Wondering Chris
@wonderingchris.bsky.social
Educator, writer, and lifelong learner. Exploring stories, philosophy, and personal growth to spark curiosity and connection. Sharing wisdom and wonder. Wonderers can join me over at www.wonderingchris.com
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The world feels too loud, unique voices lost in crowded patterns.
I can only nurture curiosity, reflect glimpses of beauty, and wonder aloud - humanity's home.
I hope you find something you didn’t know you were seeking. A developing life. Welcome.
www.wonderingchris.com
I can only nurture curiosity, reflect glimpses of beauty, and wonder aloud - humanity's home.
I hope you find something you didn’t know you were seeking. A developing life. Welcome.
www.wonderingchris.com
I’ll know I’ve made a difference when each moment is allowed to pass without devaluing the next.
Internally, that feels like gratitude for being allowed to witness the next moment before it fades.
Internally, that feels like gratitude for being allowed to witness the next moment before it fades.
January 17, 2026 at 9:12 PM
I’ll know I’ve made a difference when each moment is allowed to pass without devaluing the next.
Internally, that feels like gratitude for being allowed to witness the next moment before it fades.
Internally, that feels like gratitude for being allowed to witness the next moment before it fades.
The more perspectives I take in, the less interested I am in removing discomfort, and the more interested I am in choosing why I endure it.
Perspective doesn’t make life easier.
It makes it yours.
Perspective doesn’t make life easier.
It makes it yours.
January 16, 2026 at 9:46 PM
The more perspectives I take in, the less interested I am in removing discomfort, and the more interested I am in choosing why I endure it.
Perspective doesn’t make life easier.
It makes it yours.
Perspective doesn’t make life easier.
It makes it yours.
The more perspectives I take in, the less convincing other people’s definitions of “winning” become.
Not because I reject ambition, but because I’m learning to choose my own win conditions.
Not because I reject ambition, but because I’m learning to choose my own win conditions.
January 15, 2026 at 9:10 PM
The more perspectives I take in, the less convincing other people’s definitions of “winning” become.
Not because I reject ambition, but because I’m learning to choose my own win conditions.
Not because I reject ambition, but because I’m learning to choose my own win conditions.
Games taught me to play to my strengths and use the system, not let others dictate my moves.
Life taught me something similar: I care less about getting rich or maximising comfort, and more about having enough and the freedom to live on my own terms.
Life taught me something similar: I care less about getting rich or maximising comfort, and more about having enough and the freedom to live on my own terms.
January 14, 2026 at 9:43 PM
Games taught me to play to my strengths and use the system, not let others dictate my moves.
Life taught me something similar: I care less about getting rich or maximising comfort, and more about having enough and the freedom to live on my own terms.
Life taught me something similar: I care less about getting rich or maximising comfort, and more about having enough and the freedom to live on my own terms.
The deepest joys come from pursuing things that feel worthy.
Money is just a shared fiction we use to signal importance, not a substitute for meaning.
I actually wrote about this a while ago, if you're interestested:
www.wonderingchris.com/vault/what-y...
Money is just a shared fiction we use to signal importance, not a substitute for meaning.
I actually wrote about this a while ago, if you're interestested:
www.wonderingchris.com/vault/what-y...
🧠 What You Want Isn’t What You Need: How to Uncover Real Fulfilment | Wondering Chris
Learn how to stop mistaking wants for needs, avoid false proxies, and choose what truly nourishes you.
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January 13, 2026 at 9:17 PM
The deepest joys come from pursuing things that feel worthy.
Money is just a shared fiction we use to signal importance, not a substitute for meaning.
I actually wrote about this a while ago, if you're interestested:
www.wonderingchris.com/vault/what-y...
Money is just a shared fiction we use to signal importance, not a substitute for meaning.
I actually wrote about this a while ago, if you're interestested:
www.wonderingchris.com/vault/what-y...
Making money from a good cause doesn’t automatically make someone good.
That truth hurt to learn.
But I won’t let it harden me, or stop me, meeting harm, ignorance, and self-interest with trust, vulnerability, and skilled communication, in service of those who truly need it.
That truth hurt to learn.
But I won’t let it harden me, or stop me, meeting harm, ignorance, and self-interest with trust, vulnerability, and skilled communication, in service of those who truly need it.
January 12, 2026 at 9:45 PM
Making money from a good cause doesn’t automatically make someone good.
That truth hurt to learn.
But I won’t let it harden me, or stop me, meeting harm, ignorance, and self-interest with trust, vulnerability, and skilled communication, in service of those who truly need it.
That truth hurt to learn.
But I won’t let it harden me, or stop me, meeting harm, ignorance, and self-interest with trust, vulnerability, and skilled communication, in service of those who truly need it.
