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Is Love a Spiritual Test?

December 5, 2025 at 4:29 PM

Steven Ing, MFT

@stevening.bsky.social

Episode 75 of Managing Love Intelligently is now LIVE!
#podcast #love #spirituality

youtu.be/QTuHyb78u7E?...

How Shame Sabotages Relationships

December 1, 2025 at 6:36 PM

Steven Ing, MFT

@stevening.bsky.social

New podcast episode! Shame is not so much what you feel when you've made a mistake; it's what you feel when you think you are a mistake. Listen to learn how to overcome shame and stop it from sabotaging your relationships.
#shame #relationships #love

youtu.be/nO8eRuL3OFM?...

5-Minute Weekly Habit That Changes Everything About Sex Ed

November 2, 2025 at 7:55 PM

Steven Ing, MFT

@stevening.bsky.social

The 5-Minute Weekly Habit That Changes Everything About Sex Ed - New blog @psychologytoday.com

Talking about human s*xuality with your kids is key to raising a healthy adult. Link below 👇
#education #Parents

www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sexu...

Having conversations with your children about human sexuality will create a different 18-year-old than the 18-year-old who doesn't ever discuss sexuality.

How to Have More Fun Dating

September 18, 2025 at 3:53 PM

Steven Ing, MFT

@stevening.bsky.social

The first step in having more fun dating is to create a life worth living. The next step is to treat dating as a recreational activity—not a desperate search for someone to rescue you from your loneliness.

Listen via the link below:
#dating #datingadvice #datingtips

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Episode 71: Do People Want Healthy Relationships? - Managing Love Intelligently with Steven Ing, MFT

September 2, 2025 at 6:48 PM

Steven Ing, MFT

@stevening.bsky.social

Healthy relationships largely depend on whether both people have done the necessary internal work.

Managing Love Intelligently is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube. You can also click the link below.
#relationships #Happiness

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Healthy relationships largely depend on whether both people have done the necessary internal work.For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic w...

Why You Should Date 30 People Before Getting Serious

August 19, 2025 at 3:00 PM

Steven Ing, MFT

@stevening.bsky.social

Why You Should Date 30 People Before Getting Serious - New blog @psychologytoday.com

Building a successful, long-term committed relationship is not about finding a boyfriend or girlfriend, it’s about finding the right boyfriend or girlfriend.

Link below 👇
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sexu...

Building a successful, long-term, committed relationship is not about finding a boyfriend or girlfriend; it’s about finding the right boyfriend or girlfriend.

Episode 70: Navigating the Path to Commitment - Managing Love Intelligently with Steven Ing, MFT

July 30, 2025 at 5:50 PM

Steven Ing, MFT

@stevening.bsky.social

Most people rush into a committed relationship without fully understanding what they're committing to. The path to commitment should be taken slowly and based on intention. This greatly increases the odds of building a fulfilling relationship that lasts.

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Most people rush into a committed relationship without fully understanding what they're committing to. The path to commitment should be taken slowly and based on intention. This allows couples to grea...

Love Can, In Fact, Be Calculated: Interview with Zoey Charif

July 15, 2025 at 5:22 PM

Steven Ing, MFT

@stevening.bsky.social

Special Guest Episode of Managing Love Intelligently featuring Zoey Charif

Zoey is an author, relationship theorist, coach & entrepreneur. Her new book, Love Can, In Fact, Be Calculated is available on Amazon. View the video below:
#love #relationships

youtu.be/5OPdmd2kd_k?...

Episode 69: If It's Not a Communication Problem, What Is It? - Managing Love Intelligently with Steven Ing, MFT

July 8, 2025 at 5:58 PM

Steven Ing, MFT

@stevening.bsky.social

New podcast episode: If It's Not a Communication Problem, What Is It?

Many couples seek therapy believing they have communication problems, but the real issues run deeper.

Click the link below to listen:
#podcast #RelationshipAdvice

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Many couples seek therapy believing they have communication problems, but the real issues run deeper.For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensi...

Episode 68: Having Some Flexibility with Your Deal Breakers - Managing Love Intelligently with Steven Ing, MFT

July 1, 2025 at 5:52 PM

Steven Ing, MFT

@stevening.bsky.social

New podcast episode: "Having Some Flexibility with Your Deal Breakers"

By having some flexibility with your “personal” deal breakers, you open yourself up to dating people who may surprise you.
#relationships #dating

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Some deal breakers are universal, like abuse, while others are personal, like wanting to date someone who hikes. By having some flexibility with your "personal" deal breakers, you open yourself up to ...

Episode 67: Examining a Failed Relationship - Managing Love Intelligently with Steven Ing, MFT

June 17, 2025 at 6:25 PM

Steven Ing, MFT

@stevening.bsky.social

The only way to develop a live worth sharing is to first develop a life worth living. If you find a partner who discovers how amazing you and your life are, it’s a win-win for everyone. On the flip side, if you trick a partner into thinking you’re someone to get to know, you both lose.
#datingadvice

June 10, 2025 at 6:21 PM

Steven Ing, MFT

@stevening.bsky.social

New Episode of Managing Love Intelligently
Episode 67: "Examining a Failed Relationship"

Examining the wreckage of a romance that went awry takes a lot of courage, but if you do the work, the rewards are infinite.
#love #relationships #breakup

www.buzzsprout.com/2261032/epis...

Examining the wreckage of a romance that went awry takes a lot of courage, but if you do the work, the rewards are infinite.For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with...

