Dr Catalina
@theintimacydoc.bsky.social
Psychologist • Pleasure Activist • Midlife Rebirther
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Dr Catalina
@theintimacydoc.bsky.social
· Nov 21
I believe in:
Real love.
Real intimacy.
Ecstatic sex.
Equality made possible with equity.
Conscious connection with ourselves, one another, and earth.
Awareness over privileged naivety.
Honesty over niceties.
Integrity defined by actions not just words.
Fun because it’s fun.
Wisdom when earned.
Real love.
Real intimacy.
Ecstatic sex.
Equality made possible with equity.
Conscious connection with ourselves, one another, and earth.
Awareness over privileged naivety.
Honesty over niceties.
Integrity defined by actions not just words.
Fun because it’s fun.
Wisdom when earned.
So you want to f*ck an asshole? Time to sharpen your PQ. Attraction alone is not the problem. Chemistry is easy. What most people are missing is the internal capacity to experience pleasure without self abandonment. That capacity is your Pleasure Quotient (PQ) Your PQ starts with SAFETY. If your
February 11, 2026 at 12:36 AM
So you want to f*ck an asshole? Time to sharpen your PQ. Attraction alone is not the problem. Chemistry is easy. What most people are missing is the internal capacity to experience pleasure without self abandonment. That capacity is your Pleasure Quotient (PQ) Your PQ starts with SAFETY. If your
RIGHT ON! With enthusiastic consent, we get to explore soooo much! CONSENT is key!!! Unfortunately too often in relationships consent gets ignored. Let’s talk about this when it comes to communicating emotions. While transparency and sharing emotions is essential to foster emotional intimacy, too
February 9, 2026 at 6:00 PM
RIGHT ON! With enthusiastic consent, we get to explore soooo much! CONSENT is key!!! Unfortunately too often in relationships consent gets ignored. Let’s talk about this when it comes to communicating emotions. While transparency and sharing emotions is essential to foster emotional intimacy, too
CONSENT is key!!! With enthusiastic consent, we get to explore soooo much! Unfortunately too often in relationships consent gets ignored. Let’s talk about this when it comes to communicating emotions. While transparency and sharing emotions is essential to foster emotional intimacy, too often we
February 7, 2026 at 2:36 AM
CONSENT is key!!! With enthusiastic consent, we get to explore soooo much! Unfortunately too often in relationships consent gets ignored. Let’s talk about this when it comes to communicating emotions. While transparency and sharing emotions is essential to foster emotional intimacy, too often we
RIGHT ON! With enthusiastic consent, we get to explore soooo much! CONSENT is key!!! Unfortunately too often in relationships consent gets ignored. Let’s talk about this when it comes to communicating emotions. While transparency and sharing emotions is essential to foster emotional intimacy, too
February 7, 2026 at 12:37 AM
RIGHT ON! With enthusiastic consent, we get to explore soooo much! CONSENT is key!!! Unfortunately too often in relationships consent gets ignored. Let’s talk about this when it comes to communicating emotions. While transparency and sharing emotions is essential to foster emotional intimacy, too
CONSENT is key!!! With enthusiastic consent, we get to explore soooo much! Unfortunately too often in relationships consent gets ignored. Let’s talk about this when it comes to communicating emotions. While transparency and sharing emotions is essential to foster emotional intimacy, too often we
February 7, 2026 at 12:37 AM
CONSENT is key!!! With enthusiastic consent, we get to explore soooo much! Unfortunately too often in relationships consent gets ignored. Let’s talk about this when it comes to communicating emotions. While transparency and sharing emotions is essential to foster emotional intimacy, too often we
Most men have never felt real pleasure during play. And no, I’m not talking about 0 I’m talking about full body pleasure. Sensation. Presence. The feeling of being alive in your skin while connected to another person. For many men, play becomes a task to complete, not an experience to feel.
January 17, 2026 at 5:35 PM
Most men have never felt real pleasure during play. And no, I’m not talking about 0 I’m talking about full body pleasure. Sensation. Presence. The feeling of being alive in your skin while connected to another person. For many men, play becomes a task to complete, not an experience to feel.
