They can but they shouldn't, dairy isn't always great for them. It didn't stop those longing looks though.

If you have any malevolent spirits, mischievous fae etc that you want me to wassail along out of 2025, let me know!

No one truly escapes Lincoln...

It's so messy! ##MadSkyChat

I used to do it twice a year but I stopped recently, once you get the clean up routine sorted, it's not too bad and it'll last. #MadSkyChat

I hope tomorrow is better #MadSkyChat

I'm cozy, today was a rest day for me, I henna'd my hair and finished knitting one jumper sleeve, on the cuff of the next one. Just waiting for the henna smell to dissipate and the colour to oxidise!

She's adorable.

But my take is that a healthy partner, even in a poly dynamic, would not want their partner to be distressed, not valued, frightened, dismissed as lying or maligning them. They'd want to understand so they could avoid harming anyone in future.

Maybe she couldn't stop in that monent of high emotion to see how blocking a door, speeding a car or brandishing a nerf gun would be intimidating, especially if she's had to protect herself by being tough. /3

And it gets thornier when a person handling a nerf gun and talking about guns is more likely to be a victim of violence than a perpetrator. That said, firing any weapon suddenly near a naked partner who isn't expecting it is not the behaviour of a considerate lover. /2

That sounds so painful, to not be heard, to be believed. I think everyone can be capable of doing things that are abusive or harmful. And a persons ability to admit to how much of our behaviour is conscious or deliberate can be limited. /1

We survived, I am glad you made it out too.

(I was threatened verbally by an ex with the prospect of him buying a crossbow, the guy later said he didn't mean that he really would use it on me, it was all talk. When I rang the local womens refuge, they were certain that I should gtfo immediately and take steps to keep myself safe.)

It's also testing a partner for compliance, if that partner will accept the handling of weapons in that indirect situation, it softens them for more explicit threats of being shot. 'Jokes' and impulsive gun threats that get walked back later = stages of abuse.

Yep, unless the person obtains your consent to be handling a rifle in advance, handling weapons in a hook up context is how a person intimidates their hook up partner. It's an implicit threat that they could be violent and they want to see your fear.

Love to you, this stuff is not easy

I wish we didn't have this experience, but I am proud we are making the best of our lives anyway.