The next thing is figuring out how I put myself out there appropriately so that I’m not diminishing myself which I’ve done for far too long.

That’s been one of my challenges and it’s done my head in at times, but finally getting it out and written down after doing a bunch of reading, it’s settled things.

Very hot look!

I’m with you. This was a huge revelation and completely threw me for a loop. My brain literally went, “I thought this… oh wait a moment, huh? Huh! That’s what I’ve needed.”
Listening to ourselves and being able to listen to ourselves and accepting how we’re wired is huge.

It all makes sense now. The frustrations, the search, some odd interactions versus where I am today. It all makes sense to me now.
I’m loving this self discovery.

I always knew that in my early years of cruising bathhouses I was searching for connection. Now with also, being hyper sexual it’s easy to miss the messsging if you’re not attuned to who you are. It’s not contrary to be demisexual and hypersexual - there are enough of us out there.

Oh, AND you missed the full text of the comments given Bluesky’s limitations.

The question was put out there, I chose to engage in discussion.

While I’d gladly accept a blowjob from someone on the fly, but for fucking I definitely want to take my time and show them a good time. I’m not really in for a quick fuck, I want that connection.

Absolutely nothing wrong with that and if someone else is butthurt, that’s their problem.

Out of a situation, I realized how much on the Demi spectrum I am and how much I wasn’t satisfied with some of the play I was getting into.

Absolutely nothing wrong with setting boundaries and saying, “This is what I’ve got on offer” and “If you want this? This is what it’s going to take.”

I’d actually identify more as pan as I’m actually quite open to different relationship and play experiences, but ultimately I’d say I’m more “flexible”. 🤷

I have interest in playing with cis women but not really interested in a dating relationship, and not really interested in trans women for play or dating (not out of the realm of possibility, but unlikely). While I could identify as bi, I’d consider that as I form relationships.

Interesting point. I don’t necessarily want a relationship with people of certain genders and gender expression but others I will.

For me, I definitely form relationships with cis and trans men…