doesn't diminish our personhood, our intelligence, or our worth
Using assistive technology to communicate doesn't diminish our personhood, our intelligence, or our worth
December 2, 2025 at 6:11 PM
Autistic people sometimes communicate in different ways than allistic people. These differences can be in word choice or tone, but can be the medium of communication itself.
Using assistive technology to communicate doesn't diminish our personhood, our intelligence, or our worth
Using assistive technology to communicate doesn't diminish our personhood, our intelligence, or our worth
I've found today's ADHD champion:
December 2, 2025 at 3:20 PM
I've found today's ADHD champion:
If we could harness power from the dread ADHD'ers feel about their upcoming tasks, we'd never need energy again
December 1, 2025 at 6:44 PM
If we could harness power from the dread ADHD'ers feel about their upcoming tasks, we'd never need energy again
Prioritizing the experiences of neurotypical professionals, parents, and caregivers shifts the goal away from supporting and accommodating autistic people's needs.
Over the long-term, this focus stagnates community supports in a way that makes being autistic so much harder
Over the long-term, this focus stagnates community supports in a way that makes being autistic so much harder
December 1, 2025 at 2:31 PM
Prioritizing the experiences of neurotypical professionals, parents, and caregivers shifts the goal away from supporting and accommodating autistic people's needs.
Over the long-term, this focus stagnates community supports in a way that makes being autistic so much harder
Over the long-term, this focus stagnates community supports in a way that makes being autistic so much harder
Our ways of self-regulating are limited by what has been modelled for us.
Without good, diverse models for how to self-regulate, it's so easy to get stuck in an approach that isn't actually authentic to us.
Seeking these models for self-regulation skills is such an underrated path to growth
Without good, diverse models for how to self-regulate, it's so easy to get stuck in an approach that isn't actually authentic to us.
Seeking these models for self-regulation skills is such an underrated path to growth
November 30, 2025 at 3:48 PM
Our ways of self-regulating are limited by what has been modelled for us.
Without good, diverse models for how to self-regulate, it's so easy to get stuck in an approach that isn't actually authentic to us.
Seeking these models for self-regulation skills is such an underrated path to growth
Without good, diverse models for how to self-regulate, it's so easy to get stuck in an approach that isn't actually authentic to us.
Seeking these models for self-regulation skills is such an underrated path to growth
Being AuDHD often feels like ADHD and autism are locked in an epic battle, exhausting internal resources… until they decide to collaborate on making functioning impossible
November 29, 2025 at 2:35 PM
Being AuDHD often feels like ADHD and autism are locked in an epic battle, exhausting internal resources… until they decide to collaborate on making functioning impossible