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The Autistic Coach | Matthew (he/they) @theautisticcoach.bsky.social · 5d

You can’t recover from autistic burnout by returning to the life that caused it.

Every late-identified autistic person has to build something new.

Something honest.

Something sustainable.

It’s not failure.

It’s freedom.

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The Autistic Coach | Matthew (he/they) @theautisticcoach.bsky.social · 13d

Unmasking isn’t rebellion (neccesarily).

It’s not about saying no to everything you used to say yes to.

It’s about asking - does this belong to me?

Because some of what you called masking was actually compassion.

Some of what you called people-pleasing was just love with nowhere safe to land.

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Nicole Filippone, Autistic Advocate & Author @sensorystories.bsky.social · 14d

Fellow autistics... please hear what I'm about to say, because it's important.

If we want to create real, meaningful, and lasting change as a community... we need to start with radical inclusivity.

That means including every autistic person. Every. single. one.

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The Autistic Coach | Matthew (he/they) @theautisticcoach.bsky.social · 14d

You don’t need to be calm to be valid.

You don’t need to be polite to be safe.

You don’t need to be productive to be worthy.

Your life is valuable just the way you are.

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Anschi @anschiro.bsky.social · 14d

Special beauty
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there,I do not sleep..
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting hush
of quiet birds in circle flights.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there. I did not die. M.E.Frye

Big female Angel made of stone with heavy wings looking to the side holding a feather, sitting on a big sarcophagus. The statue is covering the whole grave . It is covered by autumn leaves, big tree in autumn colors in the background. If you like, read the whole poem, it is really beautiful.

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s. e. smith @sesmith.lol · 14d

Using disabled people as beards for your personal agenda is not actually working in solidarity with us and it's certainly not disability politics, thank you for coming to my TED talk.

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The Autistic Coach | Matthew (he/they) @theautisticcoach.bsky.social · 14d

You think you’re bad at relationships.

But maybe you’re just tired of performing one.

You learned to show care in ways others didn’t understand.

Through honesty.

Through warning before a sound.

Through silence that meant safety.

That’s not failure.

That’s autistic love.

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The White House @whitehouse-47.bsky.social · 17d

What's up, Bluesky? We thought you might've missed some of our greatest hits, so we put this together for you.

Can't wait to spend more quality time together! ❤️🇺🇸

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Universal-Sci @universal-sci.bsky.social · 24d

Spectacular! A trail of celestial objects spans this view of the Virgo Cluster.

Dominating the scene is NGC 4261, a massive elliptical galaxy in the upper half of the image. In the lower left sits the lenticular galaxy NGC 4281.

(Credit: RubinObs/NOIRLab/SLAC/NSF/DOE/AURA)

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The Autistic Coach | Matthew (he/they) @theautisticcoach.bsky.social · 26d

People talk about autistic burnout like it’s about bad boundaries or not managing energy.

It isn’t.

Not just, anyway.

It’s what happens when you’ve been adapting to a world that never adapts to you.

When every space demands you translate yourself just to be tolerated.

🧵🧶🪡

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The Autistic Coach | Matthew (he/they) @theautisticcoach.bsky.social · Oct 5

Being in spaces with other autistic people is more than support.

It’s liberation.

Our nervous systems recognise each other.

Regulation replaces vigilance.

Safety replaces performance.

For many, it’s the first time they’ve ever been mirrored with compassion instead of correction.

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James @nomad8442.bsky.social · Oct 3

Indeed. And they will not learn. All the abstract social frameworks they live within that do not exist anywhere but their own minds.

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s. e. smith @sesmith.lol · Oct 3

People like to claim that autistics are bad at communicating and like, my dude, the problem does not lie with us, it lies with the web of manipulation and lies and passive aggression and ulterior agendas that you weave around yourselves instead of just doing what we do, which is saying what we mean.

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The Autistic Coach | Matthew (he/they) @theautisticcoach.bsky.social · Oct 3

The hardest part of work isn’t the tasks.

It’s the endless small talk.

The unspoken rules.

The expectation to be “on” all the time.