Giving up makes sense. When you try over and over and keep hearing no, it can start to feel pointless. That sting of rejection builds up. You get tired. You stop reaching. You start believing that maybe it’s just not worth it. And that makes sense. Your body is protecting you from more
January 16, 2026 at 10:36 PM
Giving up makes sense. When you try over and over and keep hearing no, it can start to feel pointless. That sting of rejection builds up. You get tired. You stop reaching. You start believing that maybe it’s just not worth it. And that makes sense. Your body is protecting you from more
You’re f*cking her but you’re not there. And she knows it. Most people don’t disappear during sex because they don’t care. They disappear because they’re managing. Monitoring. Tracking outcomes. Is she close. Am I doing it right. Should I switch something. That’s not connection. That’s performance.
January 15, 2026 at 6:36 PM
You’re f*cking her but you’re not there. And she knows it. Most people don’t disappear during sex because they don’t care. They disappear because they’re managing. Monitoring. Tracking outcomes. Is she close. Am I doing it right. Should I switch something. That’s not connection. That’s performance.
Same sex for three years. She’s bored. And before you make that about her, pause. Boredom in sex is rarely about attraction. It’s about aliveness. Most long term relationships don’t lose desire because people stop caring. They lose desire because sex turns into a script. Predictable. Efficient.
January 15, 2026 at 3:36 PM
Same sex for three years. She’s bored. And before you make that about her, pause. Boredom in sex is rarely about attraction. It’s about aliveness. Most long term relationships don’t lose desire because people stop caring. They lose desire because sex turns into a script. Predictable. Efficient.
Your 🍆 said yes. Everything else said no. Think about the last time you played, or did anything, you didn’t really want. Where did you feel it? Chest tight. Gut sinking. Jaw locked. That wasn’t confusion. That was information. Your body knew before your brain caught up. This is where people
January 14, 2026 at 9:35 PM
Your 🍆 said yes. Everything else said no. Think about the last time you played, or did anything, you didn’t really want. Where did you feel it? Chest tight. Gut sinking. Jaw locked. That wasn’t confusion. That was information. Your body knew before your brain caught up. This is where people
You wanna fuck but you can’t even breathe right. That’s not shade. That’s physiology. Most people are walking around braced all day. Jaw tight. Shoulders up. Breath shallow. Your nervous system thinks it’s protecting you. And it is. From stress, pressure, uncertainty, threat. But that same
January 14, 2026 at 3:35 PM
You wanna fuck but you can’t even breathe right. That’s not shade. That’s physiology. Most people are walking around braced all day. Jaw tight. Shoulders up. Breath shallow. Your nervous system thinks it’s protecting you. And it is. From stress, pressure, uncertainty, threat. But that same
You’re f*cking but you can’t feel shit. That’s not a performance issue. That’s a sensation issue. Put your hand on your chest. Can you feel your heartbeat without pressing hard? If you have to search for it, your body is numb. And numbness doesn’t turn off just because you’re having sex. When
January 14, 2026 at 2:34 AM
You’re f*cking but you can’t feel shit. That’s not a performance issue. That’s a sensation issue. Put your hand on your chest. Can you feel your heartbeat without pressing hard? If you have to search for it, your body is numb. And numbness doesn’t turn off just because you’re having sex. When
Maybe you have a point. It’s just aimed in the wrong direction. If it feels like too much time and effort to talk about pleasure, connection, desire, or intimacy, that’s not proof it isn’t worth it. It’s proof of how little time most people have ever been invited to spend on what actually matters
January 4, 2026 at 5:36 PM
Maybe you have a point. It’s just aimed in the wrong direction. If it feels like too much time and effort to talk about pleasure, connection, desire, or intimacy, that’s not proof it isn’t worth it. It’s proof of how little time most people have ever been invited to spend on what actually matters
“When did pussy become not good enough?” Is good enough the goal? That's the real issue. Good enough is where curiosity goes to die. It’s where sexual scripts get stale. It’s where relationships plateau. Not because anything is wrong, but because we’ve been taught to stop exploring once something
January 4, 2026 at 6:37 AM
“When did pussy become not good enough?” Is good enough the goal? That's the real issue. Good enough is where curiosity goes to die. It’s where sexual scripts get stale. It’s where relationships plateau. Not because anything is wrong, but because we’ve been taught to stop exploring once something
Colemam How did we get from jobs to buttholes? Easy. That’s the whole f*cking point. How you work, live, love, and fck are all connected. The same stress that keeps you braced at your desk keeps you tight in your body. Daily life sht like bills, deadlines, traffic, endless scrolling, all that keeps
October 4, 2025 at 10:35 PM
