Sir Dax
@sirdax.bsky.social
Approachable Pro BDSM Dom in Lincs, UK. 51. Book your "BDSM for Beginners" in-person session now! 18+ #bdsm DMs open - bookings available SirDax.co.uk
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Sir Dax
@sirdax.bsky.social
· Nov 15
Hi, I’m Dax! I’m a real-life professional BDSM Dominant based in the UK.
I provide help, answer questions, & generally promote safe & responsible BDSM practice. I can be hired for private sessions, but online help and advice is free. DMs are always open to anyone.
I provide help, answer questions, & generally promote safe & responsible BDSM practice. I can be hired for private sessions, but online help and advice is free. DMs are always open to anyone.
I'm back, so let's take some questions!
ngl.link/thesirdax2
If you've previously sent questions that weren't answered, please send them again - I changed my phone earlier this year and NGL doesn't have a way to log in to an existing account so I can't access them🤦♂️
ngl.link/thesirdax2
If you've previously sent questions that weren't answered, please send them again - I changed my phone earlier this year and NGL doesn't have a way to log in to an existing account so I can't access them🤦♂️
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ngl.link
December 16, 2025 at 6:09 PM
I'm back, so let's take some questions!
ngl.link/thesirdax2
If you've previously sent questions that weren't answered, please send them again - I changed my phone earlier this year and NGL doesn't have a way to log in to an existing account so I can't access them🤦♂️
ngl.link/thesirdax2
If you've previously sent questions that weren't answered, please send them again - I changed my phone earlier this year and NGL doesn't have a way to log in to an existing account so I can't access them🤦♂️
This article sounded interesting, until I saw their ages - they met when he was 43 and she was only... 31. On the plus side, their relationship does sound nice and healthy, so I can't help thinking a better title would have been "I married the right person for me."
December 16, 2025 at 12:09 PM
This article sounded interesting, until I saw their ages - they met when he was 43 and she was only... 31. On the plus side, their relationship does sound nice and healthy, so I can't help thinking a better title would have been "I married the right person for me."
BDSM myth busting: ‘A real sub never uses a safeword.’
Absolute nonsense. Anyone who says that is advertising that they're dangerous.
Safewords exist for a reason. Use them if you want to - but don't let anyone else tell you what's right for you.
What's the worst 'real sub' myth you've heard?
Absolute nonsense. Anyone who says that is advertising that they're dangerous.
Safewords exist for a reason. Use them if you want to - but don't let anyone else tell you what's right for you.
What's the worst 'real sub' myth you've heard?
December 15, 2025 at 12:35 AM
BDSM myth busting: ‘A real sub never uses a safeword.’
Absolute nonsense. Anyone who says that is advertising that they're dangerous.
Safewords exist for a reason. Use them if you want to - but don't let anyone else tell you what's right for you.
What's the worst 'real sub' myth you've heard?
Absolute nonsense. Anyone who says that is advertising that they're dangerous.
Safewords exist for a reason. Use them if you want to - but don't let anyone else tell you what's right for you.
What's the worst 'real sub' myth you've heard?
I've created a new TikTok channel purely for Lego building videos - I'd appreciate follows and engagement please! I really want to do livestreams but I need followers!
Profile: www.tiktok.com/@dax.does.lego
First post: vm.tiktok.com/ZNd4LWP3G/
Profile: www.tiktok.com/@dax.does.lego
First post: vm.tiktok.com/ZNd4LWP3G/
TikTok - Make Your Day
Check out Dax Does Lego’s post.
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August 26, 2025 at 10:06 AM
I've created a new TikTok channel purely for Lego building videos - I'd appreciate follows and engagement please! I really want to do livestreams but I need followers!
Profile: www.tiktok.com/@dax.does.lego
First post: vm.tiktok.com/ZNd4LWP3G/
Profile: www.tiktok.com/@dax.does.lego
First post: vm.tiktok.com/ZNd4LWP3G/
If you've got questions about being a Pro Dom, send them here and I'll answer: ngl.link/thesirdax
August 14, 2025 at 2:47 PM
If you've got questions about being a Pro Dom, send them here and I'll answer: ngl.link/thesirdax
Today's top tip:
If you're in a long-distance dynamic *with someone who lives alone*, then an excellent and fun way to play with 24/7 or TPE aspects is with something like an IP/security camera.
I currently have one trained on someone who has been told not to wear clothes today, and watching...
