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Acacia Thay DëQueer - Fae/They/Xe/He/She

@acaciadequeer.bsky.social

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🎬Artist, writer, researcher, filmmaker, intimacy professional, choreographer, & educator 🧚🏻‍♂️Genderfluid disabled polyamorous 🎓Educated @ Vassar College & Principal Intimacy Professionals 🤷🏻Chronically too much & not enough 📍WEBSITE https://acacia.gay

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Acacia Thay DëQueer - Fae/They/Xe/He/She @acaciadequeer.bsky.social · Jul 20

Making progress on the van!

#VanBuild #Woodworking #MakerWorks #VanLife

Acacia stands inside a green wooden box that comes up to their chest. They smile cheerfully at the camera. They are I side a wood shop, and wear woodworking goggles.

Acacia Thay DëQueer - Fae/They/Xe/He/She @acaciadequeer.bsky.social · Jul 14

Apparently I’m worried about something going wrong when I hang out with friends.

#TherapyThoughts

Acacia Thay DëQueer - Fae/They/Xe/He/She @acaciadequeer.bsky.social · Jul 8

I’m to the age where being called “young” is a complement. But still young enough that I call people older than me “adults.”

Acacia Thay DëQueer - Fae/They/Xe/He/She @acaciadequeer.bsky.social · Jun 23

I’m not a poodle. I’m the ocean. You can’t train or tame me. You can only direct and redirect. And when my emotions spill out over whatever box you’ve put me in, you’d better be prepared.

Acacia Thay DëQueer - Fae/They/Xe/He/She @acaciadequeer.bsky.social · Jun 22

I love teaching AP World History. Kids are usually learning seriously about the world and writing for the first time. I love showing them how to study history, gather evidence, and support their argument. 🥰🥰🥰

Book a lesson with me now:
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#APWorldHistory

Become a Student | Wyzant Tutoring

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Acacia Thay DëQueer - Fae/They/Xe/He/She @acaciadequeer.bsky.social · Jun 20

I’m like a human 4th wall break.

#Autism #Neurodivergent

Acacia Thay DëQueer - Fae/They/Xe/He/She @acaciadequeer.bsky.social · Jun 16

I help actors feel safe and supported in intimate scenes.
It’s called intimacy coordination—and it’s some of the most meaningful work I do.

I wrote about it here, through the lens of a compelling indie film I loved working on:
www.principalintimacy.com/blog/perfect...

#IntimacyCoordinator

Principal Intimacy Professionals

Writer/Performer Amanda Jane Stern and Intimacy Coordinator Acacia DëQueer reflect on their collaboration on “Perfectly Good Moment”.

www.principalintimacy.com

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Acacia Thay DëQueer - Fae/They/Xe/He/She @acaciadequeer.bsky.social · Jun 13

Decisions decisions. Which brand do you like better? Behr from Home Depot, Valspar from Lowe’s, or Dutch Boy from Menards?

#PickingPaint #HomeImprovement #Painting #Lowe’s #HomeDepot #Menards

6 paint swatches are arranged on a table. They are all light blue or green.

Acacia Thay DëQueer - Fae/They/Xe/He/She @acaciadequeer.bsky.social · Jun 9

Tudor explains my frustration, saying genre “can only be isolated on the basis of ‘principal characteristics’, which can only be discovered from the films themselves after they have been isolated” (Tudor).

#GenreStudies #FilmStudies #TVHistory

a man in a suit and tie is making a funny face with his eyes closed and his hands folded .

ALT: a man in a suit and tie is making a funny face with his eyes closed and his hands folded .

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Acacia Thay DëQueer - Fae/They/Xe/He/She @acaciadequeer.bsky.social · Jun 4

My egg cracked.

#Transgender

“How I thought my transformation from puberty would go:” from a caterpillar to a chrysalis to a butterfly. “How I’ve transformed since:” Phoenix to egg to dragon.

Acacia Thay DëQueer - Fae/They/Xe/He/She @acaciadequeer.bsky.social · Jun 3

At 16, a boy told me he wouldn’t have sex with me even if it was the apocalypse - like I was a bad apple with a bitter taste. Now, at the age of 28, I know how to give people a taste they can’t get enough of. Some things take time. Personally, I plan on hitting my peak at the ripe old age of 60.