Pain can clarify who you are and, who you’re not.
It taught me I’m persistent, care deeply about people and what we make together. And, that I lead by standing in front of the storm when it matters.
Knowing what your discomfort teaches you IS growth.
What does yours teach you?
It taught me I’m persistent, care deeply about people and what we make together. And, that I lead by standing in front of the storm when it matters.
Knowing what your discomfort teaches you IS growth.
What does yours teach you?
January 11, 2026 at 9:19 PM
Pain can clarify who you are and, who you’re not.
It taught me I’m persistent, care deeply about people and what we make together. And, that I lead by standing in front of the storm when it matters.
Knowing what your discomfort teaches you IS growth.
What does yours teach you?
It taught me I’m persistent, care deeply about people and what we make together. And, that I lead by standing in front of the storm when it matters.
Knowing what your discomfort teaches you IS growth.
What does yours teach you?
What’s a small insight that quietly reshaped how you approach your days? How did it accumulate over time?
Learning doesn’t have to be ambitious to be meaningful:
www.wonderingchris.com/vault/learn-...
Learning doesn’t have to be ambitious to be meaningful:
www.wonderingchris.com/vault/learn-...
🧠 Learn Something Daily - A Path to Lifelong Growth | Wondering Chris
Small lessons lead to big transformations. Cultivate curiosity and expand your world every day.
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January 9, 2026 at 10:58 PM
What’s a small insight that quietly reshaped how you approach your days? How did it accumulate over time?
Learning doesn’t have to be ambitious to be meaningful:
www.wonderingchris.com/vault/learn-...
Learning doesn’t have to be ambitious to be meaningful:
www.wonderingchris.com/vault/learn-...
Growth isn’t clarity first, it’s curiosity first.
Enjoy being wrong. Stay open to being overwhelmed.
Comprehending how people, systems, and the world work is the reward.
Enjoy being wrong. Stay open to being overwhelmed.
Comprehending how people, systems, and the world work is the reward.
January 8, 2026 at 10:35 PM
Growth isn’t clarity first, it’s curiosity first.
Enjoy being wrong. Stay open to being overwhelmed.
Comprehending how people, systems, and the world work is the reward.
Enjoy being wrong. Stay open to being overwhelmed.
Comprehending how people, systems, and the world work is the reward.
For most of my life, I was the catalyst for other people’s success: an enhancer.
I used to think that meant I had nothing of my own.
Eventually, I realised THAT was the offering:
Helping others become more of what makes them great, without comparison
Becoming more — together.
I used to think that meant I had nothing of my own.
Eventually, I realised THAT was the offering:
Helping others become more of what makes them great, without comparison
Becoming more — together.
January 7, 2026 at 9:30 PM
For most of my life, I was the catalyst for other people’s success: an enhancer.
I used to think that meant I had nothing of my own.
Eventually, I realised THAT was the offering:
Helping others become more of what makes them great, without comparison
Becoming more — together.
I used to think that meant I had nothing of my own.
Eventually, I realised THAT was the offering:
Helping others become more of what makes them great, without comparison
Becoming more — together.
Remember that if you’re not the one making the thing you sell, market, or advise on, respect that you don’t own it.
Payment isn’t authorship. Regurgitation isn’t a contribution. Amplification without attribution isn’t ethical or respectful.
True ownership belongs to creators.
Payment isn’t authorship. Regurgitation isn’t a contribution. Amplification without attribution isn’t ethical or respectful.
True ownership belongs to creators.
January 6, 2026 at 10:43 PM
Remember that if you’re not the one making the thing you sell, market, or advise on, respect that you don’t own it.
Payment isn’t authorship. Regurgitation isn’t a contribution. Amplification without attribution isn’t ethical or respectful.
True ownership belongs to creators.
Payment isn’t authorship. Regurgitation isn’t a contribution. Amplification without attribution isn’t ethical or respectful.
True ownership belongs to creators.
I spent years tangled in expectations - unsure which were mine and which were inherited.
The shift was asking: What am I telling myself I should do?
Then asking:
Is it true? And how can I make it workable from here?
I shared the process here:
www.wonderingchris.com/vault/proces...
The shift was asking: What am I telling myself I should do?
Then asking:
Is it true? And how can I make it workable from here?
I shared the process here:
www.wonderingchris.com/vault/proces...
🧠 The Five Tyrants of Self-Suppression - Break Free | Wondering Chris
Identify the silent forces holding you back and reclaim your voice.
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January 5, 2026 at 10:39 PM
I spent years tangled in expectations - unsure which were mine and which were inherited.
The shift was asking: What am I telling myself I should do?