If you're in a long-distance dynamic *with someone who lives alone*, then an excellent and fun way to play with 24/7 or TPE aspects is with something like an IP/security camera.
I currently have one trained on someone who has been told not to wear clothes today, and watching...
August 14, 2025 at 12:41 PM
Today's top tip:
If you're in a long-distance dynamic *with someone who lives alone*, then an excellent and fun way to play with 24/7 or TPE aspects is with something like an IP/security camera.
I currently have one trained on someone who has been told not to wear clothes today, and watching...
If you're in a long-distance dynamic *with someone who lives alone*, then an excellent and fun way to play with 24/7 or TPE aspects is with something like an IP/security camera.
I currently have one trained on someone who has been told not to wear clothes today, and watching...
I'll do a blog post on this, because I get this a LOT, but the short answer is:
You don't.
By all means, have a conversation, say "I'd love it if we did (whatever), what do you think?", which it seems you've done, and you listen to her answer. If it's no, which it sounds like, then you go...🧵
You don't.
By all means, have a conversation, say "I'd love it if we did (whatever), what do you think?", which it seems you've done, and you listen to her answer. If it's no, which it sounds like, then you go...🧵
August 2, 2025 at 8:26 PM
I'll do a blog post on this, because I get this a LOT, but the short answer is:
You don't.
By all means, have a conversation, say "I'd love it if we did (whatever), what do you think?", which it seems you've done, and you listen to her answer. If it's no, which it sounds like, then you go...🧵
You don't.
By all means, have a conversation, say "I'd love it if we did (whatever), what do you think?", which it seems you've done, and you listen to her answer. If it's no, which it sounds like, then you go...🧵
Finally setting up my 🪭sly account - if we're mutuals (or you follow me on here), let me know and I'll follow you. I'm on there as SirDax.
August 2, 2025 at 7:29 PM
Finally setting up my 🪭sly account - if we're mutuals (or you follow me on here), let me know and I'll follow you. I'm on there as SirDax.
Ok, one is the whole "Use your words" thing, apparently that's hot. And of course inspection, which I mentioned last time. As for things they rave about - let's just say they're aspects of my body that I don't have any control over, and leave it at that.
July 31, 2025 at 7:41 PM
Ok, one is the whole "Use your words" thing, apparently that's hot. And of course inspection, which I mentioned last time. As for things they rave about - let's just say they're aspects of my body that I don't have any control over, and leave it at that.
Two things spring to mind:
1) Inspection. This is my absolute favourite and I am VERY good at it.
2) Public play - e.g. "go to the restroom, remove your panties, and come back wearing them as a scrunchie". NEVER doing things others would notice, though.
1) Inspection. This is my absolute favourite and I am VERY good at it.
2) Public play - e.g. "go to the restroom, remove your panties, and come back wearing them as a scrunchie". NEVER doing things others would notice, though.
July 31, 2025 at 6:06 PM
Two things spring to mind:
1) Inspection. This is my absolute favourite and I am VERY good at it.
2) Public play - e.g. "go to the restroom, remove your panties, and come back wearing them as a scrunchie". NEVER doing things others would notice, though.
1) Inspection. This is my absolute favourite and I am VERY good at it.
2) Public play - e.g. "go to the restroom, remove your panties, and come back wearing them as a scrunchie". NEVER doing things others would notice, though.
It's not normal behaviour for a decent person. This is usually the sort of thing you'll get from two main types of person:
1) Someone who doesn't know it's bad behaviour, because they're new to D/s but have learnt from porn or social media. They may not mean any harm, and if they're...
1) Someone who doesn't know it's bad behaviour, because they're new to D/s but have learnt from porn or social media. They may not mean any harm, and if they're...
July 31, 2025 at 4:27 PM
It's not normal behaviour for a decent person. This is usually the sort of thing you'll get from two main types of person:
1) Someone who doesn't know it's bad behaviour, because they're new to D/s but have learnt from porn or social media. They may not mean any harm, and if they're...
1) Someone who doesn't know it's bad behaviour, because they're new to D/s but have learnt from porn or social media. They may not mean any harm, and if they're...
Safety tip!
When meeting someone new, a common piece of advice is to meet them somewhere public, rather than having them over to your home.
It's also common advice to buy your own drinks, or at least keep an eye on your drink, so they can't slip something into it.
What's not so common...
