So yes it's fraught and subjective and also if I had that much just flopping around in a discretionary health care account I would have put dude in rehab too tryna save him and I'll fucking put my dad in memory cary if that's the only option by crying about I'm helpless while doing harm is not.
December 12, 2025 at 7:11 PM
So yes it's fraught and subjective and also if I had that much just flopping around in a discretionary health care account I would have put dude in rehab too tryna save him and I'll fucking put my dad in memory cary if that's the only option by crying about I'm helpless while doing harm is not.
So while my dad didn't realize how dysfunctional that shit was til I was older and that succeeding at life the second I moved out meant I wasn't initiating it, I know how tf that mess works and demanded she get a real nurse whose whole mf job is to help him pee without making sarcastic comments
December 12, 2025 at 7:09 PM
So while my dad didn't realize how dysfunctional that shit was til I was older and that succeeding at life the second I moved out meant I wasn't initiating it, I know how tf that mess works and demanded she get a real nurse whose whole mf job is to help him pee without making sarcastic comments
I was lying in bed beating myselr up I'm doing a terrible job of existing and realized I'm actually doing what I wish somebody would have figured out when I was a kid, which is that my mom can be really fucking mean and she justifies it by crying she's helpless after refusing help 200 times
December 12, 2025 at 7:07 PM
I was lying in bed beating myselr up I'm doing a terrible job of existing and realized I'm actually doing what I wish somebody would have figured out when I was a kid, which is that my mom can be really fucking mean and she justifies it by crying she's helpless after refusing help 200 times
Plz stop talking all that shit about bReAkiNg gEneRaTiOnaL cUrSes when it suits you then throwing a fit it's my duty to re-traumatize myself hourly by changing a formerly abusive parent's diapers bc "duty."
December 12, 2025 at 7:06 PM
Plz stop talking all that shit about bReAkiNg gEneRaTiOnaL cUrSes when it suits you then throwing a fit it's my duty to re-traumatize myself hourly by changing a formerly abusive parent's diapers bc "duty."
I hate the tabloids always lying about Bruce Willis' condition that my dad also has just to be messy. I hate people feel entitled to make mean dementia jokes and if it vjiscerally hurts you're "defending Trump" not DEALING W IT IN A LOVED ONE AND WISHING DEATH ON ALL ALZHEIMERS BC POLITICS IS SICK
December 10, 2025 at 12:31 AM
I hate the tabloids always lying about Bruce Willis' condition that my dad also has just to be messy. I hate people feel entitled to make mean dementia jokes and if it vjiscerally hurts you're "defending Trump" not DEALING W IT IN A LOVED ONE AND WISHING DEATH ON ALL ALZHEIMERS BC POLITICS IS SICK
My dad is bigger than me. When Bobby Bacala was crying about having to lift his dad onto the toilet that's real but I PHYSICALLY CAN'T so making that about I'm abandoning my parent by bring much smaller than him is just misogyny fuck off
December 10, 2025 at 12:29 AM
My dad is bigger than me. When Bobby Bacala was crying about having to lift his dad onto the toilet that's real but I PHYSICALLY CAN'T so making that about I'm abandoning my parent by bring much smaller than him is just misogyny fuck off
I'm fucking sick of all the derailment, this shit is about American healthcare is so broken it wants 2 relatives to compete whose condition is actually "real" enough to "deserve" care and I decided my parent's care is more urgent so that makes me selfish? FUCK you coulda got me w it last year but no
December 10, 2025 at 12:28 AM
I'm fucking sick of all the derailment, this shit is about American healthcare is so broken it wants 2 relatives to compete whose condition is actually "real" enough to "deserve" care and I decided my parent's care is more urgent so that makes me selfish? FUCK you coulda got me w it last year but no
If you wanna argue I don't make enough too then ok but how is going into debt to pay a nurse close to 5 figs more than I did "exploitation" not "desperation on my part bc I cannot be a primary dementia caretaker w bipolar if it involves sleeping 80% less than I need to maintain basic function"
December 10, 2025 at 12:26 AM
If you wanna argue I don't make enough too then ok but how is going into debt to pay a nurse close to 5 figs more than I did "exploitation" not "desperation on my part bc I cannot be a primary dementia caretaker w bipolar if it involves sleeping 80% less than I need to maintain basic function"
I continue to love all yall mfs who insist bipolar diagnosis hould automatically trigger mental incompetence designatiom but also shame me that having a nurse for my elder is "exploiting vulnerable workers" when I paid the nurse my entire yearly income PLUS 7K this year before VA coverage kicked in
December 10, 2025 at 12:25 AM
