in recent history even for just sydney time it has been a mess so forgive me if i do not like our chances lol. in perth we will also be in a completely different environment/home and while it may be a significantly healthier one, it is still different and requires adjusting

"5am? yeah whatever we'll make it work" is the natural Roses response. i think we are genuinely spirited enough to do it. but it does beg the question - should we try to ask anyway? (vs just giving a passive heads up). esp bc we are saying "we may need time to adjust".

but i think we have collectively agreed to keep the friction low. this ultimately means: soft ask for accommodation during this period but expect to compromise. (not being present at all & missing discussion and an opportunity to bring things up is an unacceptable one when async isn't up to scratch)

so much so that our natural instinct is to just suck it up and make it work. especially since we have the most flexibility of schedule. it can be rough when an org struggles with async first comms. other rosemates have more extensive experience around fighting for this tho,

i think this is actually what glim worries abt in general, these kinds of conversations can lead into unproductive rabbit holes bc they are focused too much on features and technical detail semantics and not people & organising aspect and she lowkey wants to be around to keep an eye on the chat

just staying in touch with friends and some sort of community, also helpful. anything that keeps us from staying isolated and looping in not great thoughts

but there are good like, baseline things that have always worked at seeking groundedness, identifying and getting thru weird mental patterns. so we might not have the best help, professionally or medically, but things have been manageable to some degree.

bc those things getting neglected will just make us feel guilty and not good about doing the other things we may enjoy more, even tho they are incredibly useful and important too

i know we're dealing with a bunch of disabilities. some diagnosed, some not. 0% medical treatment rn tho

like it's easy for ruby to open qt creator and start randomly coding stuff, or putting on a video about C++ or whatever. it's good, it's useful, it's not wasted time. but i want it us to be able to do this other stuff that gets left to the way side, i want it to relatively easy to start on that too

doing even just a bit of this everyday will be helpful. so as long as we are including the things we really neglect to do and take a whole lot more activation energy than others

had a list of things & got thru most of them now & there's still a good amount of the day left. not a huge list. but the diff between that listed out and crossed out as known done things, just takes SO much weight off. before this it was one of many nebulous things intermixed in a cloud of anxieties