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Netherkraine @netherkraine.bsky.social · 2d

a woman in a yellow dress is running in a field with the words `` run girl '' .

ALT: a woman in a yellow dress is running in a field with the words `` run girl '' .

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Netherkraine @netherkraine.bsky.social · 4d

They should consider dating men then.

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Netherkraine @netherkraine.bsky.social · 5d

He reeks of insecurity.

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Netherkraine @netherkraine.bsky.social · 6d

But men are the protectors!
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Netherkraine @netherkraine.bsky.social · 7d

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Netherkraine @netherkraine.bsky.social · 7d

And our boxed wine 🤪

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Netherkraine @netherkraine.bsky.social · 11d

It's parenting, not babysitting FFS.

AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 11d

"we need to talk about your attitude".. oh brother

My husband told his coworkers he "babysits" our kids and I finally lost it

this happened yesterday and I'm still shaking

I work from home three days a week. my husband works in an office. we have two kids, 4 and 7. yesterday I had back-to-back video calls all afternoon for a project deadline and my husband was home because he left work early for a dentist appointment

around 4pm I'm on a call with my camera off, muted, trying to finish up. I can hear my husband in the kitchen with his coworker who apparently stopped by to drop something off. they're talking and I hear his coworker say something like "oh man you're on kid duty today?"

and my husband laughs and goes "yeah I'm babysitting this afternoon so the wife can work"

babysitting our children

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I finished my call. walked into the kitchen. his coworker left like two minutes later and I just stood there staring at him

he could tell something was wrong and he's like "what?" and I said "you babysit our kids?"

he got defensive immediately. "it's just a phrase, don't be weird about it"

and something in me just snapped

I asked him if he knew what our daughter's teacher's name is. he didn't. I asked him when our son's last dentist appointment was. he didn't know. I asked him what size shoes either of them wear. he guessed wrong on both. I asked him when they last had checkups, what their friends' names are, what our daughter is allergic to, what time they go to bed on school nights

he got one right. bedtime. because he's usually home by then

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then I asked him what I do when I'm "not working." I asked him to list my tasks on a regular day. he said "you know, the usual stuff. cleaning and whatever"

I pulled up my phone and read him my calendar. pediatrician appointments. dentist. parent teacher conferences. school pickups. grocery planning. meal prep. the mental load of knowing we're out of milk and someone needs new cleats and there's a birthday party on saturday that needs a gift. playdates organize. forms I fill out. emails I send to teachers. scheduling their activities. buying their clothes when they outgrow things. tracking their developmental milestones. remembering to book their annual checkups six months in advance because the good doctors book up

he just stared at me

I told him he doesn't babysit his own children. he parents them. or he's supposed to. but what he actually does is show up for the fun parts and then acts like he's doing me a favor when I need to work

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he said I was being ridiculous and he does plenty around the house. I asked him to name one thing he does without me asking him to do it or reminding him. he couldn't.

I haven't spoken to him since last night. he thinks I'm overreacting. he texted me this morning saying "we need to talk about your attitude"

my attitude....

I've been doing this for seven years. seven years of being the default parent while he gets to be the fun dad who "helps out" and gets praised for doing the bare minimum. and I never realized how angry I was about it until he called it babysitting

I don't even know what I'm asking here. I just needed to tell someone who might understand that I'm not crazy for being this angry

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Netherkraine @netherkraine.bsky.social · 12d

Men vs emotional regulation

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Netherkraine @netherkraine.bsky.social · 15d

True.

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Netherkraine @netherkraine.bsky.social · 15d

If men want submission, there are plenty of dogs who need homes.

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Netherkraine @netherkraine.bsky.social · 18d

"Female"

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Netherkraine @netherkraine.bsky.social · 20d

I still see it.

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Netherkraine @netherkraine.bsky.social · 20d

Just proof that men DON'T love unconditionally.

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Netherkraine @netherkraine.bsky.social · 25d

I don't need a man to be at least 6 feet tall. Where are these dudes getting this claim from?

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Netherkraine @netherkraine.bsky.social · 28d

I've BEEN hearing people say bad things about her. I'm indifferent to her, but some people, especially men, seem to think she's a blight on the entertainment industry.

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Netherkraine @netherkraine.bsky.social · Sep 26

The fact that he blew up on her just proves that he's already emotional, just not in the way his ex wanted him to be.

He's apparently NOT human since he doesn't want to be "tamed" LOL

And I thought that being soft was a good thing since men constantly tell us to be it.

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Netherkraine @netherkraine.bsky.social · Sep 26

It's a fucked up story.

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Netherkraine @netherkraine.bsky.social · Sep 24

Maybe her abusive boyfriend tricked her into thinking he was a good guy when they first met. How was she supposed to predict his actions? Some men just don't seem to get it.

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