probably but I find that a bridge too far 😭 I can speak confidently about my skills but I hate the thought of overselling.

Yes, I figured this out awhile back - I don't share much about struggles or unresolved challenges because she gets too anxious & tries to fix it. Work was a safe topic for a long time ago but now I'm making career moves that make her nervous, so unfortunately I'll have to ration there too.

Yup I spent my 20s a cowering mess of insecurities. Things changed when I met my partner, who was sort of fearless in the ways I wasn't, and when I started seeing some success at work. It's a long hard road.

Taking your kid who is not scared and making them scared isn't parenting and it doesn't fill whatever hole is trying to be filled. It just paralyzes the child. Now I'm 37, taking real risks and challenging myself like a 20-something, and rationing time with my mom so she can't derail me this time.

A pattern with me and my mom is I decide to do something, she gets nervous and tries to warn me about how it could go wrong, I don't listen, so she pushes harder to get me to listen by scaring me. It works, I get really scared, and I not only don't do the thing, I don't do anything else either.

She just rolled out an indoor kit for like $50, I might try it! The original package is like $300 and that's too much for a program I've never seen or tried before.

^ tracking things as they move is herding behaviour and she really does seem to like it!

Welcome! I paid for a few Dingbatt Academy courses (border collie trainer out of the UK) and I'm eyeing the "stalk, flank & block" girl's products pretty hard. A tip I use a lot now is, instead of just throwing the ball for fetch, holding it and moving it around so she tracks it with her eyes.

Like why were they so aggressive 😭

I REMEMBER THIS. They really were so loud!

The upset tiny humans do NOT need musical accompaniments 😭 they are doing just fine on their own 😭😭

This is the new goal!!

Once during a long bus ride I started with Taylor Swift and ended up listening to the Drake v Kendrick Lamar diss tracks in chronological order. Truly the algorithm is a mysterious creature.

This is the main time we discuss my autism: when it's time to practice not getting screened out by answering interview questions truthfully.

This is true & it's a very old mistake. Western feminism did the exact same thing at first - equating experiences of white women vs black women. Race makes a difference & the reason us white folks don't know that is because we are ignorant, not because we're open-minded.

It's a LOT! We spoke to one of those organizations that helps with the paperwork in exchange for a cut of your disability tax refund. We would have gone that route but ended up being worried the process would have unintended consequences if his disabilities seemed "too severe".

It was a couple of years ago, but in Canada. He wasn't an enrolled student, we were trying to understand what would be possible/what he could expect (lecture notes? extra time assistive software?). It might have been different if he was enrolled and spoke directly to an instructor.

We also struggled with the consequences of successfully proving you are not able to function. Some of my husband's conditions could have gotten his driver's license revoked if they had been proven on record, regardless of whether he would get disability benefits.