Episode 66: Holding a Relationship Loosely - Managing Love Intelligently with Steven Ing, MFT

June 3, 2025 at 3:58 PM

Steven Ing, MFT

@stevening.bsky.social

New Podcast Episode!

When you hold a relationship loosely, you get to enjoy the relationship without desperately clinging to it, and if it doesn't work out, which most relationships don't, you will be okay.
#podcast #relationships

www.buzzsprout.com/2261032/epis...

When you hold a relationship loosely, you get to enjoy the relationship without desperately clinging to it, and if it doesn't work out, which most relationships don't, you will be okay.For 35 years, S...

Episode 65: Relationship Variables That Don't Matter - Managing Love Intelligently with Steven Ing, MFT

May 20, 2025 at 3:48 PM

Steven Ing, MFT

@stevening.bsky.social

People irrationally believe variables like age, religion, and politics are indicators of whether or not a relationship will work. None of these variables matter; what matters is character and compatibility.

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Many people irrationally believe variables such as age, religion, and politics are indicators of whether or not a relationship will work. None of these variables matter; what matters is character and ...

buzzsprout.com

May 6, 2025 at 6:03 PM

Steven Ing, MFT

@stevening.bsky.social

New blog @psychologytoday.com ✍

If we want to understand and prevent incel culture, we must teach our boys how to make real friends and how to be a friend.
#men #boys #education #incel #friendship #friends

www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sexu...

Our Lonely Boys: Understanding and Preventing Incel Culture

If we want to understand and prevent incel culture, we must teach our boys how to make real friends and how to be a friend.

Episode 64: Letting Your Partner Know What You Want - Managing Love Intelligently with Steven Ing, MFT

May 5, 2025 at 5:42 PM

Steven Ing, MFT

@stevening.bsky.social

You don't always have to ask for what you want; it's sometimes more effective to tell someone—not necessarily what you want from them, but what you want out of life and what you want out of a relationship.
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#podcast #relationships #relationshipadvice

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You don't always have to ask for what you want; it's sometimes more effective to tell someone—not necessarily what you want from them, but what you want out of life and what you want out of a relation...

Episode 63: Updating Your Relationship Menu - Managing Love Intelligently with Steven Ing, MFT

April 22, 2025 at 5:03 PM

Steven Ing, MFT

@stevening.bsky.social

Acting in any way other than one’s authentic self in a relationship is unsustainable.
#relationships #relationshipadvice #authentic

April 18, 2025 at 3:15 PM

Steven Ing, MFT

@stevening.bsky.social

When it comes to relationships, many people don’t know what’s on the menu. This is often due to our irrational beliefs surrounding love. These beliefs hold us back from building the type of relationship we can all admire.
#love #dating #relationships #advice

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When it comes to relationships, many people don't know what's on the menu. This is often due to our irrational beliefs surrounding love. These beliefs hold us back from building the type of relationsh...

Episode 62: Embracing the Sacred and Profane in Your Partner - Managing Love Intelligently with Steven Ing, MFT

April 8, 2025 at 5:06 PM

Steven Ing, MFT

@stevening.bsky.social

Embracing the sacred and profane in your partner allows you to see them for who they really are—and we are all so much more than just one thing.
#podcast #relationships #sacred #profane #marriage #relationshipadvice #marriageadvice

www.buzzsprout.com/2261032/epis...

Embracing the sacred and profane in your partner allows you to see them for who they really are—and we are all so much more than just one thing.For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and F...

Embrace the Sacred and Profane in Your Relationships

March 25, 2025 at 6:53 PM

Steven Ing, MFT

@stevening.bsky.social

Embrace the Sacred and Profane in Your Relationships

By loving and appreciating all aspects of ourselves and our partners, we can—ultimately, and with much practice—finally see one another.
#psychology #relationships #advice

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By loving and appreciating all aspects of ourselves and our partners, we can—ultimately, and with much practice—finally see one another.

Episode 61: Makeup Sex Is a Lie - Managing Love Intelligently with Steven Ing, MFT

March 19, 2025 at 5:02 PM

Steven Ing, MFT

@stevening.bsky.social

Living an abuse-free life is a vital step in managing love intelligently. ❤️
#love #relationships #marriage #abusefree

March 18, 2025 at 6:23 PM

Steven Ing, MFT

@stevening.bsky.social

Makeup sex isn't about making up; it's about a temporary truce while we take care of our physical needs.

Managing Love Intelligently is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube. You can also visit the link below.
#podcast #RelationshipTips #marriagegoals

www.buzzsprout.com/2261032/epis...

Makeup sex isn't about making up; it's about a temporary truce while we take care of our physical needs.For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in fore...

Episode 60: Taking Accountability in Your Love Life - Managing Love Intelligently with Steven Ing, MFT

March 11, 2025 at 5:17 PM

Steven Ing, MFT

@stevening.bsky.social

"Life is too short to be with someone who doesn't respect you as a fully franchised human being." If equality isn't practiced in your relationship, it might be time to reconsider.

March 1, 2025 at 9:49 PM

Steven Ing, MFT

@stevening.bsky.social

Taking accountability in your love life allows you to grow, gain wisdom, break out of stuck patterns, become more assertive, and live a happier life.
#love #relationships #dating

www.buzzsprout.com/2261032/epis...

Taking accountability in your love life allows you to grow, gain wisdom, break out of stuck patterns, become more assertive, and live a happier life. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Mar...