Autistic people aren’t bad at working.

We’re tired of performing jobs inside jobs.

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James @nomad8442.bsky.social · Sep 29

Go read the actual study. Vaccination wipes out things then Tylenol makes worse. Put it as simply as I could for you. They are definitely factors not sole cause. See pre industrial data for more.

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Patrick Koppenburg 🐧 @koppenburg.ch · Sep 25

The largest toothed predator eating the largest invertebrate. Crunch munch. 🧪

Rebecca R Helm @rebeccarhelm.bsky.social · Sep 24

I get that the news cycle is packed right now, but I just heard from a colleague at the Smithsonian that this is fully a GIANT SQUID BEING EATEN BY A SPERM WHALE and it’s possibly the first ever confirmed video according to a friend at NOAA

10 YEAR OLD ME IS LOSING HER MIND (a thread 🧵)

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Karen K. Ho @karenho.bsky.social · Sep 25

I have just learned that autistic people who ask questions because of curiosity and seeking clarification are viewed as antagonistic and argumentative and that explains so many interactions that have ended poorly in my life

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The Autistic Coach | Matthew (he/they) @theautisticcoach.bsky.social · Sep 25

Many think unmasking means just being louder.

But the truth is that unmasking is about being sustainable.

Living in alignment with our needs.

Choosing truth over performance.

If that means louder for you, cool.

But if it doesn’t, that isn’t unmasking - it’s just masking with a new character.

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Rebecca R Helm @rebeccarhelm.bsky.social · Sep 24

I get that the news cycle is packed right now, but I just heard from a colleague at the Smithsonian that this is fully a GIANT SQUID BEING EATEN BY A SPERM WHALE and it’s possibly the first ever confirmed video according to a friend at NOAA

10 YEAR OLD ME IS LOSING HER MIND (a thread 🧵)

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Daniel Pomarède @pomarede.bsky.social · Sep 25

The GRAND project has observed its first cosmic rays 🔭🧪

Institut d'astrophysique de Paris @iap.fr · Sep 25

These atomic nuclei, which rain down from the sky with an energy a million times greater than that of particles accelerated in the LHC at CERN, were detected for the first time using radio antennas operating autonomously and systematically, deployed in the Gobi Desert in China.

The GRAND project has observed its first cosmic rays!

www.iap.fr

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The Autistic Coach | Matthew (he/they) @theautisticcoach.bsky.social · Sep 25

You know someone needs to be avoided when you put up a boundary and they say “I would prefer that you don’t”.

Needs come before desires

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Jay Price Cartoons @jaypricecartoons.bsky.social · Sep 21

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Being an autistic person, I just wanted to say this….

Being autistic doesn’t mean you are rude, stupid, annoying, disobedient, stubborn, lazy or selfish……

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The Autistic Coach | Matthew (he/they) @theautisticcoach.bsky.social · Sep 20

Special interests aren’t hobbies.

They’re regulators, relationships, and meaning.

Call them “obsessions” and you pathologise survival and regulation.

Protect them like a part of you.

Because they are.

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The Autistic Coach | Matthew (he/they) @theautisticcoach.bsky.social · Sep 21

Authentic autistic relationships don’t look like neuronormative ones.

We may need more space, or more intensity. Or less!

Less small talk, more depth.

But when we’re allowed to show up unmasked - our relationships aren’t less.

They’re real.

They’re sustaining.

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The Autistic Coach | Matthew (he/they) @theautisticcoach.bsky.social · Sep 19

Autistic Meltdowns. Shutdowns. Burnout.

Not failures. Not shame.

Signals from our bodyminds that needs have gone unmet for too long.

I’m hosting a seminar to unpack these truths - and what real support looks like.

Join me

www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-educa...

Online Seminar on Autistic Meltdowns, Shutdowns, and Burnout — The Autistic Coach

The Autistic Coach offers virtual 2.5-hour seminars for autistic adults in the UK, US & Europe. Led by an autistic coach, these online sessions provide teaching, tools, and discussion to help you explore autistic identity, masking, burnout, and needs. Access to Work approved, creating neuro-affi

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