Spicy Brain Candy
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Neurodivergent chaos, mental health, and cozy disaster chic. Half meltdown, half masterpiece. Perfect lighting, questionable stability.
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The thunder wasn’t punishment. It was the sound of you coming back to life.
#healingjourney #growthmindset #mentalhealth
#healingjourney #growthmindset #mentalhealth
December 18, 2025 at 5:06 AM
The thunder wasn’t punishment. It was the sound of you coming back to life.
#healingjourney #growthmindset #mentalhealth
#healingjourney #growthmindset #mentalhealth
My toxic trait is thinking one productive day means I’ve fixed my entire life.
#adhdlife #selfawareness #neurodiversity
#adhdlife #selfawareness #neurodiversity
December 18, 2025 at 5:04 AM
My toxic trait is thinking one productive day means I’ve fixed my entire life.
#adhdlife #selfawareness #neurodiversity
#adhdlife #selfawareness #neurodiversity
December 18, 2025 at 4:34 AM
December 18, 2025 at 1:34 AM
I love self-improvement books because they make me feel like I’ve changed without actually doing anything.
#selfgrowth #procrastination #lol #selfimprovement #mentalhealthmatters
#selfgrowth #procrastination #lol #selfimprovement #mentalhealthmatters
December 18, 2025 at 12:30 AM
I love self-improvement books because they make me feel like I’ve changed without actually doing anything.
#selfgrowth #procrastination #lol #selfimprovement #mentalhealthmatters
#selfgrowth #procrastination #lol #selfimprovement #mentalhealthmatters
I don’t need therapy, I just need everyone to behave the way I imagined in my head.
#selfawareness #mentalhealthmatters #therapy
#selfawareness #mentalhealthmatters #therapy
December 17, 2025 at 11:21 PM
I don’t need therapy, I just need everyone to behave the way I imagined in my head.
#selfawareness #mentalhealthmatters #therapy
#selfawareness #mentalhealthmatters #therapy
December 17, 2025 at 10:21 PM
I’m at that stage of healing where I can laugh while dissociating.
#traumarecovery #selfawareness #darkhumor
#traumarecovery #selfawareness #darkhumor
December 17, 2025 at 9:29 PM
I’m at that stage of healing where I can laugh while dissociating.
#traumarecovery #selfawareness #darkhumor
#traumarecovery #selfawareness #darkhumor
Your brain doesn’t want closure.
It wants data.
Unfinished endings stay loud because the prediction loop never resolved — not because you failed to “move on.”
Things don’t end.
They lose priority.
It wants data.
Unfinished endings stay loud because the prediction loop never resolved — not because you failed to “move on.”
Things don’t end.
They lose priority.
Why “Getting Closure” Is a Myth Your Brain Was Never Built For | Spicy Brain Candy
Why “getting closure” doesn’t work. Unfinished endings hurt more than bad ones because your brain is built to track uncertainty, not resolve it.
buff.ly
December 17, 2025 at 8:24 PM
Your brain doesn’t want closure.
It wants data.
Unfinished endings stay loud because the prediction loop never resolved — not because you failed to “move on.”
Things don’t end.
They lose priority.
It wants data.
Unfinished endings stay loud because the prediction loop never resolved — not because you failed to “move on.”
Things don’t end.
They lose priority.
Empathy isn’t understanding.
It’s a simulation your brain builds from your experiences — not access to someone else’s inner world.
Care can be real and still be wrong.
Curiosity matters more than certainty.
It’s a simulation your brain builds from your experiences — not access to someone else’s inner world.
Care can be real and still be wrong.
Curiosity matters more than certainty.
Empathy Is Not Understanding — It's Simulation | Spicy Brain Candy
Empathy isn’t understanding — it’s simulation. Why empathy misfires, fails at scale, and was never meant to be accurate.
buff.ly
December 17, 2025 at 7:26 PM
Empathy isn’t understanding.
It’s a simulation your brain builds from your experiences — not access to someone else’s inner world.
Care can be real and still be wrong.
Curiosity matters more than certainty.
It’s a simulation your brain builds from your experiences — not access to someone else’s inner world.
Care can be real and still be wrong.
Curiosity matters more than certainty.
What a privilege to be tired from work you once wished for.
December 4, 2025 at 6:53 PM
What a privilege to be tired from work you once wished for.
You’re not choosing the wrong people — you’re choosing the familiar ones.
Your nervous system has a Trauma Compass, and it points toward what it already knows.
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Your nervous system has a Trauma Compass, and it points toward what it already knows.
spicybraincandy.com/trauma-compa...
The Trauma Compass: Why You’re Always Drawn to People Who Feel ‘Familiar’ (Even When They Hurt You) | Spicy Brain Candy
Why you keep choosing familiar pain over healthy love — and how your nervous system’s Trauma Compass can be gently rewired toward real safety.
spicybraincandy.com
December 4, 2025 at 5:37 PM
You’re not choosing the wrong people — you’re choosing the familiar ones.
Your nervous system has a Trauma Compass, and it points toward what it already knows.
spicybraincandy.com/trauma-compa...
Your nervous system has a Trauma Compass, and it points toward what it already knows.
spicybraincandy.com/trauma-compa...
“Tell me about yourself” is a hostile question actually.
November 30, 2025 at 5:30 PM
“Tell me about yourself” is a hostile question actually.
I’m in my “quietly losing it but still functioning” era.
November 30, 2025 at 2:30 AM
I’m in my “quietly losing it but still functioning” era.
My reality is 10% facts and 90% vibes plus caffeine.
November 29, 2025 at 11:45 PM
My reality is 10% facts and 90% vibes plus caffeine.
Having anxiety is like having a personal trainer who hates you.
November 29, 2025 at 8:15 PM
Having anxiety is like having a personal trainer who hates you.
Why do I get tired from doing nothing? I didn’t do anything. I emotionally supervised it.
November 29, 2025 at 5:30 PM
Why do I get tired from doing nothing? I didn’t do anything. I emotionally supervised it.
Overthinking is my side hustle.
November 29, 2025 at 2:30 AM
Overthinking is my side hustle.
I don’t want to be mysterious; I just forget to respond.
November 28, 2025 at 11:45 PM
I don’t want to be mysterious; I just forget to respond.
My brain: let's get up early tomorrow. Also my brain tomorrow: absolutely not.
November 28, 2025 at 8:15 PM
My brain: let's get up early tomorrow. Also my brain tomorrow: absolutely not.
Chaos follows me because I look like I know where I’m going.
November 28, 2025 at 5:30 PM
Chaos follows me because I look like I know where I’m going.
My social life is just me overanalyzing tone shifts in group chats.
November 28, 2025 at 2:30 AM
My social life is just me overanalyzing tone shifts in group chats.
My brain randomly decides it’s time to remember every bad text I’ve ever sent.
November 27, 2025 at 11:45 PM
My brain randomly decides it’s time to remember every bad text I’ve ever sent.
I need a nap, a snack, and a personality reboot.
November 27, 2025 at 8:15 PM
I need a nap, a snack, and a personality reboot.
Whoever invented mornings owes me an apology.
November 27, 2025 at 5:30 PM
Whoever invented mornings owes me an apology.