bdeb37
@bdeb37.bsky.social
Writer / Poet ✍🏾
New York City, NY
📕Memories Dreams & Serenades -Out Now on Amazon
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New York City, NY
📕Memories Dreams & Serenades -Out Now on Amazon
https://a.co/d/6ja6Daf
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Basically me on this work call.
December 4, 2025 at 3:02 PM
Basically me on this work call.
And all of these needs require different frequencies/time periods depending on specific situations/experiences. Ex: if I express a major discomfort all while doing everything I can to self-soothe, I will need more reassurance than usual. And not a fake pat on the shoulder. There’s no care in that.
I’m in a neutral space when it comes to poly now. I advocate for all relationship types. But for me, some of the dynamics I’ve loosely been in lacked consistent care, consideration, & reassurance. Those are the things I need without being made to feel “needy” or being manipulated.
December 4, 2025 at 1:49 PM
And all of these needs require different frequencies/time periods depending on specific situations/experiences. Ex: if I express a major discomfort all while doing everything I can to self-soothe, I will need more reassurance than usual. And not a fake pat on the shoulder. There’s no care in that.
I’m in a neutral space when it comes to poly now. I advocate for all relationship types. But for me, some of the dynamics I’ve loosely been in lacked consistent care, consideration, & reassurance. Those are the things I need without being made to feel “needy” or being manipulated.
December 4, 2025 at 1:41 PM
I’m in a neutral space when it comes to poly now. I advocate for all relationship types. But for me, some of the dynamics I’ve loosely been in lacked consistent care, consideration, & reassurance. Those are the things I need without being made to feel “needy” or being manipulated.
I wanna spit on some hole 😔
December 4, 2025 at 5:36 AM
I wanna spit on some hole 😔
A friend is trying to convince me to let go let flow.
December 4, 2025 at 4:18 AM
A friend is trying to convince me to let go let flow.
Lady at the Jamaican spot had the meanest attitude. I’m about to be in a food coma.
December 4, 2025 at 3:28 AM
Lady at the Jamaican spot had the meanest attitude. I’m about to be in a food coma.
When people get angry when you’re trying to educate them instead of just leaning into receiving because they don’t know…
Please delete.
Please delete.
November 29, 2025 at 8:41 PM
When people get angry when you’re trying to educate them instead of just leaning into receiving because they don’t know…
Please delete.
Please delete.
“You shouldn’t feel that way”
But I’m telling you I do.
But I’m telling you I do.
November 29, 2025 at 4:28 AM
“You shouldn’t feel that way”
But I’m telling you I do.
But I’m telling you I do.
I feel like when you’re locked in and in love with someone, the opinions of other will matter less because the conversation in the end will just be “what do we think we should do that’s best for us?”
I’m not listening to relationship advice from single people and you shouldn’t either.
November 29, 2025 at 4:07 AM
I feel like when you’re locked in and in love with someone, the opinions of other will matter less because the conversation in the end will just be “what do we think we should do that’s best for us?”
I’ll let it play while backshots or whateva
November 29, 2025 at 4:03 AM
I’ll let it play while backshots or whateva
Cracked my neck (it surprised me how loud it was) in front of this lady and she told me to get a mouth guard to wear while sleeping, get into Pilates and to neck stretch more often.
November 29, 2025 at 4:02 AM
Cracked my neck (it surprised me how loud it was) in front of this lady and she told me to get a mouth guard to wear while sleeping, get into Pilates and to neck stretch more often.
Sometimes you do have to give 1/2 of yourself to survive in a world that only knows how to take.
I have to save some of myself for myself without feeling guilty.
I have to save some of myself for myself without feeling guilty.
November 29, 2025 at 2:38 AM
Sometimes you do have to give 1/2 of yourself to survive in a world that only knows how to take.
I have to save some of myself for myself without feeling guilty.
I have to save some of myself for myself without feeling guilty.
I’m allowed to feel & express to get closer to my desires. I have to stay open, even if it hurts sometimes.
November 29, 2025 at 2:35 AM
I’m allowed to feel & express to get closer to my desires. I have to stay open, even if it hurts sometimes.
I’m trying to get rid of the thinking that I’m always going to be 2nd. It’s hard when it seems like you’re only getting experiences that confirm it. Reminding myself that I don’t have to harden myself to move through pain.
November 29, 2025 at 2:35 AM
I’m trying to get rid of the thinking that I’m always going to be 2nd. It’s hard when it seems like you’re only getting experiences that confirm it. Reminding myself that I don’t have to harden myself to move through pain.
“Interesting. because by that same logic…”
-me winning an argument
-me winning an argument
November 29, 2025 at 2:30 AM
“Interesting. because by that same logic…”
-me winning an argument
-me winning an argument
self-worth won
lowkey wanna be gobblin’ (specific)
November 28, 2025 at 5:31 AM
self-worth won
Stack and Mary / Martin and Gina
November 28, 2025 at 4:54 AM
Stack and Mary / Martin and Gina
Now why you gonna pass it to me all wet like that??
November 28, 2025 at 4:11 AM
Now why you gonna pass it to me all wet like that??
lowkey wanna be gobblin’ (specific)
November 27, 2025 at 11:18 PM
lowkey wanna be gobblin’ (specific)
Saw a cute couple reel and almost threw my phone bc it was just so damn adorable. 😭
November 27, 2025 at 5:20 PM
Saw a cute couple reel and almost threw my phone bc it was just so damn adorable. 😭
If you ask me what time it is and I say Bernadine, just know it’s 7:32.
November 27, 2025 at 12:21 AM
If you ask me what time it is and I say Bernadine, just know it’s 7:32.
Gotta remember. The internet is forever.
November 26, 2025 at 11:46 PM
Gotta remember. The internet is forever.