It's wonderful when someone makes a popcorn movie that we unexpectedly feel connected to.

But an attempt to make something meaningful that comes off as shallow and forgettable is a small tragedy.

There's nothing wrong with a movie being fun and distracting.

But we ascribe a lot of value to something that makes us feel strongly enough for us to form a connection to it.

Here to help.

My partner has a friend who came out as trans long before I did and whom I only met on rare occasions, and to this day I am oddly proud of the fact that I have no memory of her deadname.

Don't forget spheda! Or as I insisted on calling it, 'Fix Time Golf!'

The exclamation point is inside the quotation marks, because I was always required to shout it.

"I can roll through a shower..." "mirror for mysterious reasons!"

HRT sure didn't help the typing game, that's for sure.

I just kept saying "make it short enough that Incan roll through a shower and let it dry without using and product" because I didn't like spending time in front of my bathroom mirror of mysterious reasons!

I'm closing in on my fourth year of HRT. If the ear and encouragement of a random internet weirdo would ever be of help, always happy to get a message.

Having people to help reflect you back to yourself helps. And HRT is not a quick fix for everything.

But we all really do make it up as we go along, to some extent.

It was almost a year into HRT where I asked my partner if they noticed any change beyond the physical, because I had trouble seeing it.

And to my surprise, their response was "I've always loved you, but you often moved through life like you were a ghost. Now you feel alive."

I have been there! That space exactly! I remember the feeling of not being able to so much as describe what kind of haircut I wanted because my brain just utterly failed to be able to picture me.

My primary partner is disabled, and loving them saved my life.

All love requires strength, but it also unlocks our strength.

I hope you find that love from another and find that love within yourself.

I have 16 years of call centre WFM experience, and can vouch for every bit of this. Excellent insight and advice, top to bottom!