Then asking:
Is it true? And how can I make it workable from here?
I shared the process here:
www.wonderingchris.com/vault/proces...
The shift was asking: What am I telling myself I should do?
Then asking:
Is it true? And how can I make it workable from here?
I shared the process here:
www.wonderingchris.com/vault/proces...
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Are You a Procrastinator? That's Not a Bad Thing | Psychology Today www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/on-e...
Are You a Procrastinator? That's Not a Bad Thing
Contrary to popular opinion, procrastination is a valid strategy that can help us access our motivation and our creativity.
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December 30, 2025 at 6:14 PM
Are You a Procrastinator? That's Not a Bad Thing | Psychology Today www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/on-e...
When did being lost teach you something orientation couldn't?
What stayed with you?
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For me, toxic situations and relationships taught my values by highlighting what I didn't gel.
Excited: curiosity, exploration, respect, love, and understanding.
What stayed with you?
www.wonderingchris.com/vault/lost
For me, toxic situations and relationships taught my values by highlighting what I didn't gel.
Excited: curiosity, exploration, respect, love, and understanding.
📖 Lost: The Beauty of Not Knowing the Way | Wondering Chris
Sometimes, being lost is the first step to finding something truly meaningful.
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January 4, 2026 at 10:50 PM
When did being lost teach you something orientation couldn't?
What stayed with you?
www.wonderingchris.com/vault/lost
For me, toxic situations and relationships taught my values by highlighting what I didn't gel.
Excited: curiosity, exploration, respect, love, and understanding.
What stayed with you?
www.wonderingchris.com/vault/lost
For me, toxic situations and relationships taught my values by highlighting what I didn't gel.
Excited: curiosity, exploration, respect, love, and understanding.
Taking things for granted, or taking advantage, is softened when we recognise the effort others carried so we didn’t have to.
Appreciating that with a full heart helps people like you, gravitate to you, and desire to walk alongside you too see what happens.
Appreciating that with a full heart helps people like you, gravitate to you, and desire to walk alongside you too see what happens.
January 4, 2026 at 9:46 PM
Taking things for granted, or taking advantage, is softened when we recognise the effort others carried so we didn’t have to.
Appreciating that with a full heart helps people like you, gravitate to you, and desire to walk alongside you too see what happens.
Appreciating that with a full heart helps people like you, gravitate to you, and desire to walk alongside you too see what happens.
Kevin Kelly inspires me:
"There is no formula for success, but two for failure: not trying and not persisting."
"... it's not a matter of success/failure, but of success/learning to succeed."
"Every mistake is an opportunity to improvise"
His article:
kk.org/thetechnium/...
"There is no formula for success, but two for failure: not trying and not persisting."
"... it's not a matter of success/failure, but of success/learning to succeed."
"Every mistake is an opportunity to improvise"
His article:
kk.org/thetechnium/...
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Six years ago I celebrated my 68th birthday by gifting my children 68 bits of advice I wished I had gotten when I was their age. Every birthday after that I added more bits of advice for them until I ...
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January 4, 2026 at 10:56 AM
Kevin Kelly inspires me:
"There is no formula for success, but two for failure: not trying and not persisting."
"... it's not a matter of success/failure, but of success/learning to succeed."
"Every mistake is an opportunity to improvise"
His article:
kk.org/thetechnium/...
"There is no formula for success, but two for failure: not trying and not persisting."
"... it's not a matter of success/failure, but of success/learning to succeed."
"Every mistake is an opportunity to improvise"
His article:
kk.org/thetechnium/...
I’m not interested in yes-manning, no-manning, or straw-manning ideas.
I care more about understanding how things work and how they interact with people and the world.
That mindset makes life far more interesting.
I wrote about it, if you’re curious:
www.wonderingchris.com/vault/master...
I care more about understanding how things work and how they interact with people and the world.
That mindset makes life far more interesting.
I wrote about it, if you’re curious:
www.wonderingchris.com/vault/master...
🧠 Making Life Interesting: Master the Mindset | Wondering Chris
Life is what you make it. Learn how to cultivate curiosity, adventure, and endless fascination.
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January 3, 2026 at 10:24 PM
I’m not interested in yes-manning, no-manning, or straw-manning ideas.
I care more about understanding how things work and how they interact with people and the world.
That mindset makes life far more interesting.
I wrote about it, if you’re curious:
www.wonderingchris.com/vault/master...
I care more about understanding how things work and how they interact with people and the world.
That mindset makes life far more interesting.
I wrote about it, if you’re curious:
www.wonderingchris.com/vault/master...
Things only feel simple or easy when we don’t look at them through the lens of other people’s pain.
The pain of unmet needs. Of discovery. Of creation, experimentation, and communication.
