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Jonathan Teo @jonathantoteo.bsky.social · 11h

Well done, NYC!

#itsMamdani #itsMayorMamdani #NYC #NYCMayoralRace

Guardian Australia @australia.theguardian.com · 11h

Democratic nominee Zohran Mamdani was elected on Tuesday as the 111th mayor of New York City, defeating former governor Andrew Cuomo and Republican candidate Curtis Sliwa and making history as the city’s first Muslim mayor. 🔗 👉 www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025...

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Jonathan Teo @jonathantoteo.bsky.social · 11h

This is from the Pretty Painful Grief Book on Instagram - found at @prettypainfulgriefbook

It says a lot.

#grief #widowhood #bereft #pain #thepriceoflove #prettypainfulgriefbook

Black text on a white background that says "They say grief is the price we pay for love. And if that's true, I'd pay it again and again. Even knowing how much it hurst now. Even knowing the ache will never leave. Because what I had - what we shared - was worth every ounce of this heartbreak. Love that deep doesn't vanish. It lingers in the empty spaces, in the memories, in the ache that never really softens. And, yes, it's painful. Sometimes unbearably so. But it's also sacred. Proof that they were real. Proof that they mattered. Proof that even the sharpest pain comes from something beautiful."

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Jonathan Teo @jonathantoteo.bsky.social · 11h

#grief #widowhood #bereft #everythingchanges

Image of a wooden walkway going into the fog in the distance with the words "When you lose someone you truly love with all your hear, EVERY. SINGLE. THING. CHANGES. You are handed a new life that you never asked for and that you don't particularly want. It is the hardest, most gut-wrenching, horrific, life-altering of things to live with."

Jonathan Teo @jonathantoteo.bsky.social · 15d

The greatest gift I ever received was his love.

#love #loss #lovestilllives #widowhood #grief #bereft

Image by @risewithgrief says “I lost you. But I also got to love you. And to be loved by you. That love still lives in every part of me. I will forever be grateful for that.”

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Jonathan Teo @jonathantoteo.bsky.social · 16d

Part 2 is here: bsky.app/profile/jona...

Jonathan Teo @jonathantoteo.bsky.social · 16d

From a support group for widowed people (i.e., wids), here are some that they all agree you shouldn't say.

You may think you're being supportive and/or understanding, but you're not when you say these things to us.

Pt. 2

#widowhood #grief #bereft #dontsaythat

Image that says "Don't say these things to someone whose person* has died, Pt 2" and the asterisk explains that the person refers to "their spouse or partner".

Image: The next thing not to say "I know how you feel. My pet died" with the explanation, "As with #1, this is not the same. Whilst it is understood that pets are often seen as part of our families, losing a pet to death is not the same as losing your person, the love of your life, the one you thought you'd be together with for decades."

Image: The next thing not to say, "Everything happens for a reason/It was God's will." with the explanation "This is not as comforting as you think. They just lost their person. Their world has collapsed. The life they thought they were going to have is gone. And, you offering this platitude does not make them feel better."

Image: the next thing not to say "Why are you dating already?" with the explanation "The opposite of #3. It is their life and their grief journey. Even if you are a widowed person yourself, remember they aren ot you. Don't put personal judgement on how they handle that journey. They know what is right and best for them."

Jonathan Teo @jonathantoteo.bsky.social · 16d

From a support group for widowed people (i.e., wids), here are some that they all agree you shouldn't say.

You may think you're being supportive and/or understanding, but you're not when you say these things to us.

Pt. 2

#widowhood #grief #bereft #dontsaythat

Jonathan Teo @jonathantoteo.bsky.social · 16d

From a support group for widowed people (i.e., wids), here are some that they all agree you shouldn't say.

You may think you're being supportive and/or understanding, but you're not when you say these things to us.

Pt. 1

#widowhood #grief #bereft #dontsaythat

Image that says "Don't say these things to someone whose person* has died, Pt 1" and the asterisk explains that the person refers to "their spouse or partner".

Image: The first thing not to say is "I know how you feel. I recently broke up with my person" with the explanation "This is not the same. The end of your relationship was a choice. And, your person is still alive. ou could get back together with them. Widowed people didn't have a choice and don't have this option."

Image: the next thing not to say is "It's been [amount of time]. Isn't it time to get over it and move on?" with the explanation "Would you say this to someone who is grieving their dead child? Their dead parent? Sibling? No? Then why are you saying it to a widowed person?"

Image: the next thing not to say is "When are you going to start dating again?" with the explanation "Yes, some widowed people start dating again at some point. But, this question can be seen to be negating the person's grief or the memory of their person. And, again, would you ask someone who has lost a child when they are having another?"