Acacia Thay DëQueer - Fae/They/Xe/He/She @acaciadequeer.bsky.social · May 29

It might surprise people, but I don’t miss living in an apartment at all. The only thing I miss is have a kitchen - which should be remedied when the van build is finished! I can’t wait to cook and bake in my van. 🥰

#VanLife #VanBuild #TinyHome #Nomad #Cooking

Acacia Thay DëQueer - Fae/They/Xe/He/She @acaciadequeer.bsky.social · May 27

That’s a documentary in the making lol.

Acacia Thay DëQueer - Fae/They/Xe/He/She @acaciadequeer.bsky.social · May 27

Today I told my therapist I love her at the end of my session. She said it gave her “warm fuzzy feelings.” So obviously I am capable of developing healthy attachments with the people in my life.

#Therapy #AttachmentStyle #HealthyAttachment #TherapyJoke

Acacia Thay DëQueer - Fae/They/Xe/He/She @acaciadequeer.bsky.social · May 26

Today I found my first shirt/binder combo that makes my chest look flat without obviously outing me. I’m so happy. I was beginning to worry that somehow my body was broken and I would never achieve any sort of masculine look in a cis way. YAY!!!!😊

#Transgender #Nonbinary #Genderfluid #Binder #AFAB

Acacia Thay DëQueer - Fae/They/Xe/He/She @acaciadequeer.bsky.social · May 22

Instead of saying I want to “settle” someplace long term, I’m going to start saying “become part of the local ecosystem.” It decolonizes the idea of living someplace. It emphasizes my interest in community values. And it paints an accurate picture of the fae I want to be, living in nature.

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Planned Parenthood Advocates of Michigan @mippadvocates.bsky.social · May 20

Friendly reminder to use inclusive language when talking about abortion, because trans, nonbinary, and gender-diverse people get abortions too. ☺️ #AbortionIsHealthCare #AbortionIsGenderAffirming

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Acacia Thay DëQueer - Fae/They/Xe/He/She @acaciadequeer.bsky.social · May 18

Exciting news: I’ve been selected as a Judge Fellow for the Arlington International Film Festival!!!! 😄😍🥰

#FilmFestival #FilmCritic #FestivalJudge

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Principal Intimacy Pros @principal-intimacy.bsky.social · May 17

On this International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia, and Biphobia, we not only stand with LGBTQIA+ communities — we work to amplify them. That means fighting for sets that mitigate risk, authentic representation, and space for queer artists to tell their own stories.

#IntimacyCoordinator

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Acacia Thay DëQueer - Fae/They/Xe/He/She @acaciadequeer.bsky.social · May 17

Diarrhea💩 ——> Menstrual Pad🩸 ——> Gender Dysphoria🧔🏻‍♀️ ——> Anxiety Attack😖

#💩 #GenderDysphoria #Nonbinary #Transgender

Acacia Thay DëQueer - Fae/They/Xe/He/She @acaciadequeer.bsky.social · May 15

Cuties enjoying cuddle time on the bed.

#VanLife #VanConversion #NovaScotiaDuckToller

Ana (a person) and Zuko (a dog) sit on a mattress on the floor of a van.

Acacia Thay DëQueer - Fae/They/Xe/He/She @acaciadequeer.bsky.social · May 15

Sometimes things are dark, but that doesn’t mean they can’t be beautiful.

#Sunset #Purple #Pink

Acacia Thay DëQueer - Fae/They/Xe/He/She @acaciadequeer.bsky.social · May 13

Our air mattress popped in the middle of the night. We took it as an opportunity to clean out and rearrange the van for our next phase. Feeling very happy with how we spun the situation into a good one. 😊

#VanLife #PositiveSpin

Acacia Thay DëQueer - Fae/They/Xe/He/She @acaciadequeer.bsky.social · May 12

Ann Arbor is the kind of place, where, if you loose your wallet, you are likely to get it back completely in tact - and that makes me happy.

#AnnArbor #Michigan #Safety #Kindness #Honesty