Colemam How did we get from jobs to buttholes? Easy. That’s the whole f*cking point. How you work, live, love, and fck are all connected. The same stress that keeps you braced at your desk keeps you tight in your body. Daily life sht like bills, deadlines, traffic, endless scrolling, all that keeps
Why are all the curtains closed?😎 There was a time when people walking by this building could look up and see streakers, see couples having fun, see bodies not afraid to be seen. It was wild, it was funny, it was human. Now every curtain is drawn. Every window locked down. And that shift says
October 4, 2025 at 4:38 PM
Why are all the curtains closed?😎 There was a time when people walking by this building could look up and see streakers, see couples having fun, see bodies not afraid to be seen. It was wild, it was funny, it was human. Now every curtain is drawn. Every window locked down. And that shift says
literally and metaphorically. Literally, our culture has taught us that the asshole is dirty, dangerous, untouchable. Shame and fear keep people tight and locked down. Which means most people never even consider it could be a source of deep pleasure. But the body knows. When explored with safety,
October 4, 2025 at 2:35 PM
literally and metaphorically. Literally, our culture has taught us that the asshole is dirty, dangerous, untouchable. Shame and fear keep people tight and locked down. Which means most people never even consider it could be a source of deep pleasure. But the body knows. When explored with safety,
Dunn582 Time and money of course aren't the real blocks to pleasure. Yes, they matter. And yes, they impact how resourced you feel. But the bigger truth is that pleasure requires presence, not hours on a clock or dollars in a bank account. Pleasure doesn’t always need extra time. Pleasure lives in
October 4, 2025 at 2:35 AM
Dunn582 Time and money of course aren't the real blocks to pleasure. Yes, they matter. And yes, they impact how resourced you feel. But the bigger truth is that pleasure requires presence, not hours on a clock or dollars in a bank account. Pleasure doesn’t always need extra time. Pleasure lives in
Assholes need to get f*(
October 1, 2025 at 8:35 PM
Assholes need to get f*(
“Did it hurt somebody's feelings.” This is part of the problem fostering loneliness and division. When 100 college boys hang out the windows and scream at women walking by, that’s not harmless. That’s not funny. That’s learned behavior. That’s seggism teaching boys entitlement, teaching women to
October 1, 2025 at 5:35 PM
“Did it hurt somebody's feelings.” This is part of the problem fostering loneliness and division. When 100 college boys hang out the windows and scream at women walking by, that’s not harmless. That’s not funny. That’s learned behavior. That’s seggism teaching boys entitlement, teaching women to
If the world seems confusing and chaotic, this is by design. Over 50+ years policy after policy has been written to funnel money and power to the few. Tax breaks, deregulation, corporate loopholes, union busting. All of it stacked the system for the one percent. And as our population grew and our
October 1, 2025 at 1:35 PM
If the world seems confusing and chaotic, this is by design. Over 50+ years policy after policy has been written to funnel money and power to the few. Tax breaks, deregulation, corporate loopholes, union busting. All of it stacked the system for the one percent. And as our population grew and our
We’re bending ourselves over to f*ck ourselves in the ass and not getting any pleasure from it. That’s what happens every time we consume without thinking. In what we eat, what we buy, where we live, how we drive, how we spend. Consumption is where we lose our power. Because every purchase, every
September 30, 2025 at 6:36 PM
We’re bending ourselves over to f*ck ourselves in the ass and not getting any pleasure from it. That’s what happens every time we consume without thinking. In what we eat, what we buy, where we live, how we drive, how we spend. Consumption is where we lose our power. Because every purchase, every
We’re bending ourselves over to f*ck ourselves in the ass and not getting any pleasure from it. That’s what happens every time we consume without thinking. In what we eat, what we buy, where we live, how we drive, how we spend. Consumption is where we lose our power. Because every purchase, every
September 30, 2025 at 5:35 PM
We’re bending ourselves over to f*ck ourselves in the ass and not getting any pleasure from it. That’s what happens every time we consume without thinking. In what we eat, what we buy, where we live, how we drive, how we spend. Consumption is where we lose our power. Because every purchase, every
“I learned absolutely nothing.” Thanks for sharing! Because what you (meaning everyone who projects like this) just showed is exactly the problem. You already know how systemic and individual factors contribute to loneliness and division. You already know how this culture blocks us from pleasure.
September 30, 2025 at 2:40 PM
“I learned absolutely nothing.” Thanks for sharing! Because what you (meaning everyone who projects like this) just showed is exactly the problem. You already know how systemic and individual factors contribute to loneliness and division. You already know how this culture blocks us from pleasure.