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Do not assume, because someone is a "friend" or family member, that their influence on you automatically supports your recovery. Survivors are often tricked into continuing to allow toxic influences in our life because they're supposedly or nominally "on our side."
January 29, 2026 at 5:43 AM
Do not assume, because someone is a "friend" or family member, that their influence on you automatically supports your recovery. Survivors are often tricked into continuing to allow toxic influences in our life because they're supposedly or nominally "on our side."
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90% of trauma recovery is about rediscovering, rebuilding, & staying true to our authenticity.
You deserve the safety & support to be who you really are today, without apologies or excuses.
You deserve the safety & support to be who you really are today, without apologies or excuses.
January 30, 2026 at 2:17 AM
90% of trauma recovery is about rediscovering, rebuilding, & staying true to our authenticity.
You deserve the safety & support to be who you really are today, without apologies or excuses.
You deserve the safety & support to be who you really are today, without apologies or excuses.
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Self-validation & self-compassion have to be meaningfully baked into every realistic trauma recovery tool we develop.
People who think validation & compassion are these warm & fuzzy "optional" tools do not understand the nuts & bolts of sustainable recovery.
People who think validation & compassion are these warm & fuzzy "optional" tools do not understand the nuts & bolts of sustainable recovery.
January 30, 2026 at 5:30 AM
Self-validation & self-compassion have to be meaningfully baked into every realistic trauma recovery tool we develop.
People who think validation & compassion are these warm & fuzzy "optional" tools do not understand the nuts & bolts of sustainable recovery.
People who think validation & compassion are these warm & fuzzy "optional" tools do not understand the nuts & bolts of sustainable recovery.
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"Friends" who are "friendly" as long as you're behaving in a predictable or "controllable" way can trigger the hell out of CPTSD survivors, especially who were the "scapegoat" in their family growing up.
January 22, 2026 at 2:04 AM
"Friends" who are "friendly" as long as you're behaving in a predictable or "controllable" way can trigger the hell out of CPTSD survivors, especially who were the "scapegoat" in their family growing up.
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It can be a mind f*ck to realize that we have been conditioned to talk to & behave toward ourselves like our abusers did-- to believe this is "normal," what we "deserve." To really start to see the layers of programming that may have started in childhood-- but didn't end there.
January 20, 2026 at 5:54 AM
It can be a mind f*ck to realize that we have been conditioned to talk to & behave toward ourselves like our abusers did-- to believe this is "normal," what we "deserve." To really start to see the layers of programming that may have started in childhood-- but didn't end there.
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Relationships that can realistically support our trauma recovery will offer us validation without us having to ask or beg for it.
Nobody who will actually support our healing will need to be "convinced" to extend us respect.
Nobody who will actually support our healing will need to be "convinced" to extend us respect.
January 13, 2026 at 4:49 AM
Relationships that can realistically support our trauma recovery will offer us validation without us having to ask or beg for it.
Nobody who will actually support our healing will need to be "convinced" to extend us respect.
Nobody who will actually support our healing will need to be "convinced" to extend us respect.
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Hey you, person reading this who isn't over something that hurt you months or years ago, but feeling compelled to hide or deny that you're still hurting. You need to know you're not abnormal or "broken." There's no timetable for these things, & MANY people fake it to seem "fine."
January 8, 2026 at 4:25 AM
Hey you, person reading this who isn't over something that hurt you months or years ago, but feeling compelled to hide or deny that you're still hurting. You need to know you're not abnormal or "broken." There's no timetable for these things, & MANY people fake it to seem "fine."
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The "freeze" trauma response is a nervous system-deep manifestation of what psychologists call "learned helplessness"-- the reflexive paralysis we experience when we perceive every option available to be associated w/ pain or unacceptable risk.
Trauma responses aren't "choices."
Trauma responses aren't "choices."
November 13, 2025 at 11:37 PM
The "freeze" trauma response is a nervous system-deep manifestation of what psychologists call "learned helplessness"-- the reflexive paralysis we experience when we perceive every option available to be associated w/ pain or unacceptable risk.
Trauma responses aren't "choices."
Trauma responses aren't "choices."
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Many trauma survivors choose not to f*ck w/ "forgiveness," because many abusers understand "forgiveness" to mean "permission to do it again."
November 3, 2025 at 10:10 PM
Many trauma survivors choose not to f*ck w/ "forgiveness," because many abusers understand "forgiveness" to mean "permission to do it again."