I continue to love all yall mfs who insist bipolar diagnosis hould automatically trigger mental incompetence designatiom but also shame me that having a nurse for my elder is "exploiting vulnerable workers" when I paid the nurse my entire yearly income PLUS 7K this year before VA coverage kicked in
"There are some great low cost options for care!" is some shit they train crisis hotline counselors to say but have you really jad a mf conversation with a court appointed shrink. It's not the same as going to see mf Dr Melfi
December 7, 2025 at 2:27 AM
"There are some great low cost options for care!" is some shit they train crisis hotline counselors to say but have you really jad a mf conversation with a court appointed shrink. It's not the same as going to see mf Dr Melfi
I kinda wanna see a mf's 10 year tax return history before you start making grand pronouncements about other people's mental health options bc "why do you just REFUSE to see your psychiatrist? Selfish!" is the most headass shit in life bc why tf does he REFUSE to work for free
December 7, 2025 at 2:26 AM
I kinda wanna see a mf's 10 year tax return history before you start making grand pronouncements about other people's mental health options bc "why do you just REFUSE to see your psychiatrist? Selfish!" is the most headass shit in life bc why tf does he REFUSE to work for free
"Shame on you for not helping your mom maintain independence" She wouldn't even fart without asking my dad how he felt about it first and now it's my fucking fault too, maybe yall should have gave a fuck when DFCS coulda helped me instead of waiting til my 40s to finally believe me about this shit
December 3, 2025 at 7:11 PM
"Shame on you for not helping your mom maintain independence" She wouldn't even fart without asking my dad how he felt about it first and now it's my fucking fault too, maybe yall should have gave a fuck when DFCS coulda helped me instead of waiting til my 40s to finally believe me about this shit
Another day I'll have a rant about how wildly unconstructive the clinical protocol / stereotype is that all addicts only know other addicts but I'm worn tf out from signing up for half assed health insurance that won't cost double my power bill and still don't cover mental except 5150 related 🤦🏻♀️
December 2, 2025 at 11:39 PM
Another day I'll have a rant about how wildly unconstructive the clinical protocol / stereotype is that all addicts only know other addicts but I'm worn tf out from signing up for half assed health insurance that won't cost double my power bill and still don't cover mental except 5150 related 🤦🏻♀️
I did not qualify for a support group bc it's not enough to have lost someone to OD but you have to know another addict still alive. So I can't come to reg support groups bc my story too "chaotic" and "Jerry Springer" but I can't come to the OD one bc no one else I know is on drugs 🤦🏻♀️
December 2, 2025 at 11:37 PM
I did not qualify for a support group bc it's not enough to have lost someone to OD but you have to know another addict still alive. So I can't come to reg support groups bc my story too "chaotic" and "Jerry Springer" but I can't come to the OD one bc no one else I know is on drugs 🤦🏻♀️
I'm sincerely not tryna yuck anybody's yum but white therapy speak rap is the most upsetting shit I seen all day
December 2, 2025 at 10:29 PM
I'm sincerely not tryna yuck anybody's yum but white therapy speak rap is the most upsetting shit I seen all day
This always happens when a few years have passed after a death and I was too destroyed to fight mfs at first but I realize in retrospect who tried to absolutely loot my sanity and dignity by gleefully kicking me when I was down and then I'm MAD AF YALL ASSUME THAT GRIFT WAS GONNA LAST FOREVER
December 2, 2025 at 6:33 PM
This always happens when a few years have passed after a death and I was too destroyed to fight mfs at first but I realize in retrospect who tried to absolutely loot my sanity and dignity by gleefully kicking me when I was down and then I'm MAD AF YALL ASSUME THAT GRIFT WAS GONNA LAST FOREVER
It's hard not to see thru tracing paper thin cultural bullshit that you want me in therapy if you think I'm white bc self actualization but when you see me as Hispanic I need to sacrifice my entire life nobly in a stupid unnecessary way when there are professionals who can help keep us all alive
December 2, 2025 at 6:32 PM
It's hard not to see thru tracing paper thin cultural bullshit that you want me in therapy if you think I'm white bc self actualization but when you see me as Hispanic I need to sacrifice my entire life nobly in a stupid unnecessary way when there are professionals who can help keep us all alive
In conclusion, fucking wild the people who obviously need help aren't allowed to have it and the ones who are managing fine need to go to Therapy And Lattes capitalist lifestyle affirming talk therapy bc yall edit my race depending on which part of the mental health system is addressing me.