Complexity often isn’t excess — it’s empathy
The pain of unmet needs. Of discovery. Of creation, experimentation, and communication.
Complexity often isn’t excess — it’s empathy
January 2, 2026 at 10:30 PM
Things only feel simple or easy when we don’t look at them through the lens of other people’s pain.
The pain of unmet needs. Of discovery. Of creation, experimentation, and communication.
Complexity often isn’t excess — it’s empathy
The pain of unmet needs. Of discovery. Of creation, experimentation, and communication.
Complexity often isn’t excess — it’s empathy
Don't tell other people everything you dont like with their plan. This achieves nothing. Your response nulls out their effort and does not add anything.
Instead, tell them all the things you like about their plan, then give suggestions of things to add or workshop.
Instead, tell them all the things you like about their plan, then give suggestions of things to add or workshop.
January 1, 2026 at 9:17 PM
Don't tell other people everything you dont like with their plan. This achieves nothing. Your response nulls out their effort and does not add anything.
Instead, tell them all the things you like about their plan, then give suggestions of things to add or workshop.
Instead, tell them all the things you like about their plan, then give suggestions of things to add or workshop.
Undefined goal posts create silent exhaustion that creeps up on you.
Where does the lack of a clear “done” keep something dragging on in your life? How did things shift once you named the shape of the finish line?
Where does the lack of a clear “done” keep something dragging on in your life? How did things shift once you named the shape of the finish line?
December 31, 2025 at 5:21 AM
Undefined goal posts create silent exhaustion that creeps up on you.
Where does the lack of a clear “done” keep something dragging on in your life? How did things shift once you named the shape of the finish line?
Where does the lack of a clear “done” keep something dragging on in your life? How did things shift once you named the shape of the finish line?
Self-Sacrifice is not winning at any self-cost. It's giving over to the fact that we can't all do it alone.
Offering a part of yourself to the world without enforcing the promise of reciprocity. Giving to a point of discomfort and not to a point of pain.
Offering a part of yourself to the world without enforcing the promise of reciprocity. Giving to a point of discomfort and not to a point of pain.
December 30, 2025 at 10:31 PM
Self-Sacrifice is not winning at any self-cost. It's giving over to the fact that we can't all do it alone.
Offering a part of yourself to the world without enforcing the promise of reciprocity. Giving to a point of discomfort and not to a point of pain.
Offering a part of yourself to the world without enforcing the promise of reciprocity. Giving to a point of discomfort and not to a point of pain.
When someone asks you to choose, saying "it depends" is unhelpful.
Explicitly stating what it depends on, rather than asking a serious of open-ended questions, is the only way to move towards a decision.
Have the courage to lock in answers so that action becomes more possible.
Explicitly stating what it depends on, rather than asking a serious of open-ended questions, is the only way to move towards a decision.
Have the courage to lock in answers so that action becomes more possible.
December 29, 2025 at 10:31 PM
When someone asks you to choose, saying "it depends" is unhelpful.
Explicitly stating what it depends on, rather than asking a serious of open-ended questions, is the only way to move towards a decision.
Have the courage to lock in answers so that action becomes more possible.
Explicitly stating what it depends on, rather than asking a serious of open-ended questions, is the only way to move towards a decision.
Have the courage to lock in answers so that action becomes more possible.
Complaining is often a signal that we feel powerless. Angry outbursts are an extension of the mind’s hope for spontaneous change.
Satisfying progress starts by naming what feels unsolvable, explicitly, then kindly and curiously asking questions that move toward resolution.
Satisfying progress starts by naming what feels unsolvable, explicitly, then kindly and curiously asking questions that move toward resolution.
December 28, 2025 at 11:09 PM
Complaining is often a signal that we feel powerless. Angry outbursts are an extension of the mind’s hope for spontaneous change.
Satisfying progress starts by naming what feels unsolvable, explicitly, then kindly and curiously asking questions that move toward resolution.
Satisfying progress starts by naming what feels unsolvable, explicitly, then kindly and curiously asking questions that move toward resolution.
The key to self education is to assume you're always wrong, care that you don't know, and seek to rectify. Validating your feelings as you go, being inspired, being humbled, and being reflective so that you can be stronger tomorrow.
December 28, 2025 at 12:52 AM
The key to self education is to assume you're always wrong, care that you don't know, and seek to rectify. Validating your feelings as you go, being inspired, being humbled, and being reflective so that you can be stronger tomorrow.
Seek masters of their craft who both inspire and humble you. There is always something to learn, regardless of domain. That is how you grow.
December 25, 2025 at 11:16 PM
Seek masters of their craft who both inspire and humble you. There is always something to learn, regardless of domain. That is how you grow.