yep that's me! a cis woman. did you know i am a cis woman? did you know i take testosterone and cry at the mirror every day,

At the end of the day I just feel like my overall experience as a woman is that I am very very defined by others by who I am currently romantically involved with, and I think this is something that sucks ass for all women lol.

If anything, lesbians DID acknowledge I was bisexual, but they often acknowledged it to remind me of my proximity to men. Which I get, being a lesbian now, I understand my life is pretty different now that I've completely distanced men. A lot of the "bi erasure" I faced was not from lesbians.

Like just as an obvious example- when I identified as bisexual, an overwhelming majority of my romantic and sexual partners had been women. I have dated TWO men in my life. When I was dating a man, however, it was like my track record of slutting out with women completely vanished.

Yeah I mean, I just feel like the "invisibility" kind of persists as a lesbian, if only because there exist countless men who will refuse to believe I am a lesbian, especially since I HAVE "tried" men. I do have experience of being treated VERY differently depending on who I was/am dating.

it definitely is, i was just more expressing it is maybe hard for me to conceptualize if i was more or less discriminated against when i identified as bi versus now when i identify as a lesbian. i experience different kinds of violence as a lesbian, but a lot of it overlaps with the prev bi label

i will be so fr i dont understand what this rant is about as i wasnt really talking about political lesbianism, just that being a lesbian kind of ends up being a political statement a lot of the time inherently because of the world we live in

like just coming from a Feminine Woman's Perspective, my bisexuality kind of never... mattered... to people. it was as if i was telling them i was heterosexual. which is a different kind of bullshit than say, if a man was expressing he was bisexual- people take that as "oh, so you're gay, got it."

i feel like it is hard to measure that especially because everyone's life experience is different, all i know is that lesbian spaces IRL are pretty vastly different than online ones. i also think bisexual men and bisexual women are going to face different bullshit in the world

i will say, like in my first post, a lot of this hostility to bisexuality feels very "online" to me. i identified as bisexual for a while, before i accepted i am not attracted to men what so ever. all of the lesbians in my life had absolutely no problem with this. being queer is messy.

yeah, lesbianism is often approached as something that must be fixed ASAP to put the lesbian back into the position of "womanhood" (womanhood that is defined by patriarchy)

yeah the "cultural differences" in this situation just all boil down to misogyny honestly. if women had more autonomy i feel like it'd literally not matter. but lesbian isn't just a sexuality, it is kind of also a political statement, that statement being: "i am opting out of the patriarchy"

so really that is kind of where this ""divide"" is

i'm sure if lesbians weren't constantly being persuaded and threatened with violence constantly there would not be so much pushback against the idea of attraction to men. a patriarchal world does not and will not accept the idea that women who arent attracted to men exist

i will say like 2 things

1. the lesbian vs bi debate is something that i find is actually super online. this is something that has never mattered IRL for me lol. lesbian spaces always have bi women honestly

2. we live in a violently patriarchal world, lesbians are constantly pressured to be het

sorry it is literally insane how people treat testosterone like it is the predator hormone. even more insane when it's other lesbians who come at me like that