December 2, 2025 at 6:29 PM
In conclusion, fucking wild the people who obviously need help aren't allowed to have it and the ones who are managing fine need to go to Therapy And Lattes capitalist lifestyle affirming talk therapy bc yall edit my race depending on which part of the mental health system is addressing me.
"But mentally ill people are sad tragic incompetents, they should be obsequious and biddable bc they NEED our help!" Yall seem a little scared that the prevalence of neurodivergence is gonna flip one day so the judgemental, shaming, sociopathic fake Christian neurotypicals can't dominate us anymore.
December 2, 2025 at 6:27 PM
"But mentally ill people are sad tragic incompetents, they should be obsequious and biddable bc they NEED our help!" Yall seem a little scared that the prevalence of neurodivergence is gonna flip one day so the judgemental, shaming, sociopathic fake Christian neurotypicals can't dominate us anymore.
That's all tf I have now. If it upsets you this is actually the best I can do with the situation and you probably would have already broke under the weight therefore I'm wrong, simply STOP FUCKING PRYING INTO MY BUSINESS AND SHUT THE FUCK UP ABOUT PEOPLE YOU OFFERING NO HELP ONLY JUDGEMENT. FOH.
December 2, 2025 at 6:25 PM
That's all tf I have now. If it upsets you this is actually the best I can do with the situation and you probably would have already broke under the weight therefore I'm wrong, simply STOP FUCKING PRYING INTO MY BUSINESS AND SHUT THE FUCK UP ABOUT PEOPLE YOU OFFERING NO HELP ONLY JUDGEMENT. FOH.
So it's not enough yall yearn for the return of a racist status quo where only Black and Brown people get shit on and you think America is fair and full of anti-racism Superman. You also cry and shame people carrying more weight how selfish they are to not have the same access as you or be invisible
December 2, 2025 at 6:24 PM
So it's not enough yall yearn for the return of a racist status quo where only Black and Brown people get shit on and you think America is fair and full of anti-racism Superman. You also cry and shame people carrying more weight how selfish they are to not have the same access as you or be invisible
I suspect it's the same mfs who get on here wailing about "I can't believe the GOVERNMENT did an INJUSTICE and no one fixed it and made evetyone happy?! This isn't the America I KNOW!" Exactly bc you're blinded by delusional white privilege that most people have to struggle
December 2, 2025 at 6:22 PM
I suspect it's the same mfs who get on here wailing about "I can't believe the GOVERNMENT did an INJUSTICE and no one fixed it and made evetyone happy?! This isn't the America I KNOW!" Exactly bc you're blinded by delusional white privilege that most people have to struggle
What I think it comes down to is some people mean well but don't respect boundaries and also some people don't mean well and refuse to accept I'm doing the best I can. "But it's not like in this positivity book! EYE am always totes happy so YOU ARE FAILING AND NEED CORRECTION"
December 2, 2025 at 6:20 PM
What I think it comes down to is some people mean well but don't respect boundaries and also some people don't mean well and refuse to accept I'm doing the best I can. "But it's not like in this positivity book! EYE am always totes happy so YOU ARE FAILING AND NEED CORRECTION"
And it's absolutely a function of systemic bullshit "nurses aren't actually a profession anymore, how dare you need student loans for school bc nursing is simple and easy and all women are automatically nurses unless they're DISGUSTING VICTIMS OF FEMINISM WHO EAT PIZZA AND HAVE A CAT "
December 2, 2025 at 6:19 PM
And it's absolutely a function of systemic bullshit "nurses aren't actually a profession anymore, how dare you need student loans for school bc nursing is simple and easy and all women are automatically nurses unless they're DISGUSTING VICTIMS OF FEMINISM WHO EAT PIZZA AND HAVE A CAT "
I've had white Americans tell me it's just my burden to calmly allow my father who never physically abused me as a child stab me to death as an adult bc my life just doesn't matter much bc women exist to be expendable caregivers so maybe don't blame my heritage when yall the ghouls today
December 2, 2025 at 6:17 PM
I've had white Americans tell me it's just my burden to calmly allow my father who never physically abused me as a child stab me to death as an adult bc my life just doesn't matter much bc women exist to be expendable caregivers so maybe don't blame my heritage when yall the ghouls today