(It’s both✨
Also sorry to everyone for falling off the face of the planet yet again I am so fucking depressed and nobody needs to be dealing with that T^T)

If you think everyone who comes off as “crazy” is an abuser I have news for you: most victimized people look absolutely nuts. They look desperate. They’re reactive.

Turns out all that “being mistreated” stuff takes a toll on you mentally & eventually you hit a point where you’ve had ENOUGH.

“You don’t owe people anything” is good to remind yourself when you’re dealing with people who never cared about you to begin with. It’s good when you have to escape a dangerous situation.

It is victim blaming BS when you deploy it against someone who isn’t performing their suffering appropriately.

And if you finally fall apart after being broken over & over, every single armchair psychologist gawker will tell you that the person who treated you this way owes you nothing and well, you don’t seem very healthy anyways, do you? You don’t seem very worthy of being treated right. YOU’RE BROKEN.

& refusing to apologize & giving you reasons why this is fine, actually … YOU’RE the vulnerable one. You’re the one being put in repeated positions where you can choose to suck it up or say, “This isn’t right.” You can choose to worry quietly while they disappear AGAIN or you can try to get answers.

My apparent crime is CARING about my partner and wanting clear answers (no gaslighting bullshit), and being upset when a rando comes in trying to rewrite history on me.

Tell me to my face that you would have just kept silently waiting if you’d been through what I had.