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Jonathan Teo @jonathantoteo.bsky.social · 20d

The lack of him in my life will never diminish. I will just find ways to move forward and grow around his absence.

#widowhood #grief #bereft #loss

Post that states "His absence is ever present; a hole in my life that will never be filled".

Jonathan Teo @jonathantoteo.bsky.social · 23d

It's been 2 years since Julian's death. Two years of missing him every day. Two years of trying to move forward, to find a new path without him.

His absence is ever present.

I love him as much today as I did then. I will always love him. He will never be forgotten. ❤️❤️❤️

#grief #widowhood #bereft

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Jonathan Teo @jonathantoteo.bsky.social · Oct 5

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Jonathan Teo @jonathantoteo.bsky.social · Oct 5

#old #tired #epicshit #mehpicshit #meh

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Jonathan Teo @jonathantoteo.bsky.social · Oct 4

Vale Hyacinth Bucket.

I hope your place in the afterlife has a sauna, a swimming pool & room for a pony.

And that you’re using your Royal Doulton china w/the hand painted periwinkles for a candlelight supper w/the angels.

#hyacinthbucket #ladyofthehouse #itsbouqet #patriciaroutledge

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ianVisits @ianvisits.co.uk · Oct 3

In memoriam...

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Phil Lewis @phillewis.bsky.social · Oct 1

Jane Goodall, ethologist and conservationist, has died. She was 91

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Jonathan Teo @jonathantoteo.bsky.social · Sep 26

This. He was my home. He made my world better.

I not only lost him the day he died; I lost myself because who I was was because of his presence, his influence, his LOVE.

#bereft #grief #widowhood #loss #death

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Jonathan Teo @jonathantoteo.bsky.social · Sep 25

#rapture2025 #mirandapriestly #devilwearsprada

Image of the character Miranda Priestly from The Devil Wears Prada. She is saying "Why is no one raptured" in the same way the character actually said "Why is no one ready" in the movie.

Jonathan Teo @jonathantoteo.bsky.social · Sep 21

Death of a loved one and the grief that comes after has no grand cosmic purpose.

You create out of it, though, what you can and move forward, carrying that grief with you.

#grief #bereft #widowhood #noreason #moveforward

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Jonathan Teo @jonathantoteo.bsky.social · Sep 16

This. All this.

He was my home. And now my home is gone and there is no going back to it.

#homeiswheretheheartis #hewasmyhome #hewasmyheart #grief #widowhood #bereft

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Jonathan Teo @jonathantoteo.bsky.social · Sep 14

Saw a post that said, "if you haven't lost your partner, look away". No shade to them, but I disagree.

PAY ATTENTION! This could be you at any time, without notice.

On 12 October 2023, I had no idea it would be me the very next day. Now it is.

#grief #bereft #widowhood #partnerloss

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Jonathan Teo @jonathantoteo.bsky.social · Sep 12

I know people mean well, but please don't say that you understand because you lost your (grand)parent/sibling, and definitely not your pet.

I wouldn't dare tell someone who lost a child that I understand because I lost Julian.

It is not the same.

#grief #bereft #widowhood #loss #itsdifferent

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Jonathan Teo @jonathantoteo.bsky.social · Sep 12

"Unfortunately, that, 'Time heals all wounds' is just a bunch of malarkey. Time doesn't heal all wounds. It just changes you enough so you can live with them." - Madeleine Matlock (Kathy Bates) in Matlock

You've got that right!

#grief #bereft #widowhood #timedoesntheal #livewithgrief #moveforward

Jonathan Teo @jonathantoteo.bsky.social · Sep 12

His ripples live on. Though, sometimes, I think I'm the only one who sees/feels the ripples. Others have seemingly forgotten him. Sigh.

#grief #bereft #widowhood #ripples #heexisted #terrypratchett #reaperman

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Jonathan Teo @jonathantoteo.bsky.social · Sep 11

Time hasn't healed anything. Oh... it is "easier" in some ways. His absence is more familiar in some ways. But, I still miss him every day. Almost 2 years later and that has not changed.

#grief #bereft #widowhood #timedoesntheal #missinghim

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Jonathan Teo @jonathantoteo.bsky.social · Sep 10

Just became a certified Mental Health First Aider through Mental Health First Aid Australia.

Mental health is important & it is great that first aid is no longer just available for our medical/physical health.

#mentalhealthfirstaid #mentalhealth #MHFA

Jonathan Teo @jonathantoteo.bsky.social · Sep 10

Did you know that the person who invented the door knocker won the No Bell prize?

#dadjoke #joke #funny