I hear them express shock, grief, helplessness, misdirected rage, impulsive not well thought out actions...

And I walk away, breathe, and reconnect with the adults that didnt have the social privilege to be lost in "I didnt realize mode"

I'm not available for guidance & advice from former bullies

Once I share the clinical details of the AFAB or AMAB process, I see disgust on their faces.

Yet, Intersex solidarity doesnt follow.

Just discomfort followed by silence.

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Since Job Training is quickly obsolete, they save money, time, and resources by forcing the "smart ones" to Self-Train and Figure it out alone, and in isolation

Theyre OK with that model not being effective or sustainable

That business model wont change until they choose Empathy & Compassion

Then we are mislabeled as inconsistent, unexplained gaps in our resume, and unreliable.

Then DARVO'd that we get angry and agitated for such a small thing.

"Its not malicious"
"Its not our intention"
"YOU take it too close to heart"
"YOU need to show US grace"

Call out sick from work to get a break from the misgendering.

Quit a job.

Use substances to cope.

Become Unhoused because have no income from

Dependent on a "provider"

Isolated at work.

Clinically Depressed

Anxious because you know being called "it" is waiting for you.

Many allies demand us to smile and give them comfort while they unintentionally calls us names we didn't choose.

Your intent is not more important than harm

Unitentional harm is still harm.