When meeting someone new, a common piece of advice is to meet them somewhere public, rather than having them over to your home.
It's also common advice to buy your own drinks, or at least keep an eye on your drink, so they can't slip something into it.
What's not so common...
July 19, 2025 at 7:35 PM
Safety tip!
When meeting someone new, a common piece of advice is to meet them somewhere public, rather than having them over to your home.
It's also common advice to buy your own drinks, or at least keep an eye on your drink, so they can't slip something into it.
What's not so common...
When meeting someone new, a common piece of advice is to meet them somewhere public, rather than having them over to your home.
It's also common advice to buy your own drinks, or at least keep an eye on your drink, so they can't slip something into it.
What's not so common...
Woke up this morning to the news that my first co-authored book, a rivals-to-lovers workplace romance, had its first pre-order!
Find out more here:
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Pre-order here:
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Find out more here:
vm.tiktok.com/ZNd5VuS49/
Pre-order here:
amzn.to/4eJuuRH
amzn.to
July 11, 2025 at 10:31 AM
Woke up this morning to the news that my first co-authored book, a rivals-to-lovers workplace romance, had its first pre-order!
Find out more here:
vm.tiktok.com/ZNd5VuS49/
Pre-order here:
amzn.to/4eJuuRH
Find out more here:
vm.tiktok.com/ZNd5VuS49/
Pre-order here:
amzn.to/4eJuuRH
What's one piece of advice you think everyone new to D/s should receive?
July 2, 2025 at 3:27 PM
What's one piece of advice you think everyone new to D/s should receive?
Here are some posts about the most common questions I get asked:
1) How do I find a Dom/sub?
sirdax.co.uk/how-to-meet-...
2) "I'm new - where do I start?"
sirdax.co.uk/beginners-gu...
3) "How do I stay safe when meeting someone new?"
sirdax.co.uk/safety-when-...
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1) How do I find a Dom/sub?
sirdax.co.uk/how-to-meet-...
2) "I'm new - where do I start?"
sirdax.co.uk/beginners-gu...
3) "How do I stay safe when meeting someone new?"
sirdax.co.uk/safety-when-...
🧵 1/2
June 21, 2025 at 7:51 AM
Here are some posts about the most common questions I get asked:
1) How do I find a Dom/sub?
sirdax.co.uk/how-to-meet-...
2) "I'm new - where do I start?"
sirdax.co.uk/beginners-gu...
3) "How do I stay safe when meeting someone new?"
sirdax.co.uk/safety-when-...
🧵 1/2
1) How do I find a Dom/sub?
sirdax.co.uk/how-to-meet-...
2) "I'm new - where do I start?"
sirdax.co.uk/beginners-gu...
3) "How do I stay safe when meeting someone new?"
sirdax.co.uk/safety-when-...
🧵 1/2
April 9, 2025 at 11:17 AM
When talking about kinks, it’s a good idea to ask WHY someone likes An Thing. E.g. watersports - some enjoy being degraded, but to others they like the sensation, or maybe the intimacy, and would find involving degradation to be a turn-off.
If you don’t know why they like it, it could go wrong.
If you don’t know why they like it, it could go wrong.
April 6, 2025 at 5:38 PM
When talking about kinks, it’s a good idea to ask WHY someone likes An Thing. E.g. watersports - some enjoy being degraded, but to others they like the sensation, or maybe the intimacy, and would find involving degradation to be a turn-off.
If you don’t know why they like it, it could go wrong.
If you don’t know why they like it, it could go wrong.
Every now and then I get new product alerts from suppliers for my DevianceByDax.com adult store, and I just got this one which made me laugh:
Glow in the dark buttplugs.
That's one way to keep your gut bacteria entertained, I suppose...
#KinkThreads
Glow in the dark buttplugs.
That's one way to keep your gut bacteria entertained, I suppose...
#KinkThreads
April 4, 2025 at 10:33 AM
Every now and then I get new product alerts from suppliers for my DevianceByDax.com adult store, and I just got this one which made me laugh:
Glow in the dark buttplugs.
That's one way to keep your gut bacteria entertained, I suppose...
#KinkThreads
Glow in the dark buttplugs.
That's one way to keep your gut bacteria entertained, I suppose...
#KinkThreads
Short answer to the whole "the sub has all the power" thing: no, they don't.
For a longer explanation, read here: www.threads.net/@thesirdax/p...
#kinkthreads
For a longer explanation, read here: www.threads.net/@thesirdax/p...
