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Carly J Dubois 🦋

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Editor at NYT property The Athletic, on leave with suicidal thoughts largely because of the Times and the workplace. My posts vanish. Sorry. She/her. Be kind. Signal: carlyjdubois.42 Tip jar: https://wp.me/P680e0-2gl

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Carly J Dubois 🦋 @carlyjdubois.com · Jan 13

The story of my 3-year nightmare as a trans woman at a New York Times-owned company (CW: suicide, suicidal ideation, anti-trans hate):
www.carlyjdubois.com/new-york-tim...

The New York Times and The Athletic robbed me of my voice and my hope, and helped steal my life: A trans woman's nightmare | CarlyJDubois.com

This is the story of my three-year hell as a trans woman working for a NYT-owned company. I might be fired, but I can't stay silent anymore.

www.carlyjdubois.com

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Carly J Dubois 🦋 @carlyjdubois.com · 1h

It’s darling.

Carly J Dubois 🦋 @carlyjdubois.com · 1h

I’ve mostly been alone in my tiny studio apartment for 2,060 straight days.

I’m feeling every bit of being out in the world today.

Carly J Dubois 🦋 @carlyjdubois.com · 1h

The trauma scars on my psyche run deep.

Carly J Dubois 🦋 @carlyjdubois.com · 1h

They just left. My giddy aunt, I could never work in an office again.

Carly J Dubois 🦋 @carlyjdubois.com · 1h

I’m especially sensitive to this after hearing several men say recently that women are too chatty.

Carly J Dubois 🦋 @carlyjdubois.com · 1h

I wonder if they ever in their lives allow two consecutive seconds to pass in silence. This is nonstop. There’s never a pause to let either guy drink his coffee. It’s a little scary. What was I thinking leaving my apartment.

Carly J Dubois 🦋 @carlyjdubois.com · 2h

“Yep. Yep. Yep. Oh yeah. Oh yeah. Mmhmm. Yeah. Oh yeah.”

All in less than five seconds.

I need less coffee.

Carly J Dubois 🦋 @carlyjdubois.com · 2h

They are discussing how California has so many beautiful women. "Not like the Northwest" jumped out at me.

Carly J Dubois 🦋 @carlyjdubois.com · 2h

Brilliant!

Carly J Dubois 🦋 @carlyjdubois.com · 2h

I’d also forgotten the assault on my ears and anxiety that is the tax on coffee shop time.

And these dudes apparently don’t know about using inside voices.

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Carly J Dubois 🦋 @carlyjdubois.com · 2h

“Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Mmhmm. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.”

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Carly J Dubois 🦋 @carlyjdubois.com · 2h

Been a long, long time since I sat near two dudes talking. It’s … something.

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Carly J Dubois 🦋 @carlyjdubois.com · 4h

Here’s a fun throwback for this lady editor.

www.carlyjdubois.com/those-oldies...

'Those Oldies But Goodies' remind(s) me of this | CarlyJDubois.com

I went back and forth on how to style the headline without breaking your brain, but I think I broke mine. Click to find out what's up.

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Carly J Dubois 🦋 @carlyjdubois.com · 5h

I said "I promise this is true" because it probably sounds a little like that story everyone was telling in the early '80s about knowing a girl who supposedly asked, "Was Paul McCartney in any bands before Wings?"

Carly J Dubois 🦋 @carlyjdubois.com · 5h

The company offered me a separation package that’s insulting. We are to talk tomorrow. It won’t be a long call.

Carly J Dubois 🦋 @carlyjdubois.com · 12h

I promise this is true.

Sometime after "Mask," "Silkwood" and "The Witches of Eastwick" had come and gone, and between “Suspect" and "Moonstruck," I overheard two teen girls talking as they looked at albums in a Musicland.

“Cher SINGS?" one of them yelled to the other.

paul khruangbin (Dan Lehner) @danlehner.bsky.social · 17h

I think everybody has a “Wallace Shawn from Young Sheldon” — my first one would probably be “Vincent Price, the guy who did the voice of Ratigan in The Great Mouse Detective”

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Evan Urquhart @evanurquhart.bsky.social · 1d

The more I think about it the more outrageous it seems that Paul uses evidence that the wider LGBTQ community completely rejects people with transphobic views as evidence of division.

Alejandra Caraballo @esqueer.net · 1d

Every single time, it's a collection of people so bigoted that everyone in their life no longer wanted to be associated with them. Their partners left them, their friends stopped talking to them, their bigoted harassment gets them booted from social media. These are not good people.

Alt text: Series of screenshots from a Wall Street Journal article discussing internal tensions within the LGBTQ+ community over gender identity and activism. The first section describes a man named Arango rejecting gender identity after reading queer theory, losing his boyfriend and friends as a result, and feeling alienated from the LGBTQ+ community. The next section quotes Ann Menasche, a 72-year-old civil rights lawyer, criticizing gender ideology for erasing the concept of sexual orientation; it notes she was fired from her job in 2022 after objecting to removing the word “women” from a statement and later filed a lawsuit. The following section, titled “Out of the closet,” introduces Nevlene Nnaji, a 35-year-old artist who blogs under the name N3VLYNNN, describing her rejection of gender ideology, loss of friendships, and frustration with comparisons between transgender and racial oppression. The final section says that in 2023, Nnaji lost her Instagram account after expressing support for black lesbian detransitioners; Meta declined to comment but noted its hate-speech policy has since changed and restrictions were lifted on some topics in January.

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Carly J Dubois 🦋 @carlyjdubois.com · 1d

Same! And I still buy it sometimes!

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Lynda Carter @lyndacarter.bsky.social · 1d

I see this little argument about Wonder Woman being brunette…
Reminder! Wonder Woman is within all of us, and sometimes, she has blonde hair like Sabrina Carpenter! 💫

Sabrina Carpenter with blonde hair dressed as Lynda Carter’s Wonder Woman

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Carly J Dubois 🦋 @carlyjdubois.com · 2d

Thoughts.

www.carlyjdubois.com/45th-anniver...

A brief SNAP chat on the 45th anniversary of my father's death, and a longer throwback bonus | CarlyJDubois.com

The election that made Ronald Reagan president was the day after my dad's funeral. The country was on its way to where we are now.

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Carly J Dubois 🦋 @carlyjdubois.com · 6d

a woman in a hat is sitting in a chair and waving her hand .

Alt: a woman in a hat is sitting in a chair and waving her hand. Pretty sure she’s Liza Minnelli in a jazzy Bob Fosse production.

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Carly J Dubois 🦋 @carlyjdubois.com · 6d

It’s a thing of beauty as long as your foot doesn’t come off the base and you get tagged out.

Carly J Dubois 🦋 @carlyjdubois.com · 6d

15th inning at present

Carly J Dubois 🦋 @carlyjdubois.com · 6d

It brings me joy to discuss baseball with you.

Carly J Dubois 🦋 @carlyjdubois.com · 8d

Opinions on such things are deeply personal. I usually think one-size-fits-all declarations can do as much harm as the thing a person is trying to prevent.

I'll refrain from commenting about a trans woman I don't know.

I will say that being deadnamed and misgendered never goes away, and it hurts.

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