#kinkthreads
April 1, 2025 at 7:58 PM
Short answer to the whole "the sub has all the power" thing: no, they don't.
For a longer explanation, read here: www.threads.net/@thesirdax/p...
#kinkthreads
For a longer explanation, read here: www.threads.net/@thesirdax/p...
#kinkthreads
Let's talk about...
The D/s Hierarchy of Needs.
The one that people usually claim is "the only way" or "the right way" is:
Sub's needs > Dom's needs > Dom's wants > Sub's wants
What do you think? What arrangement works for you?
#kinkthreads
The D/s Hierarchy of Needs.
The one that people usually claim is "the only way" or "the right way" is:
Sub's needs > Dom's needs > Dom's wants > Sub's wants
What do you think? What arrangement works for you?
#kinkthreads
March 21, 2025 at 4:09 PM
Let's talk about...
The D/s Hierarchy of Needs.
The one that people usually claim is "the only way" or "the right way" is:
Sub's needs > Dom's needs > Dom's wants > Sub's wants
What do you think? What arrangement works for you?
#kinkthreads
The D/s Hierarchy of Needs.
The one that people usually claim is "the only way" or "the right way" is:
Sub's needs > Dom's needs > Dom's wants > Sub's wants
What do you think? What arrangement works for you?
#kinkthreads
Me: *offers a one week, no obligation, free trial to my online D/s service*
Potential clients one day into their one week, no obligation, free trial: "I'm sold, sign me up Daddy!"
sirdax.co.uk/online-d-s/
Potential clients one day into their one week, no obligation, free trial: "I'm sold, sign me up Daddy!"
sirdax.co.uk/online-d-s/
Online D/s – Sir Dax
Sir Dax
sirdax.co.uk
March 17, 2025 at 9:36 AM
Me: *offers a one week, no obligation, free trial to my online D/s service*
Potential clients one day into their one week, no obligation, free trial: "I'm sold, sign me up Daddy!"
sirdax.co.uk/online-d-s/
Potential clients one day into their one week, no obligation, free trial: "I'm sold, sign me up Daddy!"
sirdax.co.uk/online-d-s/
Happy International Women's Day!
I'm grateful for the brilliant and dedicated women in my life who inspire me daily. As a man, I recognize my privilege and commit to using it to stand against gender-based discrimination, violence, and online abuse. I promise to listen more, speak up when...
I'm grateful for the brilliant and dedicated women in my life who inspire me daily. As a man, I recognize my privilege and commit to using it to stand against gender-based discrimination, violence, and online abuse. I promise to listen more, speak up when...
March 8, 2025 at 12:27 PM
Happy International Women's Day!
I'm grateful for the brilliant and dedicated women in my life who inspire me daily. As a man, I recognize my privilege and commit to using it to stand against gender-based discrimination, violence, and online abuse. I promise to listen more, speak up when...
I'm grateful for the brilliant and dedicated women in my life who inspire me daily. As a man, I recognize my privilege and commit to using it to stand against gender-based discrimination, violence, and online abuse. I promise to listen more, speak up when...
Following on from an NGL question, here's my thoughts and advice on Mentors:
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#kinkthreads
Short version if you don't want to read:
1) They're not essential, pretty much everything you need to know is available online anyway.
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#kinkthreads
Short version if you don't want to read:
1) They're not essential, pretty much everything you need to know is available online anyway.
🧵 1/3
March 7, 2025 at 5:49 PM
Following on from an NGL question, here's my thoughts and advice on Mentors:
buff.ly/1T6sXVJ
#kinkthreads
Short version if you don't want to read:
1) They're not essential, pretty much everything you need to know is available online anyway.
🧵 1/3
buff.ly/1T6sXVJ
#kinkthreads
Short version if you don't want to read:
1) They're not essential, pretty much everything you need to know is available online anyway.
🧵 1/3
I've added a couple more items on to the "Common BDSM scams and how to spot them" article. These ones aren't necessarily financial, but they can be harmful.
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#kinkthreads
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#kinkthreads
Common BDSM scams and how to spot them. – Sir Dax
Sir Dax
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March 7, 2025 at 4:33 PM
I've added a couple more items on to the "Common BDSM scams and how to spot them" article. These ones aren't necessarily financial, but they can be harmful.
buff.ly/vghrbCE
#kinkthreads
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#kinkthreads